Comments on: mightily https://thisfish.com/mightily/ Found the bike. Not changing the title. Mon, 30 Mar 2026 21:27:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: Anonymous https://thisfish.com/mightily/#comment-35786 Anonymous Tue, 02 Mar 2010 02:29:38 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1725#comment-35786 <p>Mels,</p><br /><br /><p>Well, that's just plain awesome. AWESOME.</p><br /><br /><p>Heather</p> Mels,

Well, that’s just plain awesome. AWESOME.

Heather

]]> By: mels https://thisfish.com/mightily/#comment-35785 mels Tue, 02 Mar 2010 02:17:34 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1725#comment-35785 <p>As an addendum, thank you so much Fish! Reading this post and all of the wonderful messages from people in similar situations, made me feel so much less alone and able to articulate to my boyfriend and realize I had a point and its not wrong for me to feel this way. I even read your post to him... and he was then able to tell me why he felt the way he did too and for the first time in months, we actually talked rather than fought. And I feel like I can trust him again and I'm more patient since I finally know where he's coming from. He even asked me to forward your blog on to him so he could read where women feeling similarly are coming from. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.</p> As an addendum, thank you so much Fish! Reading this post and all of the wonderful messages from people in similar situations, made me feel so much less alone and able to articulate to my boyfriend and realize I had a point and its not wrong for me to feel this way. I even read your post to him… and he was then able to tell me why he felt the way he did too and for the first time in months, we actually talked rather than fought. And I feel like I can trust him again and I’m more patient since I finally know where he’s coming from. He even asked me to forward your blog on to him so he could read where women feeling similarly are coming from. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

]]> By: mels https://thisfish.com/mightily/#comment-35784 mels Fri, 26 Feb 2010 05:39:28 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1725#comment-35784 <p>Oh my goodness... I haven't visited your blog in months (for no good excuse... shame on me), but I did just today and how poignant of a moment. For I upped my cozy Manhattan studio at Christmas and moved to the middle of nowhere in Ohio for a man I deeply loved. All because we were getting engaged soon in the new year. We even went ring shopping a few times but that all halted to an immediate stop once my foot was in his front door. Now he's saying wait 6 months too even though we're so in love and perfect for one another. Reading your blog made me realize that its perfectly acceptable to feel like the impatient girl I so want to be on the outside, but know I can't. Thank you... we're only human and its understandable to want a man to shout from the rooftops just how committed he is to us. Alas, I guess men are only human too. Its super annoying though, huh?</p> Oh my goodness… I haven’t visited your blog in months (for no good excuse… shame on me), but I did just today and how poignant of a moment. For I upped my cozy Manhattan studio at Christmas and moved to the middle of nowhere in Ohio for a man I deeply loved. All because we were getting engaged soon in the new year. We even went ring shopping a few times but that all halted to an immediate stop once my foot was in his front door. Now he’s saying wait 6 months too even though we’re so in love and perfect for one another. Reading your blog made me realize that its perfectly acceptable to feel like the impatient girl I so want to be on the outside, but know I can’t. Thank you… we’re only human and its understandable to want a man to shout from the rooftops just how committed he is to us. Alas, I guess men are only human too. Its super annoying though, huh?

]]> By: suz https://thisfish.com/mightily/#comment-35783 suz Wed, 24 Feb 2010 04:18:59 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1725#comment-35783 <p>After 120 comments I'm not sure mine even needs to go here but... I just wanted to say that I'm not sure all this is just "man pride" as I've been with my partner (we are both females) for 4 years and we are committed and sure (as sure as anyone can be) that we want to spend our lives together. We live several hours away from each other and while I would give her a ring this minute... she wants to wait until we live in the same city. And has told me point blank that a ring cannot be forthcoming the moment all our furniture is in the same house, there will be a wait time. </p><br /><br /><p>And since we're both girls there's no real precedent for who proposes and gives a ring. So at least you have tradition on your side for some things and don't have to figure it out as you go :)</p><br /><br /><p>I hope all the previous comments have put your mind at ease a little bit! Good luck and I'm glad you and the DL are happy enough to have these sorts of worries!</p> After 120 comments I’m not sure mine even needs to go here but… I just wanted to say that I’m not sure all this is just “man pride” as I’ve been with my partner (we are both females) for 4 years and we are committed and sure (as sure as anyone can be) that we want to spend our lives together. We live several hours away from each other and while I would give her a ring this minute… she wants to wait until we live in the same city. And has told me point blank that a ring cannot be forthcoming the moment all our furniture is in the same house, there will be a wait time.

And since we’re both girls there’s no real precedent for who proposes and gives a ring. So at least you have tradition on your side for some things and don’t have to figure it out as you go :)

I hope all the previous comments have put your mind at ease a little bit! Good luck and I’m glad you and the DL are happy enough to have these sorts of worries!

]]> By: Maureen https://thisfish.com/mightily/#comment-35782 Maureen Sat, 20 Feb 2010 03:14:11 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1725#comment-35782 <p>I hesitate to write this comment, but this is how I feel. I'll tell you what stings mightily... being 36 and still single, all while being unemployed and broke. I've read your blog for a long time and I'm really happy for you that you found love. I cried at your post about how you met him and how you realized you were finally done waiting, etc. But now I just feel like when I read these posts about how hard it is that you aren't engaged yet, I feel like yelling to you "geez, settle down!" I've known lots of people who have waiting for a lot longer. I mean, I do understand where you're coming from, that it would be extremely frustrating to wait around to get engaged. But try to focus on what you have! Be happy with what you have and before you know it, you will be walking down the aisle. Seriously. It will happen. You said "the more he hesitates, the less special I feel"... please, I beg of you, change your attitude about this or you will ruin it when it does happen, which it will! Your boyfriend is working on it, you WILL be engaged, life will be fine! Don't ruin what is a very happy time in your life.</p> I hesitate to write this comment, but this is how I feel. I’ll tell you what stings mightily… being 36 and still single, all while being unemployed and broke. I’ve read your blog for a long time and I’m really happy for you that you found love. I cried at your post about how you met him and how you realized you were finally done waiting, etc. But now I just feel like when I read these posts about how hard it is that you aren’t engaged yet, I feel like yelling to you “geez, settle down!” I’ve known lots of people who have waiting for a lot longer. I mean, I do understand where you’re coming from, that it would be extremely frustrating to wait around to get engaged. But try to focus on what you have! Be happy with what you have and before you know it, you will be walking down the aisle. Seriously. It will happen. You said “the more he hesitates, the less special I feel”… please, I beg of you, change your attitude about this or you will ruin it when it does happen, which it will! Your boyfriend is working on it, you WILL be engaged, life will be fine! Don’t ruin what is a very happy time in your life.

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