Comments on: apropos http://thisfish.com/apropos/ Found the bike. Not changing the title. Mon, 06 Apr 2026 05:54:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: j http://thisfish.com/apropos/#comment-38180 j Tue, 02 Nov 2010 23:53:46 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1811#comment-38180 <p>I just got married, too... and throughout our planning, on occasion we would look through my new sister-in-law's wedding album from four years ago. Only I never got any ideas or inspiration from it, because I could never stop staring - at that fact that the groom's mother was wearing a floor-length strapless white lace gown. HONESTLY. My sister-in-law was with me when she first showed me the album, and my knee-jerk foot-in-mouth reaction was a very confused, "Is she wearing a wedding dress?" To which my sister-in-law just rolled her eyes and didn't say anything. WEIRD. Who does that????</p> I just got married, too… and throughout our planning, on occasion we would look through my new sister-in-law’s wedding album from four years ago. Only I never got any ideas or inspiration from it, because I could never stop staring – at that fact that the groom’s mother was wearing a floor-length strapless white lace gown. HONESTLY. My sister-in-law was with me when she first showed me the album, and my knee-jerk foot-in-mouth reaction was a very confused, “Is she wearing a wedding dress?” To which my sister-in-law just rolled her eyes and didn’t say anything. WEIRD. Who does that????

]]> By: kitty http://thisfish.com/apropos/#comment-38179 kitty Tue, 02 Nov 2010 05:54:28 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1811#comment-38179 <p>What a challenge you face -- I completely understand. My family has a very obviously Irish last name, and everyone in my dad's generation gave their kids very Irish first names. People who see my ID comment on my name... I'm in sales, and my name is SUCH a good sales name. I would fight <em>tooth and nail</em> to keep it, no matter what. However, it's a much more difficult conversation when it's not hypothetical, and no matter what, you have to be comfortable with the outcome. "Just because it's always been that way" is no answer for anything. Logic like that would have kept women from voting.<br /><br /></p> What a challenge you face — I completely understand. My family has a very obviously Irish last name, and everyone in my dad’s generation gave their kids very Irish first names. People who see my ID comment on my name… I’m in sales, and my name is SUCH a good sales name. I would fight tooth and nail to keep it, no matter what. However, it’s a much more difficult conversation when it’s not hypothetical, and no matter what, you have to be comfortable with the outcome. “Just because it’s always been that way” is no answer for anything. Logic like that would have kept women from voting.

]]> By: Kim http://thisfish.com/apropos/#comment-38178 Kim Tue, 02 Nov 2010 02:07:14 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1811#comment-38178 <p>"I'm accustomed to and proud of being independent, of being fully in charge of me, and it cuts him out of the equation sometimes. Figuring out where I end and he begins means I still have to remind myself to insert him into that equation. I've said it before: math is hard."<br /><br />AMEN! I was reading this last week on my honeymoon, I read it to my boy and just wanted to thank you, it allowed me the opportunity to express how I feel while showing that it's a struggle amongst other women. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!<br /><br />Oh and your post about being with him not belonging to him, once again AMEN, I took his last name, but in all honesty, only because his is waaaay shorter than my own.</p> “I’m accustomed to and proud of being independent, of being fully in charge of me, and it cuts him out of the equation sometimes. Figuring out where I end and he begins means I still have to remind myself to insert him into that equation. I’ve said it before: math is hard.”

AMEN! I was reading this last week on my honeymoon, I read it to my boy and just wanted to thank you, it allowed me the opportunity to express how I feel while showing that it’s a struggle amongst other women. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!

Oh and your post about being with him not belonging to him, once again AMEN, I took his last name, but in all honesty, only because his is waaaay shorter than my own.

]]> By: Carly L http://thisfish.com/apropos/#comment-38177 Carly L Mon, 01 Nov 2010 19:17:44 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1811#comment-38177 <p>that's so nice.. all the best </p> that’s so nice.. all the best

]]> By: Emily http://thisfish.com/apropos/#comment-38176 Emily Mon, 01 Nov 2010 04:08:21 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1811#comment-38176 <p>Hey Heather-</p><br /><br /><p>Greetings from London! Jonathan & I got engaged weeks after we landed here. Today we had a "conversation" on the sidewalk on Oxford Street on how we handle my desire to shop for a/w wardrobe now that we have a shared bank account(Thanks a ton completely chauvenistic UK banking system!). He says- Shop like its your own money. Uh...can I get some clarity? I'm standing outside of Michael Kors for Christ's sake! <br /><br />Do I get budget pre-approval? Does he think he gets to approve each purchase? How do I know he won't come home with a TV the day I buy a winter coat, etc... It was horrible, awkward and... necessary. I'm happy to try in my odd, overtly Germanic last name for his strong, fierce, easy-to-spell last name but sharing money...? Hold your horses, buddy. </p><br /><br /><p>PS- thanks for the inadvertent tip on the ATX antique mart. I'll be there next weekend for my own weddign planning:)</p> Hey Heather-

Greetings from London! Jonathan & I got engaged weeks after we landed here. Today we had a “conversation” on the sidewalk on Oxford Street on how we handle my desire to shop for a/w wardrobe now that we have a shared bank account(Thanks a ton completely chauvenistic UK banking system!). He says- Shop like its your own money. Uh…can I get some clarity? I’m standing outside of Michael Kors for Christ’s sake!

Do I get budget pre-approval? Does he think he gets to approve each purchase? How do I know he won’t come home with a TV the day I buy a winter coat, etc… It was horrible, awkward and… necessary. I’m happy to try in my odd, overtly Germanic last name for his strong, fierce, easy-to-spell last name but sharing money…? Hold your horses, buddy.

PS- thanks for the inadvertent tip on the ATX antique mart. I’ll be there next weekend for my own weddign planning:)

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