Comments on: not the feelings-suppression age http://thisfish.com/not-the-feelings-suppression-age/ Found the bike. Not changing the title. Mon, 06 Apr 2026 05:54:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: Lil D http://thisfish.com/not-the-feelings-suppression-age/#comment-35619 Lil D Mon, 22 Feb 2010 10:24:14 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1722#comment-35619 <p>Ugh! Just be glad that you've got your siblings to rely on. My Mom has been going through what you're going through with her parents her whole life, too, but instead of having siblings to bitch about it with she has a brother who is just as depressed and self-medicated as they are. Good luck dealing with it, I know from watching my Mom how hard it all can be.</p> Ugh! Just be glad that you’ve got your siblings to rely on. My Mom has been going through what you’re going through with her parents her whole life, too, but instead of having siblings to bitch about it with she has a brother who is just as depressed and self-medicated as they are. Good luck dealing with it, I know from watching my Mom how hard it all can be.

]]> By: Traci http://thisfish.com/not-the-feelings-suppression-age/#comment-35618 Traci Fri, 12 Feb 2010 06:46:20 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1722#comment-35618 <p>I'm so grateful for your post and to see the community of readers express their candor as well. I think another couple ounces of guilt just fell away. And my 20's may have been so much more productive if armed with this blog post community, and the book "He's Just Not That Into You." :) Oh well, here I am at the tailend of the 30's, but at least I've finally evolved into a emotionally stable adult. Unfortunately, my Mom and Dad did not evolve with me. </p><br /><br /><p>Also, if you are able to accept your family as "dysfunctional," but with some low points that hurt. Yet, you still know you can count on them in your most desperate moments - you are not talking about the same type of parental relationships I, and I think most responders here, are talking about. I was able let go of my situation with more peace when I realized I was losing my mind trying to mend the relationship - and I was the only one. And, though the message was attempted to be delivered to me numerous times by my mom, I'm still unwilling to accept "blood" as an excuse for bad behavior. You earn forgiveness, and relationships, you can't demand them. </p> I’m so grateful for your post and to see the community of readers express their candor as well. I think another couple ounces of guilt just fell away. And my 20′s may have been so much more productive if armed with this blog post community, and the book “He’s Just Not That Into You.” :) Oh well, here I am at the tailend of the 30′s, but at least I’ve finally evolved into a emotionally stable adult. Unfortunately, my Mom and Dad did not evolve with me.

Also, if you are able to accept your family as “dysfunctional,” but with some low points that hurt. Yet, you still know you can count on them in your most desperate moments – you are not talking about the same type of parental relationships I, and I think most responders here, are talking about. I was able let go of my situation with more peace when I realized I was losing my mind trying to mend the relationship – and I was the only one. And, though the message was attempted to be delivered to me numerous times by my mom, I’m still unwilling to accept “blood” as an excuse for bad behavior. You earn forgiveness, and relationships, you can’t demand them.

]]> By: Seembs http://thisfish.com/not-the-feelings-suppression-age/#comment-35617 Seembs Mon, 08 Feb 2010 07:32:12 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1722#comment-35617 <p>Thanks for this post. I've secretly wondered in the past whether I would inherit the unstable gene from my mom. When I was living with my mom, I constantly felt like I was living a lie, because we always pretended like she was ok and everything was fine. My sister and I talk about it but we don't know what to do about it. I almost didn't want to get married and have a wedding, because I was worried about being embarassed in front of my in-laws. My husband's "normal" family seems weird and out of place to me because they share their feelings, and my family experience has taught me to do quite a lot of "feelings suppression". <br /><br /> <br /><br />I ran out of patience with this whole situation a long time ago. And I've always felt guilty about it. But I can't help it. I'm sorry, but I have my own issues to deal with. I want my mom to be my parent, not the other way around. Thanks for saying it out loud for all of us that we're not bad people for feeling like this.</p> Thanks for this post. I’ve secretly wondered in the past whether I would inherit the unstable gene from my mom. When I was living with my mom, I constantly felt like I was living a lie, because we always pretended like she was ok and everything was fine. My sister and I talk about it but we don’t know what to do about it. I almost didn’t want to get married and have a wedding, because I was worried about being embarassed in front of my in-laws. My husband’s “normal” family seems weird and out of place to me because they share their feelings, and my family experience has taught me to do quite a lot of “feelings suppression”.

I ran out of patience with this whole situation a long time ago. And I’ve always felt guilty about it. But I can’t help it. I’m sorry, but I have my own issues to deal with. I want my mom to be my parent, not the other way around. Thanks for saying it out loud for all of us that we’re not bad people for feeling like this.

]]> By: Saundra http://thisfish.com/not-the-feelings-suppression-age/#comment-35616 Saundra Thu, 04 Feb 2010 12:51:51 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1722#comment-35616 <p>First, I adore your blog. It always makes my day. This post really strikes home. My parents are in the middle of a divorce and the whole unstable parents/suicidal parents emotions - I totally get it and reading your thoughts make me feel justified. I am totally losing patience and I feel like I am a bitch for it, but I don't know what to do about it. Why do parents get to be unstable? aren't we the kids? aren't we supposed to be unstable and irresponsible? I was totally prepared to take care of my mom when she was like 75 and I was like 50, but not now, when I'm 26.... <br /><br />Anyway, just to say - I totally get it and you are totally right - we just have to love them for who they are. <br /><br />Thanks for being awesome. </p> First, I adore your blog. It always makes my day. This post really strikes home. My parents are in the middle of a divorce and the whole unstable parents/suicidal parents emotions – I totally get it and reading your thoughts make me feel justified. I am totally losing patience and I feel like I am a bitch for it, but I don’t know what to do about it. Why do parents get to be unstable? aren’t we the kids? aren’t we supposed to be unstable and irresponsible? I was totally prepared to take care of my mom when she was like 75 and I was like 50, but not now, when I’m 26….

Anyway, just to say – I totally get it and you are totally right – we just have to love them for who they are.

Thanks for being awesome.

]]> By: Paws4me http://thisfish.com/not-the-feelings-suppression-age/#comment-35615 Paws4me Tue, 02 Feb 2010 22:08:42 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1722#comment-35615 <p>Go Fish! Love your blog.</p> Go Fish! Love your blog.

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