Comments on: let us eat cake! http://thisfish.com/let-us-eat-cake/ Found the bike. Not changing the title. Mon, 06 Apr 2026 05:54:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: Bex http://thisfish.com/let-us-eat-cake/#comment-42795 Bex Tue, 10 May 2011 16:12:19 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=2134#comment-42795 I can tell you that last year I did the big, expensive, try-to-make-everyone-happy wedding. And all the people I tried to please in every possible way by making myself crazy and miserable just found new things to judge, critize, and complain about. Good for you for realizing where the priorities need to lay! I was *miserable* at my wedding because I was stressed out about everyone else so hats off to you in putting yourself at the center of your wedding! People will judge no matter what you do, so just relax and enjoy your day, and as long as YOU are happy and your future hubby is happy that is all that *really* matters in the end! I can tell you that last year I did the big, expensive, try-to-make-everyone-happy wedding. And all the people I tried to please in every possible way by making myself crazy and miserable just found new things to judge, critize, and complain about.

Good for you for realizing where the priorities need to lay! I was *miserable* at my wedding because I was stressed out about everyone else so hats off to you in putting yourself at the center of your wedding! People will judge no matter what you do, so just relax and enjoy your day, and as long as YOU are happy and your future hubby is happy that is all that *really* matters in the end!

]]> By: Alyssa (the 41 year-old) http://thisfish.com/let-us-eat-cake/#comment-42767 Alyssa (the 41 year-old) Mon, 09 May 2011 22:31:21 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=2134#comment-42767 Seems to me your priorities are just right! So many people put a ton of work into the wedding and not nearly as much into the actual marriage. Did I ever mention that my hubby and I got married in his folks' living room? And went on our honeymoon with the entire family? That was 10 years ago. What I remember is being surrounded by the people who love us the most. I imagine the Boy will be happy to be married to you, no matter how you get down that aisle. Seems to me your priorities are just right! So many people put a ton of work into the wedding and not nearly as much into the actual marriage.
Did I ever mention that my hubby and I got married in his folks’ living room? And went on our honeymoon with the entire family? That was 10 years ago. What I remember is being surrounded by the people who love us the most.
I imagine the Boy will be happy to be married to you, no matter how you get down that aisle.

]]> By: J http://thisfish.com/let-us-eat-cake/#comment-42762 J Mon, 09 May 2011 18:39:42 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=2134#comment-42762 Agree with all the above commenters!! It's about focusing on the marriage and your excitement to be together - not the details wedding. I got married this fall in one of those enormous parent-financed, parent-detailed weddings (which honestly would not have been what my husband and I would have wanted, had we ever been asked - but I digress). But my guy and I were so focused on how happy we were to be together and marry each other, and were just generally so damned excited - and that was what made it so much fun. Danced and laughed all night together, and it was awesome. Seriously the absolute most fun I have ever had in my life, and our friends still randomly bring up how much fun they had. Often. And the details didn't have anything to do about it. It's all about you and DL being happy and having fun. We actually went to a wedding recently where the bride and her family had been so wrapped up in all the details, it was like they forgot to care about the marriage and didn't actually seem excited at the actual ceremony/reception. It was the weirdest thing. She kept coming up during the reception and telling everybody how worried she was that people weren't having a good time. (Not to mention that when the bride keeps telling you she's worried and upset that people aren't having fun, it makes it hard to actually have fun.) She just seemed to completely lose sight of the fact she had just gotten married and didn't seem excited herself at all. She was running around fretting while her husband was just hanging out with his friends. They're good friends of ours, too, and the whole thing just made me really sad. Bottom line: It's all about your outlook and attitude. Your attitude is awesome, and if you're excited and having fun then everyone around you will be, too. That's all there is to it. Everybody will feel how much love there is, and *that* is what they'll enjoy that day and remember afterward. Agree with all the above commenters!! It’s about focusing on the marriage and your excitement to be together – not the details wedding. I got married this fall in one of those enormous parent-financed, parent-detailed weddings (which honestly would not have been what my husband and I would have wanted, had we ever been asked – but I digress). But my guy and I were so focused on how happy we were to be together and marry each other, and were just generally so damned excited – and that was what made it so much fun. Danced and laughed all night together, and it was awesome. Seriously the absolute most fun I have ever had in my life, and our friends still randomly bring up how much fun they had. Often. And the details didn’t have anything to do about it. It’s all about you and DL being happy and having fun.

We actually went to a wedding recently where the bride and her family had been so wrapped up in all the details, it was like they forgot to care about the marriage and didn’t actually seem excited at the actual ceremony/reception. It was the weirdest thing. She kept coming up during the reception and telling everybody how worried she was that people weren’t having a good time. (Not to mention that when the bride keeps telling you she’s worried and upset that people aren’t having fun, it makes it hard to actually have fun.) She just seemed to completely lose sight of the fact she had just gotten married and didn’t seem excited herself at all. She was running around fretting while her husband was just hanging out with his friends. They’re good friends of ours, too, and the whole thing just made me really sad.

Bottom line: It’s all about your outlook and attitude. Your attitude is awesome, and if you’re excited and having fun then everyone around you will be, too. That’s all there is to it. Everybody will feel how much love there is, and *that* is what they’ll enjoy that day and remember afterward.

]]> By: Red Stethoscope http://thisfish.com/let-us-eat-cake/#comment-42759 Red Stethoscope Mon, 09 May 2011 15:22:29 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=2134#comment-42759 It sounds like your priorities are exactly where they are supposed to be. You have always come across as practical and rational in your blogs. It makes complete sense to me that a house you plan on living in for a looong time is taking priority over a ceremony that will last half a day. It sounds like your priorities are exactly where they are supposed to be. You have always come across as practical and rational in your blogs. It makes complete sense to me that a house you plan on living in for a looong time is taking priority over a ceremony that will last half a day.

]]> By: kc http://thisfish.com/let-us-eat-cake/#comment-42713 kc Sat, 07 May 2011 22:49:42 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=2134#comment-42713 awwww Heather, all of this just means that you are doing it right! You must think of the center of things - if the center is the theme than what's the point of the marriage? You, my girl, are centering on what matters, the DL and you. Even down to planning the honeymoon, it's all about the two of you together. I believe it is going to be fantastic!!! The people who love you, will be in awe of how beautiful the wedding is just because of how much love is surrounding it. Much love, kc awwww Heather, all of this just means that you are doing it right! You must think of the center of things – if the center is the theme than what’s the point of the marriage? You, my girl, are centering on what matters, the DL and you. Even down to planning the honeymoon, it’s all about the two of you together. I believe it is going to be fantastic!!! The people who love you, will be in awe of how beautiful the wedding is just because of how much love is surrounding it. Much love, kc

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