Was asked back to the house by J who then spent entire time chatting with waify red head, while yours truly sat smooshed on couch with extraneous friends feeling invisible and just a bit too drunk. Finally asked J's v. kind roommate W for a lift home. Spent ride fuming and feeling just too pathetic.
W: Why did you sleep with him?
H: Uh, well, I guess he told you.
W: Roommates always talk about that kind of stuff. H, I really feel for you. You're such a good person.
H: Thank you for being so nice, W. I don't think sleeping with him was a mistake. This whole friendship thing is, though.
W: I'll always be your friend, whatever you decide to do. I mean, I'll miss you a lot if you don't come around the house.
H: Thanks. And thank you for the ride. I'm sure I'll talk to you soon.
Have decided to take leave of absence from J. Just have not figured out how, or if am going to tell him.