Comments on: what do men look for in a wife? https://thisfish.com/what-do-men-look-for-in-a-wife/ Found the bike. Not changing the title. Mon, 06 Apr 2026 05:54:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: karen https://thisfish.com/what-do-men-look-for-in-a-wife/#comment-15283 karen Wed, 22 Mar 2006 03:12:28 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1185#comment-15283 <p>I just recently labeled myself "in love". The reason being, I am in a relationship with my significant other, but we never declared we were in a relationship, but we know we belong to each other... We just "fit" without all this pressure of "boyfriend" and "girlfriend". We both have the true feelings of trust, fulfillment, and dedication to each other without a word spoken about it. When you are in love, you need no words or confirmation. It just happens naturally. :o)</p> I just recently labeled myself “in love”. The reason being, I am in a relationship with my significant other, but we never declared we were in a relationship, but we know we belong to each other… We just “fit” without all this pressure of “boyfriend” and “girlfriend”. We both have the true feelings of trust, fulfillment, and dedication to each other without a word spoken about it. When you are in love, you need no words or confirmation. It just happens naturally. :o )

]]> By: neophyte https://thisfish.com/what-do-men-look-for-in-a-wife/#comment-15282 neophyte Mon, 20 Mar 2006 09:01:25 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1185#comment-15282 <p>If women married the men who are our best friends and just added sex; there might be a lot of gay men in heterosexual marriages. Some of us know exactly what we want and have no idea where to find it. The truth is, some of the mating rituals (not the manipulative games) are necessary. The truth is, there is rarely a perfect match for anyone. Instead, relationships take work. They require us, especially the older us, to think for two without losing ourselves in the bargain. And once we make that commitment, they require us to grow together, to communicate, to compromise, and sometimes to just give in even when we know we're right. We've lost sight somehow of the importance of marriage, the sanctity of the union. It's way too easy to give up; but by the same token, it's way too easy to get lost in what you think you're supposed to be doing.</p> If women married the men who are our best friends and just added sex; there might be a lot of gay men in heterosexual marriages. Some of us know exactly what we want and have no idea where to find it. The truth is, some of the mating rituals (not the manipulative games) are necessary. The truth is, there is rarely a perfect match for anyone. Instead, relationships take work. They require us, especially the older us, to think for two without losing ourselves in the bargain. And once we make that commitment, they require us to grow together, to communicate, to compromise, and sometimes to just give in even when we know we’re right. We’ve lost sight somehow of the importance of marriage, the sanctity of the union. It’s way too easy to give up; but by the same token, it’s way too easy to get lost in what you think you’re supposed to be doing.

]]> By: Joe https://thisfish.com/what-do-men-look-for-in-a-wife/#comment-15281 Joe Wed, 15 Mar 2006 20:56:50 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1185#comment-15281 <p>If most women would choose their best male friend and add sex to the relationship, they would be very happy. Instead, most spend enormous time and energy looking for what many already have. I think this is because many women are far more superficial than they ever admit to themselves. While they say looks don't matter (much), I think they matter to women as much or more than to most men. Then there is the whole power, prestiege and money thing. This is painfully evidenced by the incredibly nasty response that generally occurs when a guy says nothing more than "Hi" to a single woman. Shut down immediately if you do not have the right suit/car or the alpha-male look and persona. (I can hear the comments now, but I assure you it is painful and true.)Most women end up chasing one alpha male who dosen't need them because they are all chasing him. In the end, I think it creates marriages/partnerships based on the wrong things and eventually leads to the American divorce rate. Girls have all the power, use it wisely!</p> If most women would choose their best male friend and add sex to the relationship, they would be very happy. Instead, most spend enormous time and energy looking for what many already have. I think this is because many women are far more superficial than they ever admit to themselves. While they say looks don’t matter (much), I think they matter to women as much or more than to most men. Then there is the whole power, prestiege and money thing. This is painfully evidenced by the incredibly nasty response that generally occurs when a guy says nothing more than “Hi” to a single woman. Shut down immediately if you do not have the right suit/car or the alpha-male look and persona. (I can hear the comments now, but I assure you it is painful and true.)Most women end up chasing one alpha male who dosen’t need them because they are all chasing him. In the end, I think it creates marriages/partnerships based on the wrong things and eventually leads to the American divorce rate. Girls have all the power, use it wisely!

]]> By: liz https://thisfish.com/what-do-men-look-for-in-a-wife/#comment-15280 liz Wed, 08 Mar 2006 02:00:51 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1185#comment-15280 <p>Are we single because we're scared?<br /><br />Why most of us have a fear of relationships and emotional attachment?! Is it because of a past relationship, or maybe it's because of a broken heart, or because we all in a serch of an ideal?</p><br /><br /><p>I don't know how or why I get drawn to emotionally unavailable men, but I do. <br /><br />I do like being single and hate it. But then if I really wanted to remain this way then I shouldn't be fantasizing about being in a relationship and being in love, which I do quite a bit (but would never admit to). It's not the fact that you have a full life or standards that is the problem, but being at the point where you can really let yourself go with someone. If you don't give them all you got, how will you ever know if they were right for you or not? I guess there has to come a point sometime, where you let someone in your heart for real. That's pretty scary.....I've run from that, for a very long time. It took good 5 years to allow anyone to get close.<br /><br />It's also kinda fear keeping me single, but it's more like skepticism. Most people are intrinsically good, but their souls are covered by layers upon layers of twisted beliefs, dogmas, etc. that would distort them from seeing what kind of person I am in my core. And because of that, it makes me fear that rejection is inevitable. And while I understand that in such a situation it probably isn't my fault so much as the fault of the relationship, I don't want to be wounded by someone I may love.<br /><br />Who on earth said that all of us have to settle down? It's a simply a myth and nothing else. Just for the record, in the near future there is No waiting question, if I am planing to settle down? I am taking my time.<br /><br />I think we should give some time to ourselfs to understand where both of us want to take this relation to. Because for what is going on right now between you and me, and I am going to be frank with you, I think I am in for an tumultuous ride down the proverbial emotional rollercoaster. I understand that having me as a friend is nice, as much as having you as a friend and I undestand that you don't want to loose me as much as I don't want to loose you, but I don't want to be always on the back burner. </p><br /><br /><p>This was my letter to my Aries guy after we had very open conversation about me and him. He said he is not emotionally ready, and he is ont ready to settle down. Do you think I have scared him with my marriage talks, and how old i am getting etc.</p> Are we single because we’re scared?

Why most of us have a fear of relationships and emotional attachment?! Is it because of a past relationship, or maybe it’s because of a broken heart, or because we all in a serch of an ideal?

I don’t know how or why I get drawn to emotionally unavailable men, but I do.

I do like being single and hate it. But then if I really wanted to remain this way then I shouldn’t be fantasizing about being in a relationship and being in love, which I do quite a bit (but would never admit to). It’s not the fact that you have a full life or standards that is the problem, but being at the point where you can really let yourself go with someone. If you don’t give them all you got, how will you ever know if they were right for you or not? I guess there has to come a point sometime, where you let someone in your heart for real. That’s pretty scary…..I’ve run from that, for a very long time. It took good 5 years to allow anyone to get close.

It’s also kinda fear keeping me single, but it’s more like skepticism. Most people are intrinsically good, but their souls are covered by layers upon layers of twisted beliefs, dogmas, etc. that would distort them from seeing what kind of person I am in my core. And because of that, it makes me fear that rejection is inevitable. And while I understand that in such a situation it probably isn’t my fault so much as the fault of the relationship, I don’t want to be wounded by someone I may love.

Who on earth said that all of us have to settle down? It’s a simply a myth and nothing else. Just for the record, in the near future there is No waiting question, if I am planing to settle down? I am taking my time.

I think we should give some time to ourselfs to understand where both of us want to take this relation to. Because for what is going on right now between you and me, and I am going to be frank with you, I think I am in for an tumultuous ride down the proverbial emotional rollercoaster. I understand that having me as a friend is nice, as much as having you as a friend and I undestand that you don’t want to loose me as much as I don’t want to loose you, but I don’t want to be always on the back burner.

This was my letter to my Aries guy after we had very open conversation about me and him. He said he is not emotionally ready, and he is ont ready to settle down. Do you think I have scared him with my marriage talks, and how old i am getting etc.

]]> By: neofundamental https://thisfish.com/what-do-men-look-for-in-a-wife/#comment-15279 neofundamental Wed, 01 Mar 2006 07:55:12 +0000 http://thisfish.com/?p=1185#comment-15279 <p>I enjoyed reading your answer. :)</p> I enjoyed reading your answer. :)

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