Tomorrow, this blog turns six years old. I think we should celebrate.
When I turned six, I got a new bike – a pink Huffy with a big, squishy seat and a kickstand that was not very reliable. I loved it (until, of course, it became clear that to blossom into a sleek, sophisticated woman I would require a ten speed with impractically slim tires and a seat that looked like a potential gynecological hazard). Come to think of it, the year of six was pretty fantastic, in general. I got a new sister, had Mrs. Clark for a first grade teacher (we made Stone Soup and were encouraged to color outside the lines, if we very well pleased) and a pair of purple and white Roos. The livin’, it was easy.
Let us celebrate this Year of Six by playing my favorite party game*, Truth or Dare. I choose truth. Like always, I’ll answer any question that isn’t rude or obnoxious. Sometimes that answer may be, “None of your business, perv!” but hey, an answer is an answer.
Fire when ready.
*Fine, my actual favorite party game is Spin the Bottle, but you see the logistical nightmare involved in trying to play that with the Internet.
(P.S. I’m not answering/publishing them in order as some take more consideration. Also, I am feeling a little ADD. So, if your question hasn’t shown up, keep checking!)
hey heather,
you’ve spoken a few times in the past and more recently about restraining/editing/keeping mum about your life experiences rather than sharing them on your blog. i understand why you do it, and agree that not all things should be shared.
what i was wondering was if you felt like this blog still gives you the outlet for your emotion and thoughts that it did in the beginning. or if you’ve perhaps taken to writing elsewhere, maybe a journal or something more often instead.
sorry – this is turning into a very long winded question! but i guess what i’m trying to get at is, do you ever feel upset/frustrated that you can’t get the same “therapeutic” (in all senses of the word) resolve from writing here that you did in the past?
p.s. what you do share is much enjoyed – thank you for your writing.
Answer: Yes, I still consider it an outlet, but not nearly so much as it used to be. I wouldn’t say I’m frustrated. Maybe because I need less of an emotional outlet these days. I mean, aside from the general frustrations of life and love, there’s nothing really turbulent going on. A lot of people ask me if I have a secret blog/journal somewhere else. No, I don’t. I don’t know where I would find the energy to do that!
When you were growing up, which famous celebrity did you secretly idolize/want to be like?
Answser: Princess Diana! And it was no secret.
I know that you tend to keep your dating life out of your blog until well after things happen but something about your writing lately seems awfully, well, *content*, for lack of a better word. I know I’ve softened up a great deal since I fell in love…wondering if that’s the case for you as well.
And Happy Blogaversary!!
Answer: Thank you! You know, I think leaving New York did a lot for me, as far as being content. I am not in love (sorry to disappoint) but I am much calmer.
I’ll be the first to kiss you first!! Pucker up baby…*smooch* right smack on the lips!
Do you ever choose between “cute” and “beautiful”, or have you settled on one already?
Answer: The other a day, a boy told me I was “cute as hell” and my knees went wobbly. I’m guessing “pretty” would have much the same effect. I’m not picky.
If this is too personal, you don’t have to answer. Now that you aren’t in your Monica/Richard relationship anymore, do you still talk to “Richard” or have you totally moved on?
Answer: We don’t talk, but I don’t think that means I’ve totally moved on. I still get pangs of regret and loss when I think about him.
What would you say are the best and worst qualities you inherited from your parents?
Answer: Best/worst qualities from my mother – independence/insecurity. Best/worst qualities from my father – storytelling/binge eating.
What I’d really like to know, is the BW/intern story, but i doubt you’d tell it!
So instead: What do you miss the most about NYC?
Answer: The story is essentially right here: http://thisfish.ivillage.com/love/archives/2006/08/he-said-things.html.
As for what I miss about New York, only my friends. And I miss them so much it makes my stomach hurt sometimes.
Does this make me look fat?
Answer: No, baby. That’s crazy talk.
As someone who loves to wax nostalgic, I understand telling stories about your childhood and they way things used to be. I also like to live in the moment. But sometimes you have to ask ‘what’s in my future?’ So Miss Thang, what’s in your future? Long term things that is.
Answer: Hmmm… I’m not much of a long-term planner. I would like to pay off my debt, buy a house, and have a big yellow dog and a garden with irises.
The best piece of advice that’s been given to you?
Answer: Only apply conditioner to the ends. No, seriously, I don’t know. I don’t get advice very often because I’m a real turd about it.
What would you say is your proudest accomplishment in your life so far?
Answer: A watercolor I did in high school won a prize at the county fair. And I drove a car in Scotland (wrong side of the road, people!) and did not get myself or anyone else killed. Either one of those makes me feel pretty proud.
You definitely don’t have to answer this, but my curiosity has gotten the better of me.
If I remember correctly, you were LDS once upon a time. How old were you when you decided you’d had enough? And is there anything you miss about it?
Answer: I think I was 22 or 23. I wrote about it here: http://thisfish.ivillage.com/love/archives/2005/05/faith-no-more.html. I do not miss it. Ever. Sometimes, I miss singing hymns, but that’s very easily remedied.
What were your best and worst blogging moments?
Answer: I don’t think I can choose a ‘best’ one, but any time I’ve been Gawkered has been pure hell.
What keeps you blogging? You’ve come close to giving up a few times that I remember but you’ve never actually stopped. I’m very glad you haven’t as I love your writing – have probably been reading for 3 years now.
Also, I nearly made it into your London meet and greet whenever that was last year, but was too shy to go in and say hi. Regret that lots sometimes when you post something showing how cool you are! Would have loved to have met you. Apologies!
Happy Anniversary
Answer: Thank you! I don’t know what keeps me blogging, other than habit!
It seems like it was almost a year ago (I’m old.. time flies.. so who really knows) when you said Texas would last a year, and you’d go back to New York.
Still going back to New York?
Answer: Nope, probably not. I realized that I’m not meant for that life.
How old are you any way? I know that is terribly rude but I can’t tell…(other than over legal drinking age while under 40)
Answer: I turn 30 in 10 days.
Why am I your favorite sister EVER?
Please, don’t hold back.
Answer: Because you are so mild-tempered. Bwahahah. Sorry, I almost choked on those words.
Don’t you turn 30 soon? And, if so, are you bothered by that prospect?
Answer: In 10 days, actually. And no way! I’m throwing a big party, hoping for some good times. Know what bothers me? Oreos where one of the cookie layers is upside down.
Happy 6th, girl. I sure do miss you. Any chance you’ll come back to NYC or do you feel like where you are now is where you’ll stay?
Answer: I’m pretty sure I will never come back to NYC to live (despite my attachments to you people!), but as far as Dallas being my permanent home? I don’t know. I’ve always thought I might like Seattle…
Hmmm your answer to the BW/intern question leaves me confused- is the intern his current wife?
On a less thorny note- congratulations on 6 years- damn fine achievement! Where are you working now and what’s an average day for you?
Answer: Well, as sorry as I am that you’re confused, I’m not going to go into it any more except to say, no, his wife, bless her heart, came into the picture after all the drama.
I work for an engineering firm during the day, and freelance at night, trying to pay off debt I incurred living in New York on a ****ty non-profit salary. Big fun!
I’ve browsed through your travel blog, so I know that visiting new places is exciting and important to you… Where is one place that you HAVE to go, and one place that no one could ever DRAG you to?
Answer: You couldn’t make me go to China. I know that sounds horrible, but I know me, and I know what kinds of experiences delight me and what kinds overwhelm me. China, it would overwhelm me. In a not good way. I have to go to Prague and the Galapagos.
Happy 6th, and 30th! Do you see yourself blogging in another 6 years? Are you glad you started?
Answer: I doubt it – six more years is a really long time. But yes, blogging has been an overwhelmingly positive experience. I’m glad it became a part of my life when it did.
Congrats! Your honesty is illuminating.
What is your favorite thing about yourself and when did you realize that you loved that about yourself?
Answer: I love that I am sensitive. For years I was uncomfortable with it and played the hardass in public and the crier in private (mostly in the shower). I love that I’ve grown comfortable with myself enough to show emotion.
Happy Sixth blogaversary and kudos to your soon to be big 30!
Do you believe that Mr. Wonderful/Soulmate/Better half exists and why?
Answer: I think quite possibly I already met/lost him. It’s okay, I’m comfortable with that.
I’ve been reading your blog from the start, but never commented until now. Hi
And I was just wondering…what is your greatest fear in life?
Answer: Fire. I’m not kidding. I go around my apartment and unplug things when I leave the house because I have this sick, sick fear that there will be a fire and my cat will burn up (god, the guilt). I’m afraid of fire in general. I can light candles, but that’s about it. I don’t want anything to do with it in larger doses.
When are you going to write a book?
Answer: Sigh, I don’t know. When I find a story to tell that hasn’t already been told and retold to death.
I know that my answer is going to be, “None of your business, perv!” so I’ll save us all the time, hahaha.
Congrats on six years!
What advice would you give to someone who wants to start her own blog but is reluctant that people will not tune in?
Answer: That would be your reluctance – that other people wouldn’t read what you have to say? I should think it would be the opposite.
Happy Anniversary. I’ve been reading for 2 years, and really love reading your blog every night when I get home from work.
What do you love about yourself?
Answer: Sometimes, I can be really funny and I love that. Also, I have really smooth, shiny hair and while I can take no credit for it (all in the genes) I also love that.
Obviously your words and stories resonate with strangers; what are some positive impacts that sharing them has had on your own life?
Happy blogaversary!
Answer: Thanks! Um, well, I haven’t turned to more damaging coping mechanisms, for one. And I’ve made some really solid friends through this adventure. I mean, seriously the best people when I needed them most. I met Ari, Sarah Brown, Torrie and my besty Jamie because of blogging. These people, I need. Like caffeine and a good pillow.
what made you go to Dallas over anywhere else when you left NYC?
and do you have any travel tips for a cycling holiday in Denmark?
Happy Birthday/Anniversary etc etc
Answer: Thank you, etc.
My mother lives here, and I had a sister here and one in Austin, though both of those little punks have since moved. Re: Denmark, no, I do not, but I will look into it for you and post it on the travel blog.
2) Did you ever have a Texan accent? If so, why did you lose it?
3) Will you be at ACL again this year?
4) If a New Yorker’s wardrobe is mostly black, what’s in a Texan’s?
Answer: No, I never had one. My parents grew up in California, so our home was pretty accentless. No, not going to ACL this year – turns out, I don’t like standing outside in 100 degree weather to listen to music when I can turn it on at home or in my car in much more comfortable surroundings. And in Texas, I wear a lot of color. And I love it.
What did you keep in your ‘Roos?
Answer: Ha! Boy, I wish I could remember. I was such a strange little kid with a big, big imagination. I’m sure it was something good/worthless. I sure loved those shoes. I think I attempted to sleep in them once.
Hi Fish, my question is:
When you’re all by yourself, do you get lonely and wonder if you’ll be bicycle-less for the rest of your life? Does that scare you? How do you manage to keep hoping for the real thing? Okay, that’s three but I couldn’t think how to phrase it in one go.
Answer: No, or at least I haven’t in a really long time. It doesn’t scare me because I’ve discovered that I’m always surrounded by amazing, loving people. It’s sort of unimportant that I’m not having sex or playing house with them. I figure, my needs have always been taken care of, what’s going to change that?
What was one of the scariest experiences of your life?
Answer: I was in a white water rafting accident and was trapped under the raft with a rope around my neck while we went down a waterfall. I had nightmares (and broken toes) for weeks.
regarding the BW/intern story that you referenced, i don’t recall him ever writing about the baby. i’d say that i am sorry it happened to you, but honestly, in retrospect, it was all probably for the best for you, right?
Answer: He never wrote about anything that would make him look bad. And there did not end up being a baby.
Hiya Fish.
Three questions if I may be so bold.
What is the number one thing you look for in a prospective partner?
Are you planning on another traveling/blogging venture any time soon?
Had you ever contemplated writing a book on love and the single life? I really enjoy your insight and honesty, and would like to see something more structured around that in print someday
Cheers !
Answer: Humor and a bit of tenderness; no, I’m stuck at a desk full time these days; hmmm, I doubt it. There are way too many of those books out there, and I doubt mine would shed any light on the experience!
Happy Blagaversary!
Question(s):
Colins – Firth or Farrell?
Hughs – Grant or Jackman??
Answer: Firth (Farrell is a dirtbag) and Jackman.
Hmmm… If you could be best friends with any celebrity, who would it be and why?
Answer: Jimmy Stewart.
Hey Fish–Happy Anniversary!
I think you’d find Seattle too slow and too rainy for your taste…and I am a dyed in the wool NWer. Love your blog! I’ve only been reading for a little while, so…have you/would you ever date a co-worker?
Answer: Yes, and yes! I worked with architects for years, and how do you resist those quirky little bastards? You don’t.
how did you get to be such a good writer? (please, don’t toss me some flippant response or be modest. i’m looking for real, honest-to-goodness actions i can try to implement myself.) i love reading your blog.
- respectfully yours =)
Answer: Well, hrm. I read a lot. A whole lot, actually. A book a week, if things are going well. When I find a style or a device that tickles me, I adapt it for my own use. I also imitate friends whose writing I find charming or quirky. So, basically, I borrow. No one is safe.
Happy anniversary, Fish! I found you about six months ago and I miss being able to binge on your archives.
Something that hooked me to your blog is that, like many people here, I can relate to things that were going on in your life. I found your blog after I graduated from college, got my first fantastic “real” job in a city that is not so fantastic, am alone for the first time, and fairly disappointed with the way my grown-up life is going so far.
Though you’ll probably say you definitely don’t have it all figured out, what are some things you’ve done to find and pursue your happiness throughout your 20s — especially through awkward/transitional life times?
Thanks for blogging all these years. You’re really an inspiration — both in your writing style and the stories you share with us.
Answer: Thank you, that’s very sweet! Okay, here’s what I’ve done to cope with the awkward times: I’ve stopped worrying about looking or feeling awkward. I’ve realized that nothing I’ve gone through is new – the human experience, while unique, is laced with commonality. We ALL have awkward times, and now I give myself permission to be awkward for as long as it takes to learn whatever lesson I need to.
ok, here goes a personal one.
how long is the longest that you’ve gone without any nookie?
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Answer: Twenty-two years. The next longest would be… 8 or 9 months.
Happy 6th to your blog! Happy almost 30 to you! I’ll be 48 on Saturday. I’m celebrating that it’s only 2 more years until I’ll be 50…I missed the 60′s being a little kid for all of the 60′s, so I keep hoping that they will come around again. Maybe with Barack as President of the United States? Wouldn’t that be cool.
Question: You’ve talked about being a former LDS / Mormon. Have you found a religion or church that you would like to attend or learn more about? If so, can you tell us more about it?
Answer: Nope. I think God and I are on an indefinite break.
If you could spend your day doing anything you wanted, what would you pick?
Answer: I would go for a hike first thing in the morning, then I would play in the pool for a while, followed by lunch with a tall, tall glass of iced coffee, followed by hours of rambunctious… you know.
Are you still writing a book?
Happy Blogaversary! Thanks for all the good reads!
Answer: No, thank YOU! Um, no, I’m not. I realized I don’t have a story in me that I feel compelled to tell.
I have realized that I am rarely very happy. Depressed sometimes, blah often and on good days, comfortably content. How often, say on a weekly scale, do you feel very happy?
Answer: I think I am fairly happy most of the time. Sure, I get in moods, but I think if I were an animal, I would be an otter. I’m pretty much into playing around all the time and it keeps me chipper.
Why will you never return to NYC? Is leaving something other women should seriously consider? And what made you pack up and leave? The reason why I ask is I’m considering a similar move.
Answer: I don’t know – it’s just not what I want anymore. Other women? I’m not sure what you mean by that. I think everyone has to do what feels right for them, as cliche as that sounds. I left because one day I woke up and realized I was unhappy and needed to do something to change it.
You said you read quite a bit, as do I. Have you ever read “The Little Friend” by Donna Tartt? I think it’s my favorite-one of those books that I want to tell everyone about. I just gave it to my dad to read. What is your favorite fiction book?
Answer: Never read it, but I will add it to my list! I don’t think I can choose a favorite book. That’s like choosing a favorite sibling!
Happy 6th! I’ve been reading daily for over 4 of those and love the stories you share as much today as I did the first time I read. Thank you for continuing to share part of you with all of us.
question: do you get approached by readers a lot? if yes, how do you feel about that?
Answer: No, I don’t, actually. The few times I have, it’s turned into friendship. Last year around this time, I got an email asking me to have coffee. I was new in town, and it was a very sweet offer. We’ve been besties ever since.
He’s right. You are cute as hell. And your witty confidence only adds to. Happy 6th. Here’s hoping you find one worthy of your repartee.
Question: “I feel sexiest when…”
Answer: my toenails are painted red.
Many congrats, I really enjoy your writing and your ability to capture that which cannot be put into words. The thing that makes the reader nod their head in an exaggerated fashion. Oh and I adore you, and have so much advice to give you because I’m a poster which means I’m an expert on your life. (insert sarcasm font here).
When you consider your influences, both blog and/or writing, are they different for each medium, and what are the commonalities in those influences?
Oh, and can’t thank you enough for linking smittenkitchen, I’m loving that site.
Answer: Deb is a talented, talented lady. And if you ever heard her laugh, you’d want to keep her as your own forever. I’m glad you like Smitten Kitchen! Wit, humor, and a consciousness of the way words sound next to each other. Those are the things I love about good writing.
a book a week?! oh fish! you should totally start up a book review section on here to share your perspective on the vast amount of books you consume. would you consider that, possibly, for us other bibliophiles?!
Answer: Mama just doesn’t have the time. If I start writing about books, I’ll have less time to read them. And that’s my favorite escape.
Happy Blogoversary!
What do you want to be when you grow up?
P.S. – There are no new stories, only new ways of telling them. I hope you find one you want to tell. You are a wonderful writer.
Answer: A better cook.
Hi Fish-
Happy anniversary! This is a personal one, sorry. With your nookie-licious adventures, do you find it hard to stay emotionally unattached? Or is the pseudo-emotional attachment part of the beauty?
Answer: I always get emotionally attached. Though, to varying degrees and for varying lengths of time. Sometimes it wears off with the hangover.
Hey there! I absolutely love your blog and have been a reader for a while. I don’t have specific questions to ask but I thought I would tag you. Your choice if you want to post responses but you can check out my blog to find out the list.
Happy 6th! When you’re scratching Hal’s ears and telling him what fine cat he is, do you ever fantasize that he’s a large yellow dog? How about a male otter? And if you do, will you admit it, knowing that he probably reads this blog while you’re at work?
Answer: Nah, I don’t wish Hal was a dog. Hal is my favorite little pain in the ass, and I wouldn’t trade him for anything.
So, what you are saying, essentially, is that I am awesome?
OR- is it my baby that you are after?
Answer: Must you always ask such difficult questions?
No questions, just wanted to say Congratulations! Six yrs is a pretty long time.
Love, LOVE your blog, so I’m glad to see you still going strong 6 years later. I only wish I’d been savvy enough to find you during your beginning years, but here’s to another 6… and beyond!
Question: Do you/have you ever met or corresponded with the woman who writes Dooce.com? I feel like two kindred spirits like yourselves should be friends.
Answer: Yes, I meet Dooce. She was just as funny and wonderful in person.
Which of the New Kids on the Block is your fav? Then and now?
Answer: I was pretty sheltered and I didn’t know who the New Kids on the Block WERE when they were popular the first time around. And now… well, honestly, I’m still not really sure who they are.
Happy 6th Anniversary!
My question: What ever happened to Tell All Thursdays?
Not that I don’t love everything you write, I just loved the juiciness of it.
And Happy 30th, too.
Answer: Hmm, I don’t know. I guess I ran out of juicy tidbits!
Hi Fish and Happy BirthaVersary!
I’ve been reading your blog for years (as well as a few other notable blogs) and have noticed that many famous bloggers were born on or around July 20th (probably because mine is the same day) so my question is….how much do you love fried chicken?
Yeah, me too.
PS. If you lived in Seattle NOW you could go see “Heathers” with me at cinema on the lawn tomorrow night. http://www.cinemaonthelawn.com/ – Woe is me.
Answer: Oh my god, so much. I love it cold best of all.
Who is BW.
Where is J now? I remember at one point in time y’all were friends. Are you still in touch?
I’ve been reading for about 3 years or so. Thanks for the good laughs and great stories!
Answer: J is living in LA, and we just talked a few days ago. He gave me some boy advice which consisted of, “Boys are stupid.” Thanks, J.
I know that at times you are very busy but in your spare time do you ever cruise the ‘Love’ boards here in iVillage and if yes .. do you post there at all if something catches your fancy?
Happy Sixth Fish and here’s to Seven (lifting a glass to you)!
Answer: Nope, never have. With all the work I do for it, I don’t have a lot of time to play on the Internet!
Happy blogoversary, Fish! And happy upcoming 30th! I hope the next year (as to both) is as rewarding and fulfilling as can be!!
As for a question: do you still keep in touch with your two Texas decorators? I enjoyed reading about your move and LOVED what you were able to do with the apartment – so I just thought I would ask. Thanks again!
Answer: I do not, sadly. One moved to LA to become a set designer and the other has similarly moved on.
Perhaps you could just tell us what you’re reading?
Answer: Three Junes. I love it.
Happy Blogoversary!
Fish Congrats!!
I have been reading your blog now for almost a year, at work when I am bored I read your archives. You are very talented and alot of what you write speaks to alot of us! Thank you for sharing.
Question- You wrote in an “Girl you’ll be a Woman” of the times you feel like a girl, and times you feel like a woman.
Do you have anymore girl/woman moments you would add to the list? and In Texas are you more Woman than Girl?
Thank you fish, Keep the Blogs coming!
Answer: I don’t think my status has changed on that… and I’m definitely a woman when I’m in traffic.
Your writing is so clever and breezy and seems to come so easily to you. How long does it take you to write a post on average? Do you just write whenever an idea strikes you or do you set aside a certain amount of time per day to write?
Answer: I write whenever I have a minute. Sometimes it’s really, REALLY hard to drag a story out. Some days, it comes very easy.
Congratulations on six years and happy early birthday!
I recently discovered your blog and now spend company time reading it.
Any advice for someone who is considering moving to Austin, TX? I know you live in Dallas but it’s worth asking.
Answer: I love Austin! But having never spent more than a few days there at a time, I’m afraid I’m the wrong person to ask.
So…since this IS Truth or Dare….Ever kiss another girl before, and, if so, (because that dang pop song out right now is so catchy) did you “like it?”
Answer: I have and no, I didn’t really. Turns out, I like boys.
No question here – just wanted to chime in saying Happy 6th. I love reading your blog it hits the spot with my morning java!
So blog on girl!!
i’ve been reading forever. i just can’t quit you.
what is your favorite cliche that just also happens to be true for you? i.e. “time waits for no (wo)man” or “the early bird gets the worm.”
Answer: Boys are stupid.
Happy 6th to ThisFish and Happy 30th to me… seems I’ve got 10 days on you!
My question: Do you have a motto in life? Mine is “Bad decisions make good stories.”
P.S. Ditto the recommendation to read Donna Tartt’s “The Little Friend”; even better is her other book “The Secret History.”
Answer: “People stupider than you have done this before.” That’s my mantra whenever I am trying something new that makes me feel insecure or uncertain.
sorry to hang up on leaving new york, but do you think you know what it was about new york city that made you stressed / unhappy? and what it is about not being in new york that makes you happier?
i read all the time, but hardly ever comment. Happy Fishaversary!
Answer: That is a very complex question. The short of it is, I needed more space. Physical and mental.
Happy 6th and 30th!
With your book a week habit, do you buy or frequent the library? And what are your thoughts on audio books?
Answer: I have listened to one audio book, and it’s really not my bag. My mind wanders way too much and I miss half the story. I get free books from my friend who gets them from work. .
So I agree with you that a book review section would be entirely too much work (although fabulous). However, perhaps you would consider a running list of books you are reading. All you would need is the title and author…
And being such an avid reader, does that leave little time for a passion for film, or are you a movie buff as well?
Answer: Love movies. Especially (oh god, this is going to sound snobby but it’s not!) foreign and independent films. They’re just more twisted than Hollywood stuff.
You seem content with being single, and you’ve made it clear that not having children is a deal-breaker for you… would you consider adopting or otherwise raising a child on your own?
Answer: Yes, I would. And it wasn’t that “not having children” was the dealbreaker. It was not having the option that I couldn’t live with.
What happened to the Inner Goddess?
Answer: Really?
I have been reading your blog forever and this is the one question I have. So lame, do you use the public library or do you buy the books you read? If you buy them, do you keep them or pass them on?
Answer: I always pass books on, and I get a lot of them passed on to me. But no, I don’t go to the public library – which is mostly out of laziness.
Question: Do you ever really get over your first- particularly while he’s with someone else all of a sudden? HOW?
Answer: Wine and Kleenex.
Wow. This is beyond a small world… I used to be “his” intern! Not THE intern – I somehow managed to escape without his spawn, which I am very proud about – but wow. He raised D-Baggery to an art form.
That said, here’s my question…. If George Clooney invited you back to his hotel room, but you knew he was just using you and would drop you like hot plate the next morning, would you go? Why or why not? This is tough because, I mean, come on… George Clooney. Or maybe in your case I should say Magnum P.I.? You get the idea.
Answer: Nah, I wouldn’t. But I’d sure tell everyone that he asked!
Oh gosh. The Pacific Northwest rocks my world. If you decide against Seattle, I highly recommend Portland. Lived there, loved it.
Anyway…
Were Ross and Rachel really on a break? Who was right in that situation?
Answer: For as many references as there are to Friends on this blog, I really didn’t watch it after the first couple seasons – except for the reruns that are on late at night when I can’t sleep. So, um, I don’t know.
So, if we happen to meet, there is a chance that you could fall madly in lust with me?
Answer: Hmmm… depends on how much I’ll have had to drink, I suppose.
First…22??? Wow! I am a very infrequent reader of the blog, but consistently impressed by your voice and insights. Which leads me to a somewhat rhetorical question – how are you still single? Your attractive, intelligent, and a phenomenal writer, and it’s a wonder to me that your not fending off men (perhaps a clue that I don’t read the blog enough). So for a question you might be able to provide a real answer to: Has a reader ever tried to ask you out on the basis of the blog, and if so, what has your response been?
P.S. Many congratulations, and best of luck for another 6 or so years.
Answer: Yes, and we did go out. It didn’t lead to anything, but it was fun. (Also, what do you mean by 22?)
Hi Heather–Happy Blogaversary! I found you via your travel blog a few months back and I must say, I think you’re just fabulous. My question for you is: Did blogging lead to your freelancing opportunities and, if so, how?
Answer: Yes, it did. I’ve been very lucky that the exposure from this blog has turned into freelance work. I’ll go ahead and admit that I have never sought any of it – it has always come to me. Which probably only feeds into my slacker mentality.
Hi Fish -
I have been reading your blog for about 4 years now and I consider it a “fix” several times a week. I know you don’t try to solicit relationship advice, but I had something happen to me a few weeks ago that made me think of one line in a blog you wrote about J from a long time ago… you said something about how you KNEW it was over when you saw another hair on his pillow and it was blond, not brown.
The same thing happened to me and you know what, remembering your blog and that one line has helped me to move on. Mostly because I know I am not alone and not the first person that has happened to.
Congrats on the anniversary and thanks SO much for letting us in.
I believe the “22″ in Mike’s comment was meant to be somewhere along the lines of “Holy horny hell you held out until 22 before giving up the goods???”… or something.
I found your blog recently and LOVE it. Trust me, many a wasted hour at work delved deep into the archives. But because of the recent finding, I haven’t been able to see all the archives and am curious. How do you fall in the rank of children?
Answer: I’m two of five. And then there are four steps, but that’s relatively new.
Which web-sites do you check on a regular basis? Top three guilty pleasures? Finally, it seems that women have a tendency to phrase things in a way that appears “friendly” yet I’ve noticed you’re not afflicted – is it your nature or did you get over the “I want everyone to like me” mindset? Thanks.
Answer: Ha! Are you saying I’m rude? You know, I think people waste time by being “friendly” when it’s not called for. If someone needs to know that what they’ve said is jackassy, holding back and being sugary will only raise your blood pressure.
You are/were a professional writer, right? How do you keep it from becoming “work”, so that you can continue to do it for fun outside of the job?
Which of your senses would you be most distraught to lose?
Firemen or Pilots?
Okay, I’ll stop now.
Hi Fish,
If I remember correcty, you lived in Europe when you were studying. Would you consider moving overseas now? If so, where would you choose to live?
No, not at all – I think you’re refreshingly straight forward. Perhaps because I work in a male dominated environment, I find that I adapt a different communication style when dealing with women, hence the question.
would you ever forgive a cheater?
and more importantly, what’s your favourite wine?
congrats on the 6 yrs/30 yrs!
Answer: Honestly, I don’t know. I have made the pretense of it in the past, but turns out, deep down, I held a nasty grudge. As far as wine, I like any rich red.
I held out until 19 and from that point, until the point I met my wife, a vertiable tidal wave of ass* followed me everywhere I went. So there is something to be said for the late bloomers.
* Ass = hot dogs
What is your favorite lipstick or lip gloss brand and color?
Answer: Clinique glosswear in Air Kiss.
No question just a comment. You are one cool lady:)
From reading your archives,I can tell that getting over J was a very hard thing for you to do. I seem to be in my own situation with my version of J. When did you know that you were truly over him, and what helped the most?
Answer: I’m sorry, but I honestly don’t remember any more. I guess that says something.
Hi Heather! I was turned on to your blog a couple of years ago by none other than your delightful sister. She told me that, although she doesn’t read your blog, she had heard it was really quite good and that I might enjoy it. So I’ve been dropping by periodically for the past couple years and I must say that you’ve brought lots of smiles to my face.
Anyways, on to my question: If you had to be a flavor of ice cream what would you be and why?
Answer: Dude, am I on the Dating Game?! It’s like a dream come true…
Congrats on an amazing 6 years! And congrats on realizing that “30″ is just a number. As Grandma says “Sure beats the alternative!” Hope that the coming years are as fulfilling as you could want.
If upside down Oreo layers bother you, what makes you really happy (even just thinking about it)?
Answer: Kissin’.
How possible is it to be friends with an ex shortly after a breakup, and while he’s dating someone else? At all?
Answer: I suppose that all depends on the people involved…
Hi Heather! I’ve been reading your blog for a long time now. I think what really sets it apart from other blogs is your sophisticated style/way of writing/language. You can make the most trivial stories into an exciting read. Thank you for that!
My question: How long had you been together with “Richard” before you broke up with him for not ever wanting children?
Answer: Not very.
Happy days to you, fish! Thoroughly enjoy your musings and have been making my way through your archives since discovering you.
It seems your writing style has changed a bit throughout the years so my questions are 1) Have you noticed changes in your style throughout the years (if so, how do you think it has changed?) and 2) What made you start blogging and why do you continue?
Cheers to more!
Answer: I suddenly feel like I’m taking the SAT. or a lit crit exam!
It may be in the archives, but when and how did you aquire Sir Hal? Does he like Texas?
Answer: SPCA! And yes, he sure does. So many more bugs here for him to chase.
Which night was better?
a. Nicole Kidman peed on the toilet seat, tiny bottles and Ian McKellan, and the restaurant charged the card twice
b. BLTs, cake, Meet Me in St. Louis in bed
Answer: You better not really expect me to choose, Brown. I wouldn’t be able to!
Several questions:
What is your very favorite food to eat – both super special and ordinary?
Are you going to post photos from your bday party on flickr?
xxoo – Hillary – my bday is Saturday too!
Answer: Nope, I didn’t take any pictures, sorry. I love avocado and artichokes!
As a fellow post-Mormon female, do you feel like you have a natural proclivity towards chronicling your life given the journal-keeping culture of the Church?
Answer: I don’t know that the two are connected, since I don’t seem to have any other Mormon tendencies. I don’t quilt, or make preserves or pray before I eat.
Like everyone else, just want to say CONGRATS and thanks for many years of great writing! You are fabulous.
Now, because I’m nosy…how was your party?!?
Answer: It was SO great! I couldn’t have been happier!
In honor of your blogaversary I thought that you might like this…
http://www.geekologie.com/2008/07/tom_selleck_cake_is_chest_hair.php
Congrats!
I saw that you have a weakness of binge eating….so my question is: Do you ever eat spoonfuls of Peanut Butter in bed? I DO! heh
Answer: No, but I eat popsicles in bed.
No questions…. Just birthday wishes sent your way. Sounds like you had a blast!
And Happy Blogaversary… thank you so much for sharing so much of yourself. You are a beautiful person.
Who did you vote for in the primary?
Answer: Sorry, this is a politics-free environment.
Happy 30th and congrats on the success of the blog – I can’t wait for new posts!
So…if you were stranded on a deserted island, what 3 things would you take with you?
Here’s wishing you much more success!
Fish,
I love your stories, but I really love the way you tell them. Your realness is inspiring.
Now here comes my own bit of cheese-stuffed oversharing. I just exited (okay, more like “got shoved out of”) a relationship where I lost a lot of myself. I stumbled across your blogs and remembered the plucky adventurer I was before the relationship, the one who would write newsletters home from the big city regaling them with stories of correspondence files, a good-luck blind man, and public urinators. I’m a little embarrassed by the sentimentality of it all, but you really did help me find myself. Thank you.
So, the question (since that’s supposed to be the point of all this): have you ever felt like you lost yourself and what did you do to find it again?
Hi, Heather!
I’ve been reading your blog for quite some time now, and thought you should know how I fully appreciate your courage in ‘putting it all out there’ with such eloquence. I so admire the honesty you keep with yourself, and the dedication you have to turning your own wishes into reality. Clearly, you don’t hold back in real life either, which is truly an inspiration to many of us ‘internets’. Enough with what I’m sure will come across as ass-kissery! :{ Here are my questions:
Have you always kept a diary, and been as diligent in making your entries?
What gave you the ultimate push to begin (and continue) the blog?
Have you ever been tempted to remove it or any part of it from public view?
Thanks again for sharing!
“People stupider than you have done this before.”
I’d never heard anyone else say this, but I’ve also always said it to myself when feeling insecure about something new. Right on!
With the pervasiveness of blogs, do you think it is an oversaturated “market”?
Reading your posts is like chatting with a friend while giggling, crying & cheering each other on. Sure it’s not “really” hang out…but still, good times.
My Question: What’s going on with the guy you met on the airplane who coincidentally lives near you and who you ran into at the grocery store?
I’m so nosey!
Happy Blogversary and Happy Birthday.
I’ve got a goodie!!!
My question is simple: Can you dance? If so, what type of music do you dance to best, or like to dance to the most? If not, do you still go out there and try?
An NPR question. Are outdoor concerts overrated? (I’ll submit your answer to WNYC soundcheck). Would you date a guy with kids? (not NPR) Did you ever bust a flip-flop on a pop top? You should try Smoking Loon chardonnay.
I really love reading the newspaper, especially the physical version and especially the New York Times (although I live in D.C.). Do you have a favorite newspaper?
Often people who are writers (or good ones or famous ones) are portrayed as or describe themselves as outsiders (which is how they are able to observe). You don’t strike me as an outsider. Was there a time that you were or is there an aspect of you that is an outsider, watching events as a third party even as you are in the thick of it? Or do you think it’s more the storyteller aspect; that you are able to recount events with wonderful flavors?
There’s a bunch of space in this comment box that’s making me itch in anticipation. I also feel slightly starstruck and intimidated writing in a space that you normally fill, but I’m reassured with the notion that you and I are quite similar (in a non freaky, im in your bathtub like a Brad Pitt stalker kind of way) ….(that parenthesis doubtfully reassured you of my sanity)… but anyway, you are a gorgeous writer and I feel like we’re working out of the same brain sometimes. Although yours has a more timely wit sensor than mine. Sadly I only think of funny little remarks around two hours after they are required, and end up snorting from my own jokes alone in public. Singledom is not quite puzzling in my book.
Anyway, here’s my question dear;
Do you think it’s ever possible to fall madly, inexplicably in love, even when you’re hearts been broken too many times to count? Or do you think the gig is up?
I’m debating the question myself, and if I come up with an answer soon, I’m thinking about spending my retirement on a hot Cuban pool boy and calling it a day.
Happy early Bday and please dont ever stop this blog.
BW likes to write about himself. Snore. The self-importance. And when will he have yet another album out?
I love your blog…really. Did you already hear about water on mars?
I love your blog…really. Did you already hear about water on mars?