Because he actually DID go along with your plan – you’d be surprised at how many guys would say, “you want WHAT? I don’t dance….,” assuming they responded at all. Here, the usual response to such a message would be silence, followed by, um, more silence.

On the off chance that one inadvertently ran into the callee, the response on a face-to-face would be “oh, hi,” followed by (you guessed it!) more silence.

I want to move to New York.

And great point about the fact that *you* initiated things. Just goes to show you how strong the inclination is to want to hear about/believe in romantic interludes happening.