Comments on: the pillow pirate http://thisfish.com/the-pillow-pirate/ Found the bike. Not changing the title. Mon, 06 Apr 2026 05:54:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: Naomi http://thisfish.com/the-pillow-pirate/#comment-33348 Naomi Thu, 12 Mar 2009 08:55:40 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1619#comment-33348 <p>Do you want to know what is nice about being married for nearly a whole year? </p><br /><br /><p>It's that all those times in the early days that I didn't criticize him, all those times I (like you) thought about what was more important and chose not to whine like a toddler, they all paid off! I'm not saying, hide your true personality and maybe you'll get a marriage proposal. I'm saying that you might spend the first year together struggling to stay nice and to be the selfless person. Then you get to spend the next rest of your life gently saying "sweetie? do you mind if I have the polka-dot pillow and you have this other one?" and he won't mind at all because you've spent so much time making sure he knows you care. It will just keep getting better and better.</p> Do you want to know what is nice about being married for nearly a whole year?

It’s that all those times in the early days that I didn’t criticize him, all those times I (like you) thought about what was more important and chose not to whine like a toddler, they all paid off! I’m not saying, hide your true personality and maybe you’ll get a marriage proposal. I’m saying that you might spend the first year together struggling to stay nice and to be the selfless person. Then you get to spend the next rest of your life gently saying “sweetie? do you mind if I have the polka-dot pillow and you have this other one?” and he won’t mind at all because you’ve spent so much time making sure he knows you care. It will just keep getting better and better.

]]> By: Anonymous http://thisfish.com/the-pillow-pirate/#comment-33347 Anonymous Wed, 11 Mar 2009 00:15:37 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1619#comment-33347 <p>Oh, stop over-analyzing. One, he doesn't read the blog. Not on any sort of regular basis. He gives me plenty of space to write what I want. Two, I'm not trying to create boundaries (jeez louise, you people and your amateur psychology). When I feel something is actually important enough to discuss, I bring it up. The pillow thing? Not important. Which was the point of the post. That and obviously what a sainted martyr I am.</p><br /><br /><p>I officially roll my eyes at you.</p> Oh, stop over-analyzing. One, he doesn’t read the blog. Not on any sort of regular basis. He gives me plenty of space to write what I want. Two, I’m not trying to create boundaries (jeez louise, you people and your amateur psychology). When I feel something is actually important enough to discuss, I bring it up. The pillow thing? Not important. Which was the point of the post. That and obviously what a sainted martyr I am.

I officially roll my eyes at you.

]]> By: Another Guy http://thisfish.com/the-pillow-pirate/#comment-33346 Another Guy Tue, 10 Mar 2009 23:50:05 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1619#comment-33346 <p>A couple of people have pointed out that you've taken a martyr role in this scenario. That's only half the issue. You've actually busted straight into passive-aggressive. I'm going to assume that your boyfriend knows and reads your blog. This whole post is nothing but a passive-aggressive means of trying to create boundaries. If I were your boyfriend and read this, I'd be a little pissed that you didn't just ask for the pillow when you wanted it.</p> A couple of people have pointed out that you’ve taken a martyr role in this scenario. That’s only half the issue. You’ve actually busted straight into passive-aggressive. I’m going to assume that your boyfriend knows and reads your blog. This whole post is nothing but a passive-aggressive means of trying to create boundaries. If I were your boyfriend and read this, I’d be a little pissed that you didn’t just ask for the pillow when you wanted it.

]]> By: Jodie http://thisfish.com/the-pillow-pirate/#comment-33345 Jodie Tue, 10 Mar 2009 09:54:39 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1619#comment-33345 <p>I've been in your shoes... twice, living with boyfriends. It gets easier. Life is simpler without all your stuff. Just put it in storage and you can live without it for quite awhile. DON'T GIVE AWAY YOUR STUFF! Just in case. You never know... I didn't expect to break up with them either, but it happened twice before I married my 1st husband. He was the real mistake... that's another story. I'm happily married now (since age 41) to the man of my dreams, really. It just took a long time to find my prince who some may think is a toad. I don't care what they say... when you find true love you do know it. The problem is when they don't feel the same way about you. :-) Hugs from Jodie... PS. Ask your mom about my hubby. Then you'll understand.</p> I’ve been in your shoes… twice, living with boyfriends. It gets easier. Life is simpler without all your stuff. Just put it in storage and you can live without it for quite awhile. DON’T GIVE AWAY YOUR STUFF! Just in case. You never know… I didn’t expect to break up with them either, but it happened twice before I married my 1st husband. He was the real mistake… that’s another story. I’m happily married now (since age 41) to the man of my dreams, really. It just took a long time to find my prince who some may think is a toad. I don’t care what they say… when you find true love you do know it. The problem is when they don’t feel the same way about you. :-) Hugs from Jodie… PS. Ask your mom about my hubby. Then you’ll understand.

]]> By: Thush http://thisfish.com/the-pillow-pirate/#comment-33344 Thush Tue, 10 Mar 2009 09:02:05 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1619#comment-33344 <p>I've commented a few times before, but just need to say again, your blog really does make me feel better. There will be periods where I don't read it because life gets in the way, but on a day like today when I'm feeling really down (about a man of course!), it's such a comforting feeling to keep reading your posts. Have followed all your ups and downs over the years, and all those days of brave singledom, and am so glad you are happily in love now!Gives us hope! :-)Not that the end all and be all of our existence should be a man,but sometimes it's just...nice. So keep up the great work, Fish!</p> I’ve commented a few times before, but just need to say again, your blog really does make me feel better. There will be periods where I don’t read it because life gets in the way, but on a day like today when I’m feeling really down (about a man of course!), it’s such a comforting feeling to keep reading your posts. Have followed all your ups and downs over the years, and all those days of brave singledom, and am so glad you are happily in love now!Gives us hope! :-) Not that the end all and be all of our existence should be a man,but sometimes it’s just…nice. So keep up the great work, Fish!

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