Comments on: perhaps http://thisfish.com/perhaps/ Found the bike. Not changing the title. Mon, 06 Apr 2026 05:54:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: snowshoe http://thisfish.com/perhaps/#comment-2763 snowshoe Fri, 31 Oct 2003 23:27:45 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=495#comment-2763 <p>i'm pretty sure my father is lurking on my blog and as a result i feel stiffled to be able to vent about my relationship with him. <br /><br />i hope you and your mama patch things up. she has to understand one thing. your blog is almost equivalent to your diary. it's your place to put down your thoughts. yes, it's available to the public to see, but her reading it and feeling wounded is in many ways something she brought on herself. would she have waltzed into your room, read your paper diary and reacted the same way?<br /><br />maybe yes, maybe no. it's hard to say. i think my family is more cavalier about reading my online journal than they would be about reading any paper diary i kept.<br /><br />personally, i am just glad that human kind has not developed the ability to read minds yet. i'd be in a world of hurt.<br /><br />hang in there!</p> i’m pretty sure my father is lurking on my blog and as a result i feel stiffled to be able to vent about my relationship with him.

i hope you and your mama patch things up. she has to understand one thing. your blog is almost equivalent to your diary. it’s your place to put down your thoughts. yes, it’s available to the public to see, but her reading it and feeling wounded is in many ways something she brought on herself. would she have waltzed into your room, read your paper diary and reacted the same way?

maybe yes, maybe no. it’s hard to say. i think my family is more cavalier about reading my online journal than they would be about reading any paper diary i kept.

personally, i am just glad that human kind has not developed the ability to read minds yet. i’d be in a world of hurt.

hang in there!

]]> By: Michael http://thisfish.com/perhaps/#comment-2762 Michael Fri, 31 Oct 2003 23:04:32 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=495#comment-2762 <p>No one likes to find that they are being talked about "behind their back" (not exactly in this case), much less to find out that what's been said is unflattering. </p><br /><br /><p>That being said, I don't know that it matters so much, considering not many of us know your name and so have no idea who she is. I mean, how many of your real-life friends are even going to meet her? </p><br /><br /><p>But that doesn't mean she can let it go so easy. But I hope she does get over it so you can have some sort of relationship. Even if it's not great.</p> No one likes to find that they are being talked about “behind their back” (not exactly in this case), much less to find out that what’s been said is unflattering.

That being said, I don’t know that it matters so much, considering not many of us know your name and so have no idea who she is. I mean, how many of your real-life friends are even going to meet her?

But that doesn’t mean she can let it go so easy. But I hope she does get over it so you can have some sort of relationship. Even if it’s not great.

]]> By: moire http://thisfish.com/perhaps/#comment-2761 moire Fri, 31 Oct 2003 22:45:49 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=495#comment-2761 <p>At some point, even parents have to be held responsible for their actions.</p> At some point, even parents have to be held responsible for their actions.

]]> By: Nicole http://thisfish.com/perhaps/#comment-2760 Nicole Fri, 31 Oct 2003 21:11:39 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=495#comment-2760 <p>Fish,</p><br /><br /><p>I'm sorry to hear about the UMF issues, but I think you have the right attitude. Hopefully your mom will be able to see that eventually. Best of luck. (Also, I agree that not all mothers are precious. Just because a woman gives birth doesn't mean she's capable of really being a mother.)</p> Fish,

I’m sorry to hear about the UMF issues, but I think you have the right attitude. Hopefully your mom will be able to see that eventually. Best of luck. (Also, I agree that not all mothers are precious. Just because a woman gives birth doesn’t mean she’s capable of really being a mother.)

]]> By: sassylittlepunkin http://thisfish.com/perhaps/#comment-2759 sassylittlepunkin Fri, 31 Oct 2003 20:32:29 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=495#comment-2759 <p>unfortunately, not all mothers and not all fathers are precious. my experience with my father last week and how he felt portrayed on my blog is in the same vein as your experience with your mom, fish, or so it sounds. when we say things that we think twice about and they concern people who should be or are very close to us, we tend to second guess our own intentions. i will not offer you advice, but understanding, and the hope that you not look back in time and devalue your own thoughts, opinions and feelings. i know my dad didn't understand the function of the blog, and how as "public personas" we walk a fine line between fiction and truth. i'm around anytime you need someone to chat with! take care, much love to you.</p> unfortunately, not all mothers and not all fathers are precious. my experience with my father last week and how he felt portrayed on my blog is in the same vein as your experience with your mom, fish, or so it sounds. when we say things that we think twice about and they concern people who should be or are very close to us, we tend to second guess our own intentions. i will not offer you advice, but understanding, and the hope that you not look back in time and devalue your own thoughts, opinions and feelings. i know my dad didn’t understand the function of the blog, and how as “public personas” we walk a fine line between fiction and truth. i’m around anytime you need someone to chat with! take care, much love to you.

]]>