Comments on: yep

By: kc

kc — Wed, 19 Jan 2011 01:45:17 +0000

Fish…hang in there! As hard as it is to understand his dog was probably one of his “safe” places. Eventually you will be the center of his safe place – it just takes time to get there. as for his yep, as hard as it is not to take that so personally he probably just needs to grieve.

I’m sorry its a tough time right now for both of you!

By: Sarah Q

Sarah Q — Mon, 17 Jan 2011 17:42:51 +0000

We lost our dog last September, due to an accident. While he was the family dog, and loved everyone, the connection between him and my husband was deep and profound. While I was able to grieve and adjust to the new emptiness in our home, my husband struggled with it, and continues to struggle with it four months later. There’s nothing that I can say or do that makes it any easier for him. So instead of trying to help him, I’ve just decided to back off, give him time, and allow him to process this the way he needs to. It can be very frustrating, and heartbreaking.

I think that the part that was hardest for him in those first few weeks was not being at home without the dog, it was those first few moments after coming home, when there was no happy, wiggly, over the top doggy love to great him at the door.

By: Kelley

Kelley — Mon, 17 Jan 2011 05:36:25 +0000

I feel for you both. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 7 years & 2 years ago we lost his a-MAZ-ing cat, whom he had had for 13 years. He was devastated for quite some time. 2+ years later he’s still gun shy about getting more animals because he’s “afraid he won’t love them as much.” I really think men take much longer to heal after all kinds of hurt. Just bare with him. And I’m so sorry because I know it’s hard for you to lose your pet & to see how he’s handling it. Good luck.

By: Lawyerchik

Lawyerchik — Sun, 16 Jan 2011 17:39:15 +0000

I am so sorry – hang in there, though. He’s known that dog longer than he’s known you, and unlike friends, you don’t usually fight with dogs. They’re always there, always on your side, and pretty much focused on very simple things like eating, sleeping, chasing things, and not getting too far away from you. Very uncomplicated. Give him time. (I’m being bossy – sorry! I know you will…..) It will be OK.

By: Anna

Anna — Sun, 16 Jan 2011 12:43:41 +0000

Hi Heather,

I’m so sorry for your loss. Losing a pet is a really difficult thing – I’m an only child and my first dog ever (whom I had since I was 7) died when he was 17 a few years back and I felt like I’ve lost a sibling. I had other (younger) dogs, but still, home wasn’t the same. It was similar to Sarlic, we knew our dog was sick for a while and was getting very old, but still really, really painful.

This post most definitely made me cry, more so than the post about Sarlic a couple of days ago, because it reminded me of getting my dog’s ashes back. Even though that did offer some closure, our house was very gloomy for a while – such a cliche but there’s nothing but time that would heal this.

I wish you and Chris best of luck, I think you guys are so well-suited to each other but probably need time to let this heal.