Comments on: hitting house https://thisfish.com/hitting-house/ Found the bike. Not changing the title. Mon, 06 Apr 2026 05:54:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: Katherine https://thisfish.com/hitting-house/#comment-1210 Katherine Wed, 11 Jun 2003 12:17:58 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=347#comment-1210 <p>"And also maybe because this generation should be free to talk about things our parents are too ashamed to." </p><br /><br /><p>I realize this is an older entry, but I'm catching up on your archives.</p><br /><br /><p>I'm starting a journey through a book called "Long Shadows - truth, lies and history" by Erna Paris. And the quote of yours above reminds me of something she emphasizes - that victims always outlive their tormenters. Either they survive beyond the regimes that perpetuated lies and enforced silence, or they are unearthed by future generations who will delve and tell the story. Truth is eventually revealed. It's important to tell one's truth, and you do it admirably, hitting the nail on the head regularly. Your mother would do well not to be her own excuser (even if she has a point, it's for her shrink to hear, not the children she burdened; the rule at large being...that adults must be responsible for their actions). To you and your siblings, she should ask how she can make it up to you...the how being up to you. But it sounds like your mother resorts to self-pity when it's convenient and is unwilling to unravel her scary neuroses. It's amazing that you came out of her unenlightened being; you're transcendent.</p> “And also maybe because this generation should be free to talk about things our parents are too ashamed to.”

I realize this is an older entry, but I’m catching up on your archives.

I’m starting a journey through a book called “Long Shadows – truth, lies and history” by Erna Paris. And the quote of yours above reminds me of something she emphasizes – that victims always outlive their tormenters. Either they survive beyond the regimes that perpetuated lies and enforced silence, or they are unearthed by future generations who will delve and tell the story. Truth is eventually revealed. It’s important to tell one’s truth, and you do it admirably, hitting the nail on the head regularly. Your mother would do well not to be her own excuser (even if she has a point, it’s for her shrink to hear, not the children she burdened; the rule at large being…that adults must be responsible for their actions). To you and your siblings, she should ask how she can make it up to you…the how being up to you. But it sounds like your mother resorts to self-pity when it’s convenient and is unwilling to unravel her scary neuroses. It’s amazing that you came out of her unenlightened being; you’re transcendent.

]]> By: sTEVE https://thisfish.com/hitting-house/#comment-1209 sTEVE Thu, 03 Apr 2003 16:20:05 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=347#comment-1209 <p>can only post general comment as I stumbled accross by accident about 20 minutes ago when looking for serious info on bone eating diseases illnesses.Its a long story & not me & am not a Doctor. Have now saved you on favourites to read later because what has been read is obviously written from within & is the sort of stuff that has us all nodding in agreement even though I am not female.For the moment all I can say is keep writing about the moments because each time you do I am sure that a large number of readers are getting the boost to get them through another day hour or minute.<br /><br /> sTEVE</p> can only post general comment as I stumbled accross by accident about 20 minutes ago when looking for serious info on bone eating diseases illnesses.Its a long story & not me & am not a Doctor. Have now saved you on favourites to read later because what has been read is obviously written from within & is the sort of stuff that has us all nodding in agreement even though I am not female.For the moment all I can say is keep writing about the moments because each time you do I am sure that a large number of readers are getting the boost to get them through another day hour or minute.

sTEVE

]]> By: michael https://thisfish.com/hitting-house/#comment-1208 michael Mon, 24 Mar 2003 06:54:46 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=347#comment-1208 <p>I don't know how you do it time after time. But you do. Every time.</p> I don’t know how you do it time after time. But you do. Every time.

]]> By: Bob https://thisfish.com/hitting-house/#comment-1207 Bob Sun, 23 Mar 2003 12:00:58 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=347#comment-1207 <p>You amaze me.</p> You amaze me.

]]> By: alt31 https://thisfish.com/hitting-house/#comment-1206 alt31 Sat, 22 Mar 2003 05:19:18 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=347#comment-1206 <p>and smart girls realise that <i>talking</i> about these things breaks the pattern - if we keep talking <b>our</b> kids won't have to deal with this stuff - well I hope not anyway.</p><br /><br /><p>Way to go fish!</p> and smart girls realise that talking about these things breaks the pattern – if we keep talking our kids won’t have to deal with this stuff – well I hope not anyway.

Way to go fish!

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