Comments on: fights and flights http://thisfish.com/fights-and-flights/ Found the bike. Not changing the title. Mon, 06 Apr 2026 05:54:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: Heather Hunter-MacMillan http://thisfish.com/fights-and-flights/#comment-33690 Heather Hunter-MacMillan Sun, 26 Apr 2009 15:33:06 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1636#comment-33690 <p>Hello - I haven't been here in a couple of years & I just spent the evening catching up. I feel a bit like a lazy stalker.<br /><br />I think I originally found you after googled Heather Hunter (my name - I'm older - I have dibs) and read the blog, and I laughed & Laughed! <br /><br />I'm glad you're still here & I'll try & keep up. I joined the facebook fan page & it will be easier to creep you there! ha ha - really.<br /><br />take care & stay funny,<br /><br />heather hunter-macmillan</p> Hello – I haven’t been here in a couple of years & I just spent the evening catching up. I feel a bit like a lazy stalker.

I think I originally found you after googled Heather Hunter (my name – I’m older – I have dibs) and read the blog, and I laughed & Laughed!

I’m glad you’re still here & I’ll try & keep up. I joined the facebook fan page & it will be easier to creep you there! ha ha – really.

take care & stay funny,

heather hunter-macmillan

]]> By: Tabitha (From Single to Married) http://thisfish.com/fights-and-flights/#comment-33689 Tabitha (From Single to Married) Thu, 23 Apr 2009 00:58:29 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1636#comment-33689 <p>Ahh... I remember the days of meeting the parents. Who, incidentally, also live in Utah (Tooele to be exact). So I feel yours, or your boyfriend's, pain. Good luck!</p> Ahh… I remember the days of meeting the parents. Who, incidentally, also live in Utah (Tooele to be exact). So I feel yours, or your boyfriend’s, pain. Good luck!

]]> By: Lara http://thisfish.com/fights-and-flights/#comment-33688 Lara Wed, 22 Apr 2009 22:25:14 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1636#comment-33688 <p>According to the research (John Gottman, NOT John Gray of men are from mars fame) what matters most is that you have 5 positives to every one negative. There are 3 healthy types of relationships Avoiding (kinda obvious), Validating (listen to each other), and Volatile (fight alot), but these all keep the 5:1 ratio. The only thing that spells doom and gloom are criticism, contempt, and stonewalling.</p><br /><br /><p>(John Gottman has studied LOTS of healthy and non healthy relationships over LOTS of years - trust him more than you would a therapist who has been divorced a lot and only writes about the few couples he sees).</p><br /><br /><p><br /><br />HEATHER - you guys sound just fine and I hope you have a good time.</p> According to the research (John Gottman, NOT John Gray of men are from mars fame) what matters most is that you have 5 positives to every one negative. There are 3 healthy types of relationships Avoiding (kinda obvious), Validating (listen to each other), and Volatile (fight alot), but these all keep the 5:1 ratio. The only thing that spells doom and gloom are criticism, contempt, and stonewalling.

(John Gottman has studied LOTS of healthy and non healthy relationships over LOTS of years – trust him more than you would a therapist who has been divorced a lot and only writes about the few couples he sees).

HEATHER – you guys sound just fine and I hope you have a good time.

]]> By: Don http://thisfish.com/fights-and-flights/#comment-33687 Don Wed, 22 Apr 2009 13:20:22 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1636#comment-33687 <p>Just make sure they don't go hunting together.</p> Just make sure they don’t go hunting together.

]]> By: Kelley http://thisfish.com/fights-and-flights/#comment-33686 Kelley Wed, 22 Apr 2009 13:00:19 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1636#comment-33686 <p>Someone once said the same thing to me - that the test of a relationship is about how you resolve conflict. I completely understand that, however, I am not a fighter & have never enjoyed drama. And neither does my boyfriend. We've been together for 5 years & I can't remember either of us ever raising our voices. We certainly get annoyed with each other & have disagreed on both small & major issues but we're not the type to actually fight. So if you & the Dork Lord don't scream & yell & throw major appliances at each other maybe that's just how you resolve your conflicts. </p><br /><br /><p>Good luck with the family outing.</p> Someone once said the same thing to me – that the test of a relationship is about how you resolve conflict. I completely understand that, however, I am not a fighter & have never enjoyed drama. And neither does my boyfriend. We’ve been together for 5 years & I can’t remember either of us ever raising our voices. We certainly get annoyed with each other & have disagreed on both small & major issues but we’re not the type to actually fight. So if you & the Dork Lord don’t scream & yell & throw major appliances at each other maybe that’s just how you resolve your conflicts.

Good luck with the family outing.

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