Comments on: mess up my bed with me http://thisfish.com/mess-up-my-bed-with-me/ Found the bike. Not changing the title. Mon, 06 Apr 2026 05:54:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: John http://thisfish.com/mess-up-my-bed-with-me/#comment-20780 John Wed, 03 Jan 2007 12:35:42 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1306#comment-20780 <p>I never thought I would come back and leave a comment on a blog over a month old, but I thought it was fitting, considering how I said that sometimes men can think too much.</p><br /><br /><p>Right about now I'm having another case of the overthinking yet again. Not that I am asking you for advice or the sorts, considering that we all have problems of our own. Just thought I'd share nonetheless: <a href="http://sthalcyon.blogspot.com/2007/01/first-butterflies-for-2007.html">Link</a>. Sigh...</p> I never thought I would come back and leave a comment on a blog over a month old, but I thought it was fitting, considering how I said that sometimes men can think too much.

Right about now I’m having another case of the overthinking yet again. Not that I am asking you for advice or the sorts, considering that we all have problems of our own. Just thought I’d share nonetheless: Link. Sigh…

]]> By: Bill http://thisfish.com/mess-up-my-bed-with-me/#comment-20779 Bill Wed, 13 Dec 2006 22:13:13 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1306#comment-20779 <p>Everyone - male and female - is really looking for that deep inner connectedness that feels like home. Men DO think about such things but will rarely make themselves vulnerable if they do not feel safe - the macho thing is a just a facade that hides fear. The passionate spontaneity that Heather describes is the result of a non-mental understanding - the kind of intuition that comes from "seeing" someone underneath the annoying surface junk that blurrs true insight. The trick is to find someone who is not self-centered - a giver not a taker. Someone who gives freely because they truly "see" the other person and the mutual connectedness draws such spontaneity in a natural way. I had that once - a long time ago - every part of me aches because I miss it.</p> Everyone – male and female – is really looking for that deep inner connectedness that feels like home. Men DO think about such things but will rarely make themselves vulnerable if they do not feel safe – the macho thing is a just a facade that hides fear. The passionate spontaneity that Heather describes is the result of a non-mental understanding – the kind of intuition that comes from “seeing” someone underneath the annoying surface junk that blurrs true insight. The trick is to find someone who is not self-centered – a giver not a taker. Someone who gives freely because they truly “see” the other person and the mutual connectedness draws such spontaneity in a natural way. I had that once – a long time ago – every part of me aches because I miss it.

]]> By: Mike http://thisfish.com/mess-up-my-bed-with-me/#comment-20778 Mike Mon, 11 Dec 2006 22:51:00 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1306#comment-20778 <p>Here is a comment; every woman seems to be looking for that perfect man. The most of them say that they keep meeting jerks,. And they all want to meet the nice guys. Well here is the way it appears to be to me. The guy you described that wants to sit down and be your girlfriend and your lover. He is the nice guy. He is just in a stage of devilment. He needs some one to show him how to change and become that better boyfriend. But this also means your most likely not going to end up with him. You’re preparing him for his next relationship. When he finally reaches that balance he will settle down and get married. That goes for women to, men need to show women what they need to do to become ready to settle down. For every bad relationship a person takes a few steps backwards and needs to be reminded on what a good significant other is. Not saying every one ends up in the same place but your going to have a lasting and loving relationship if you can find this middle ground.</p> Here is a comment; every woman seems to be looking for that perfect man. The most of them say that they keep meeting jerks,. And they all want to meet the nice guys. Well here is the way it appears to be to me. The guy you described that wants to sit down and be your girlfriend and your lover. He is the nice guy. He is just in a stage of devilment. He needs some one to show him how to change and become that better boyfriend. But this also means your most likely not going to end up with him. You’re preparing him for his next relationship. When he finally reaches that balance he will settle down and get married. That goes for women to, men need to show women what they need to do to become ready to settle down. For every bad relationship a person takes a few steps backwards and needs to be reminded on what a good significant other is. Not saying every one ends up in the same place but your going to have a lasting and loving relationship if you can find this middle ground.

]]> By: Tom http://thisfish.com/mess-up-my-bed-with-me/#comment-20777 Tom Sun, 10 Dec 2006 14:32:02 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1306#comment-20777 <p>Even a person who makes your heart pound will turn things all tepid and cerebral if they suddenly decide to understand you. There's a reason no one ever says "understand me!" in the depths of passion. </p><br /><br /><p>But when you've been together, you don't just *happen* to be good companions. You make a deliberate effort to be good company in ways that are just for them. It flows from understanding.</p><br /><br /><p>And...honestly? Even on a first date it matters. Great flirting can be very mindful, even though it's based on what you're just now learning about her. You can't *flirt with* a woman who doesn't enliven your mind along with everything else. You can only feed her good lines. That's not chemistry. That's sales. </p><br /><br /><p>Hot is hot and all, but hot + intriguing = perfection. </p><br /><br /><p>(Sometimes even dim-witted people can be interesting for an hour or two, just by acting inscrutable.)</p> Even a person who makes your heart pound will turn things all tepid and cerebral if they suddenly decide to understand you. There’s a reason no one ever says “understand me!” in the depths of passion.

But when you’ve been together, you don’t just *happen* to be good companions. You make a deliberate effort to be good company in ways that are just for them. It flows from understanding.

And…honestly? Even on a first date it matters. Great flirting can be very mindful, even though it’s based on what you’re just now learning about her. You can’t *flirt with* a woman who doesn’t enliven your mind along with everything else. You can only feed her good lines. That’s not chemistry. That’s sales.

Hot is hot and all, but hot + intriguing = perfection.

(Sometimes even dim-witted people can be interesting for an hour or two, just by acting inscrutable.)

]]> By: seelvya http://thisfish.com/mess-up-my-bed-with-me/#comment-20776 seelvya Sat, 09 Dec 2006 01:20:13 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1306#comment-20776 <p>that's hilarious!you write in a so lovely way!!have you ever think to write a novel?</p> that’s hilarious!you write in a so lovely way!!have you ever think to write a novel?

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