Comments on: ‘yuppie greed’ isn’t back – it never left http://thisfish.com/yuppie-greed-isnt-back-it-never-left/ Found the bike. Not changing the title. Mon, 06 Apr 2026 05:54:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: Angie http://thisfish.com/yuppie-greed-isnt-back-it-never-left/#comment-37991 Angie Tue, 19 Oct 2010 11:18:54 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1804#comment-37991 <p>Pretend you're inviting the person to the party over the phone. Would you feel comfortable saying "come celebrate with us! Our baby is going to be ____ years old! Please refer to our registry at:......"<br /><br />If that conversation would make you squirm (and it should) then you shouldn't include it in the invitation.<br /><br />Registries make sense for a wedding or new baby as they are huge life altering events that require many necessities to prepare. <br /><br />however, as another person put it... “birthdays (and other gift-giving holidays) should involve gifts from the heart of the giver, not a requested list from the prospective recipient.”<br /><br />A birthday registry is a very transparent way for parents to ask friends and family to foot the bill for the things they would otherwise have to go out and buy (like new school clothes, that xbox game they beg you for every hour, or age appropriate toys because lil’ Johnny isn’t amused with his blocks anymore).<br /><br />A registry also teaches the child that a birthday party is just a way to get “stuff”. Think about it… you have to sit the child down and say… “okay, what do you want auntie Kathy to bring you when she comes to visit on your birthday?” yuck!<br /><br />The present is not the reason for the party. It is to celebrate the birth and life of the child. Yes, we all bring presents but being basically told to do so is tacky.<br /><br />Just because the stores have a registry for almost everything, doesn't mean they are appropriate.<br /><br /></p> Pretend you’re inviting the person to the party over the phone. Would you feel comfortable saying “come celebrate with us! Our baby is going to be ____ years old! Please refer to our registry at:……”

If that conversation would make you squirm (and it should) then you shouldn’t include it in the invitation.

Registries make sense for a wedding or new baby as they are huge life altering events that require many necessities to prepare.

however, as another person put it… “birthdays (and other gift-giving holidays) should involve gifts from the heart of the giver, not a requested list from the prospective recipient.”

A birthday registry is a very transparent way for parents to ask friends and family to foot the bill for the things they would otherwise have to go out and buy (like new school clothes, that xbox game they beg you for every hour, or age appropriate toys because lil’ Johnny isn’t amused with his blocks anymore).

A registry also teaches the child that a birthday party is just a way to get “stuff”. Think about it… you have to sit the child down and say… “okay, what do you want auntie Kathy to bring you when she comes to visit on your birthday?” yuck!

The present is not the reason for the party. It is to celebrate the birth and life of the child. Yes, we all bring presents but being basically told to do so is tacky.

Just because the stores have a registry for almost everything, doesn’t mean they are appropriate.

]]> By: Anonymous http://thisfish.com/yuppie-greed-isnt-back-it-never-left/#comment-37990 Anonymous Mon, 18 Oct 2010 19:46:59 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1804#comment-37990 <p>Exactly.</p><br /><br /><p>We just got another invitation, this one to an open house, letting us know gifts are welcome. Yarf! Everyone KNOWS to bring a gift. The only time you mention gifts is when they AREN'T welcome, as in, "No gifts, please." </p> Exactly.

We just got another invitation, this one to an open house, letting us know gifts are welcome. Yarf! Everyone KNOWS to bring a gift. The only time you mention gifts is when they AREN’T welcome, as in, “No gifts, please.”

]]> By: Danielle M http://thisfish.com/yuppie-greed-isnt-back-it-never-left/#comment-37989 Danielle M Sat, 16 Oct 2010 09:36:13 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1804#comment-37989 <p>Cole -the point is, you can register for anything you want. But you don't put a registry in an invitation unless it is for a shower. Not even a wedding invitation. It is very bad form. If someone wants to buy you a gift, and they ask you can say, you have a registry. But you simply don't put a registry in an invitation. </p> Cole -the point is, you can register for anything you want. But you don’t put a registry in an invitation unless it is for a shower. Not even a wedding invitation. It is very bad form. If someone wants to buy you a gift, and they ask you can say, you have a registry. But you simply don’t put a registry in an invitation.

]]> By: nik http://thisfish.com/yuppie-greed-isnt-back-it-never-left/#comment-37988 nik Fri, 15 Oct 2010 22:35:03 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1804#comment-37988 <p>Cole- if you are in fact the "host of said party" it is beyond rude to defriend someone and then issue an invite to a party for your child. If this person isn't important enough to be your friend then they shouldn't be invited period. </p> Cole- if you are in fact the “host of said party” it is beyond rude to defriend someone and then issue an invite to a party for your child. If this person isn’t important enough to be your friend then they shouldn’t be invited period.

]]> By: JJ http://thisfish.com/yuppie-greed-isnt-back-it-never-left/#comment-37987 JJ Fri, 15 Oct 2010 07:23:32 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1804#comment-37987 <p>Re: Cole</p><br /><br /><p>Why would anyone who has been UNfriended on Facebook get an invite "out of courtesy"? The courtesy of providing a nice little selection from the registry, obviously. A registry is not a wish list. Gift information is not sent with the invitation. Period. Also, you need to educate yourself on what the word "blog" means.</p><br /><br /><p>cole said:</p><br /><br /><p>Well, being the host of said party, let me clear the "blog" on a couple of things.</p><br /><br /><p>The "registry" was made at the request of several other guests. It was a wish list, and was never intended to suggest that anyone should even bring a gift...</p><br /><br /><p>Of course, if you were de-friended on Facebook, perhaps you only received your invite out of courtesy. In an attempt to avoid the "why I didn't get invited to the birthday party" blog, perhaps?</p><br /><br /><p><br /><br /></p> Re: Cole

Why would anyone who has been UNfriended on Facebook get an invite “out of courtesy”? The courtesy of providing a nice little selection from the registry, obviously. A registry is not a wish list. Gift information is not sent with the invitation. Period. Also, you need to educate yourself on what the word “blog” means.

cole said:

Well, being the host of said party, let me clear the “blog” on a couple of things.

The “registry” was made at the request of several other guests. It was a wish list, and was never intended to suggest that anyone should even bring a gift…

Of course, if you were de-friended on Facebook, perhaps you only received your invite out of courtesy. In an attempt to avoid the “why I didn’t get invited to the birthday party” blog, perhaps?

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