When time permits, I try to read every comment you make the effort to leave (when it doesn’t, I still scan – mostly to make sure no one says anything super naughty). There have been a few lately that have piqued my interest – a handful challenging my relevance as a love blogger because I *gasp* found love. Truthfully, I don’t think this blog has changed one bit – the tone, the types of stories I tell and the way I look at life – it’s all still me. I guess that little header way, way up there at the top (the one that says A blog that celebrates single life…) doesn’t quite fit. But then, it never did. That label the has always struck me as odd and limiting. Pigeonholed. But that is neither here nor there.
Yesterday, Robin chimed in on a post about my recent co-habbing adventures and for some reason, I couldn’t stop thinking about it. So, I thought I’d share it here, along with my response.
“I’ll have to admit, I came to your blog today hoping you and the Boy hadsplit. Not because I enjoy the suffering of others (ok well maybesometimes), but because I found some comfort in knowing there wassomeone else out there with the same relationship struggles.”
Hoo boy! I’ve been there more times than I care to admit. Yeah, misery loves company. Not that I’m saying you’re miserable, but I’m right there with you in finding solace in the fact that other people are in the same lousy boat I am. Money, love, career. Whatever. And I’ve probably (okay, more than probably) cheered for someone’s failure when they have something I don’t. Mostly because if they’ve succeeded and I have not, there must be something wrong with me. At least, that’s the conclusion I’m tempted to draw. Thankfully, there’s an unlimited amount of happiness available in the Universe and it might just take the right set of circumstances to get your mitts on some. I will be the first to acknowledge that I simply got really, really lucky. And I knew it from moment one. When he walked in the door that night, something inside me said (quite loudly, too), “Oh, there you are.” And that was that. Do not think that for one single second have I taken it for granted. Instead of wishing for the demise of a happy relationship, maybe you could see it as proof that good things are sure to come? Lucking into The Dork Lord has restored my faith in possibility. I’d like to pass a bit of that on, if I can.
“I’ll agree to pop the pity party balloons for now, but only because I’mholding out hope that with cohabitation comes more life complications (and no the pillow incident really doesn’t count).”
Two words: honeymoon period. Complications are sure to rear their ugly heads down the road, but for right now, I think you can expect all of our issues to rate at about the same level of seriousness as the pillow*. I selfishly hope that you will be forced to keep up your hating for many, many moons on this matter. We’re just happy to be together. On top of that, we agree on most major issues that could ultimately drive a wedge between people who otherwise like seeing each other naked. We’re both committed to saving money and getting out of debt. Our views on god are spot on. Politics, same. Yeah true, I could use a little less of CNN’s doom-and-gloom in my life, but if he notices the furrow in my brow getting too deep, he’s quick to change the channel. To ESPN, sure, but He shoots! He misses! is so much more palatable than, Epic Economy Fail! over and over. I don’t like that the dog is allowed on the bed. He doesn’t like that I drape clothes on every available surface. There will always be things. But we tend to resolve them with wet willies.
“Isuppose given your recent bout of bad luck on the work front you’reentitled to some happiness. I just don’t have to be happy about it.”
Thanks. I think.
*There was an incident with a game of Spades which may have involved a cross word or two. And entire a bottle of wine in one sitting.
A P.S.: For the record, I did not see Robin’s comment as malicious. I saw it as honest. Who hasn’t felt that way? Most of us just won’t own up to it!
Great blog and great responses. I am thrilled you have found love and appreciate your optimism and positive attitude regarding the relationship. (No wonder you found love!) We need more of that these days.
Yes, I am a “Smug Married” but I’ve been in a relationship for 8 years and have loved your blog for years, regardless of that fact that I wasn’t a “Singleton” seeking company. And yes, I loved your blog long before I moved half way across the country for a job of my dreams only to be laid off a year later.
Thanks for bringing a smile to my day every time I read your blog!!
wowza! people are mean. i wish you happiness, ok? even if i am single and the boat of singles i know is rather small (i’m 30 and in ohio, oh my!). sheesh.
I think Robin should read through your older posts, maybe she can relate to those better.I find her comment very offensive actually,but I’ll leave it at that. I hope people don’t come on here because they want to see you miserable. I’ve been reading for a long time and I still love your blog.Keep writing:)
I love that you share your triumphs as well as your disappointments. Its a commonality that reminds me that I am not alone in my own neuroses. Keep up the good work!
I’m a lurker, but feel compelled to leave a comment. Fish, you were very gracious in responding to that comment as it’s entirely up to people to choose to read your entries or not. If they would rather you be single and you’re not, they need to just find something else to read. Maybe they’re having relationship issues because they can’t be happy when others are happy!!!
i just had a nasty breakup and i’m *so glad* you’re writing about love at first sight and just *knowing* and love being easy and instant. because that’s why i had to move on from my (quite nice actually) man. it was close but not quite and i just want to feel *sure*. thank you for confirming that it’s worth waiting for
I’m two years down the road from where you are right now and the honey moon-period still applies to me and my DorkLord. We count the first day we met as the day we became gf/bf.
Coming out of lurk mode to wonder aloud…What is wrong with people? Congratulations on finding someone who makes you happy. I would not wish an unhappy relationship on anyone…and I am wishing you guys well. I mean, whether you’re happy or unhappy really has no bearing on whether or not I am dating or not dating or whatever…I just enjoy hearing your stories.
I mean, really, people? Really? With all the economic and social misery in the world, anyone is taking time to hate on Fish for gettin’ some? WTFever.
Regardless of what this blog may have started out as, I’m thrilled at what it’s become. Congratulations on finding your bicycle, I couldn’t be happier for you!
Wow, I can’t believe people really said those things! The other day I was reading your blog, smiling, thinking “Heather has a good thing here…” I’m not really a superior person and I have been single since the Big Bang but I don’t see how you finding love should make me feel bad! Certainly a bit jealous but that’s human, right?
It could last a long time – marrying in 7 months to my GolfLord, after more than 4 years together. We still sometimes find ourselves just staring, and although we have our share of blow-ups, we end them in a tickle match. Best of luck, Fish – I’ll gladly follow this blog from single blog-hood to mommy-blog (if thats what you want…!
you haven’t changed, you ARE still writing about the same things. this blog has never been a “woe is me, i’m single” whine-fest. and thank GOD for that… i can do that on my own! if this reader wants misery, i’m sure they can find it… elsewhere.
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Before we all (commenters, not Fish) beat up Robin, I just want to applaud her. I don’t think her intention was to be mean at all. She was just being real – “happy for you, but, hey, a little sucky for me”. She wasn’t wishing Fish ill will, just saying she misses the “misery” in her company. Who hasn’t felt that before? That’s the same kind of honesty/realness I appreciate in Fish’s blog. So, yay Robin for being you, and yay Fish for being you. Fish, I do miss some of the snarkiness in your writing, but I’m glad you’re happy. All the best in this new phase.
I will heartily agree that I did not see Robin’s comment as malicious. I saw it as honest. Who hasn’t felt that way? Most of us just won’t own up to it!
I love your blog, I am happy you found love, etc….and while I don’t think Robin was being nasty, what I will say is this – anywhere online that you can read people’s comments, I have to say that by the time I read through a FEW of them, I HATE PEOPLE! MSN boards, AOL comments, blog comments….doesn’t matter – it seems that the majority of the people out there are rude, insensitive pigs. Just my opinion, though…
But really, I do love your blog, and I don’t know you personally but I am happy for the way things are going for you these days. =)
“I will be the first to acknowledge that I simply got really, really lucky. And I knew it from moment one. When he walked in the door that night, something inside me said (quite loudly, too), ‘Oh, there you are.’”
I’m so happy for you Heather, and I really mean it. I love reading your blog because I’m guaranteed many aww-moments. The iVillage people should be paying you per aww.
I know it’s still fairly recent, but I’m looking forward to the post about the two of you meeting =)
You know it’s true, misery does love some company! I settled into relationship happiness about the same time as I switched my blog over, and my readership has dropped on the new site. The old site, however, still gets constant hits from search engines for “broken heart.” It’s sad really, but sadly true.
I’ve gotta say, I’m another person who doesn’t see Robin’s comments as malicious. There’s a certain comfort in seeing your life and your experiences being reflected back at you by someone else, whatever stage of life you (and they) happen to be in. If you’re single and dating and you were used to reading about Fish being single and dating, and if you continue to want to hear about those things in a voice that only Fish has, of course you’re going to be disappointed. It’s not the same, even if it is a wonderful development for Fish. I appreciate Robin’s honesty.
thanks for your posts! i enjoy reading about you and the boy because, let’s face it, there is enough crappy news in the world these days! i like to read happily ever after stories – the hope is what keeps us going! much love!
Cheers to you fish for defending your happiness! (However sad it is that one must defend their own happiness…)
To all the naysayers…I hope you find some happiness out there of your own. We should all be so lucky.
What — no one’s wishing you a broken limb or 2? And a case of gout for the Dork Lord? What a bunch of jerks & creeps. And, no, I don’t think Robin’s or anyone else’s comments are “understandable.” I think they do show just how pervasive antisocial personality disorder is.
Much happiness to you, DL, big doggie & Sir Hal.
Hm, if we’re going to start throwing out mental illness labels, I’ll just throw into the mix that speaking honestly/openly without malice aren’t signs of antisocial personality disorder, but irritability and aggressiveness are.
i also did not see Robin’s comments as mean-spirited. maybe just a little too blunt?
i’ve loved reading your posts, no matter what was going on in my life. whenever you posted something about a different stage than where i was, i skimmed through it, then went to an older post. (i have certain favorite months/years written on a post-it note for when i need instant gratification, especially since i usually read your blog at work, like now).
you’re right that a blog only about being single would be way too limiting, especially for a writer of your talent. i love reading about all the other parts of your life. keep writing about whatever, i’ll keep reading.
Dear This Fish,
Long time reader–first time commenter. I enjoy reading all of your posts, but for some reason, this one prompted me to comment. When I read it, the first word that came to mind was aplomb. Your response was thoughtful and graceful, without being the slightest bit haughty or defensive. Very refreshing to read! Thanks for always brightening my day with your stories, reflections, and pictures! Best wishes!
I’ve read your blog through my own single and relationship struggles..as well as my own family and “fallen mormon” struggles.. and no matter where I’ve been and where you are, I’ve felt a common thread. You always make me smile and always make me think….no matter where either of us happen to be. You’re the voice I wish MY journal had the maturity to be. (after all–doesn’t every good mormon girl get a journal when she turns 8??!!?) Thanks for making me feel like I’m not alone…and I’m glad you’re not either…headline be damned!
I’ll own up to it, I had the same fleeting thought as Robin, only because I’m going through YET ANOTHER break-up. And it sucks. Which of course you know all about, and have written about quite eloquently. In the past few days I’ve actually read back through several of your posts, and found comfort in them.
Even though I’m not yet to the point where I’m hopeful that my own personal Dork Lord will come walking through the door… I do find comfort in the fact that you’ve been through this before, and have come through to the other side.
Like many others have said, thanks for making me feel like I’m not alone.
I read because I like you and how you think about things. I don’t care if you go live with the gorillas, although I am pleased you are happy! That is what matters- your happiness and that you write. At least that is what I like as a reader!
Even during the years (YEARS!) I was single, I read you for the writing, not the misery-loves-company angle. You write my thoughts with far more eloquence than I am capable. And your observations on everyday life and growing up are so relatable. (And the bunnies-on-the-swingset bit? Yeah. Exactly.)
Be happy. Write about happiness. (Obviously write about whatever you want, but I really want to hear about the happiness!) There are too few blogs that write about the good stuff. Please keep writing!
I’ve been reading for a while, and caught up on the backstory. I think your blog is living proof that life is not about the destination at all. Even finding the right guy isn’t a final stop- the journey merely begins anew. You have come so many miles from where you started, as we all do. Not all of us learn, grow, change, and flourish as you have. To me, your happiness now is a direct result of earning it honestly.
I am one of those who is finding comfort and hope in the fact that you’ve obviously found such a good man… I am so happy for you and tend to think that it means that there is hope for me too…
I think half the fun of being single is the journey that leads you to “The ONE.” And once you find him, all the misery is totally worth it and you wonder why you were ever so miserable over the wrong ones in the first place.
I’ve loved reading about your journey and will continue. Your writing is seriously hillarious with so much personality. Single or not, it’s fun to read about all the little and big things happening in your life!
You are one classy, gracious fish, Fish.
I’ve read your blog for years. I’m so happy you’ve found love. It gives all us hope. I don’t think there is the slightest need to justify yourself or your writings. We are after all, lucky enough to be reading about your life. How many of us put ourselves so selflessly and truthfully out there? No one in my life even knows about my blog. Kudos to you.
I actually really like this post, both the left comment and the response to it. Robin was being honest about something that is in NO WAY easy to admit, and Heather responded both honestly and gracefully. We’ve all been there. Some of us just admit it.
Well done you! I’m beyond impressed by the way you chose to respond to that comment. You have set a great example to bloggers and, well, to everyone one else on how to tactfully but honestly respond to less than agreeable comments.
Plus, I NEED you to keep blogging about your relationship. I’m moving in with my boyfriend soon and I’m going to need all the help I can get.
I hope you never have to post something like this again. How terrible that people can’t be happy for this new phase in your life! What kind of blogger would you be if you couldn’t find new experiences and new viewpoints to share with us?
I have a blog called Confessions of a Young Married Couple and it focuses on my marriage. But when I became pregnant (7 months ago), a fair amount of my posts shifted to that topic instead. I had similar complaints. It was a pregnancy blog now, a motherhood blog. Where was my marriage in these posts? But you know what? Pregnancy is a part of some marriages, just like living with someone is part of some relationships.
I like your blog for the honesty and humor you bring to every situation, not just the dating scene. I say, BLOG ON!
~ Katie
http://www.marriageconfessions.wordpress.com
There is always a little something about your posts that just gets me. LOVE: And I knew it from moment one. When he walked in the door that night, something inside me said (quite loudly, too), “Oh, there you are.” And that was that.
I am always rooting for you!
From the moment I started reading your blogs, I was sucked in. I went all the way back in the archives and read forward cos starting from the middle is like cheating.
You haven’t always had the best of luck. But at least you’ve laid that out for us, and given this blog (maybe not all) but MOST of yourself! And that’s genuine. And genuine people deserve genuine happiness.
Of course I may have rooted for the demise of some people’s happiness, but that’s been against people that it seems don’t deserve it. Even though that doesn’t make it right. . . But you deserve it H.
People wishing bad things for you for the sake of reading about more lonely nights on a couch with icecream should spend more time and energy rearranging things in their life than wishing bad things into yours.
Congrats again on finding love and here’s to honeymoon stages, wet willies, and a healthy cursing over card games. : )
It’s interesting that so many people want your blog to “be how it used to be”. How can they expect that? You’ve been doing this for years on top of YEARS during a period of life when most people are trying to figure out who they are and how to achieve what they desire out of life. In seven years change is going to occur and with each change we encounter there is a choice to be better or worse because of it. You chose to be better.
I’ve read every one of your posts and with each relationship that has come and gone you’ve hurt, you’ve cried, and then you picked yourself back up and faced the next challenge head-on, knowing a little bit better what you did and did not want. Your writing style and voice have always been there it’s just that the content of your posts isn’t that of a soul in turmoil and pain anymore. You’ve learned with grace how to be happy. There is no reason to settle for less for the sake of a few tortured posts.
I love this post. You rock!
The end.
there was a comment from an audience member on oprah a LONG time ago when oprah lost all that weight and was really skinny that i’ve thought about very frequently since then and that this post reminds me of. the woman stood up and, as she started talking, she got really teary. she explained that, when oprah was heavier, oprah was like a friend of this woman’s (who was also heavy), someone that this woman would “like to invite into her home to visit.” now, oprah was like a stranger, someone “different” or “better” than her heavier fans. the fans couldn’t relate anymore, and they felt as though they’d lost a friend. i think of that woman in the audience a lot and how she must’ve felt. i feel like robin was saying a lot of the same stuff, and i was astounded to read this post.
I’m HAPPY for you to find love and comfort after all your challenges. The fact that you remained positive, focused, and tried to overcome any obstacle faced is exactly why you have everything you do TODAY. Wallowing in your own misery and inviting others or appreciating their company serves no purpose. It will only pull you down – why aspire to mediocrity? Overcome and pull others with you, which is exactly what you’ve done Heather. KUDOS to you for being a better person and with luck, you’ll inspire that reader to see your positive attitude as something she might aspire for in her own life!
I just wanted to say I’ve been enjoying how happy you have been lately. Your stories have lifted my spirits on many depressing workday mornings.
Heather, as someone single who really wishes I had what you have, I think your blog at present symbolizes hope. It IS out there and for all those people (and I know there have been some ’cause it happens to me all the time) who told you that you were single because you were too picky. Pttttt! Congrats on finding your good guy. Here’s hoping that mine and apparently Robin’s is around the next bend
Your recent happiness IS my proof that good things are sure to come… for anyone of us.
“Oh THERE you are.” – Sigh! Melt my heart, girlfriend!!
Hi Fish,
I’m a long-time reader, rarely a commenter. But what I would like to do here now is ask for advice. My apologies for using your blog for this. I just thought this might be a good forum for my question.
I have a boyfriend who I happen to be crazy in love with. I also have, or used to have, a blog. I say “used to” because after I shared with him a few tid-bits of it, we had a huge blow-out, and I don’t write in it anymore.
Specifically, the reason for the blow-out was a particular posting where I wrote about an “ex”, and about what I felt when I saw him with his wife, years after we were involved (Note: this happened THREE years ago). The big problem was that I started crying when I read it to him. I cried not because I am still hung-up on the guy in question, but because I remembered distinctively how crapy I felt. How lonely. I tried explaining this to him, and after a while he seemed to understand, but the whole explanation process was really draining to me (imagine sitting in the interrogation room being questioned by the police for about 10 hours without water and the big bright lights shinning over you during the whole process). This happens a lot (the explaining myself part).
I know I probably should not have mentioned the blog to him, but I was only trying to be “honest” and “open” (big buzz words for him) about who I am.
I wanted to ask you: have you ever hidden your blog from a guy you have been in a serious relationship with? And if you didn’t, did you edit anything in it?
I am seriously confused here: he wants me to be open and honest about me, but when he gets the truth, or at least, a hint of it, in the words of Jack Nickolson: “[he] can’t handle the truth”. So… what to do?
I believe in white lies. I also believe that you don’t need to share absolutely everything with the person you love. But what do you do in this case, when he is asking for, even demanding, the absolut truth? The future of the relationship is shaky, and I just would love to get your (and your readers’) perspective (for future reference, if necessary).
Thank you in advance, and my apologies for using your blog again,
N.
Hi.. I rarely comment but always read.. I’ve been following your blog pretty much from the beginning.. I love that you are happy with boy now! You very much deserve it and I hope you two have a lifetime of ‘pillow fights’.. hehehe. I dont think you’ve changed at all.. and even if you have, its for the better.. fish+boy= lovely happy stories. Keep em coming!
I understand the “misery loves company” thing but as someone who has been reading your blog for a long, long time, I could not have been happier for you when you broke the news of your new love. I think it’s wonderful! But then again, I was never reading your blog because you were single, I was reading your blog because I think you’re a great writer. Congratulations on your happy life!
Interesting. Here I am all newlywed and I felt guilty for being happy for you b/c I don’t want to be one of those people who needs other people to be exactly like me (ie. in a committed relationship). I like you single, I like you with someone, I like you head butting a-holes.
Congrats on the Dorklord. I am happy with my own dorklord and read your blog because you do put it much more eloquently than I could ever write.
I’m sorry for your dilemma. But I vote for white lies and not-so-much disclosure. Plus, he seems a tad … controlling. You’re a grown woman…he needs to realize you get sad sometimes and not be threatened by it. He’s not 100% perfect…it’s hard to face. Bonné chancé!
Wow, I just discovered your blog, and now I love it!
I wish you and the Dork Lord only the best!!!!
I had my share of bad luck and heartache when I was younger. It took A LOT of work to get to the point I’m at now, and I did almost throw in the towel a few times.
But, like you said, there IS an infinite amount of happiness in the universe. I’ve found that the more I seek it, the more I find not only for myself, but for others in my life.
Believe me, I TOTALLY understand where Robin is coming from, as I lived there for quite a while! But, as I get get older and (hopefully) mellower, I wish for happy endings for everyone.
I took a break from the blogging world for about a year but before that I used to read your blog regularly. Then I come back and you’re co-habiting and all it made me do was smile.
I’m happy for you. I look forward to reading (if you’re sharing) about life after the honeymoon period especially seeing as how I’m in that now myself. That is when it gets tricky, no? But you have a way of telling things so that I learn a little something too.
You and I are the same age, and I found your blog back in 2003, and read from the beginning and haven’t stopped. I remember J, and all that mess of heartbreak, and I remember my own J-type situations, and I feel like we grew up together a little bit (not to get corny or anything). I feel like your readers have been able to watch you go from sweet and funny girl to confident and well-adjusted woman (who is still very funny!), and I like it. I obviously don’t know you, just the blog you, but I feel like if anyone deserves and is ready for the love of her life, it’s you. Congratulations, and I hope you keep writing for a long time to come (mommy blog, maybe
).
I always thought the headline was a little off anyway. Most of the time my browser cuts it off as “This Fish Needs a Bicycle– A blog that celebrates sin” Always makes me smile. I’m glad you found happiness with your dark lord and wish you the best.
Hey, Fish! I used to be a super regular reader and an occasional commenter and then I got a new job last May and then lost that job in August and lost track of your going on’s. I’m so happy that you found someone! I have to read back into the archives to figure out when that all happened, but as a SUPER single girl I just wanted to chime in and say that I never saw your blog as solely revolving around your relationship[ status, but chronicling a lot of the ups and downs that comprise a 20-something/30-something’s life. Anyway, I see you already are moving in so it must be quite serious. Good luck and I look forward to reading through your archives and seeing how things unfolded.
Hi,
I just feel the need to say that I feel a little bit like Robin. Of course, I ABSOLUTELY want you to be happy, but I want to explain that I did enjoy living vicariously through your single lifestyle. Since I have the happy, stable relationship, it was fun to peek in on your single life. I enjoyed catching a glimpse into a life that was different than mine. So, it’s a little more familiar and a little less exciting…I’ll just have to watch reruns of “Sex and the City” now, I guess. I’m still on board to hear about all your exciting new adventures!
Hey Fish! Long time reader- first time commenter
I have to say I am so happy for you and the Dork Lord. Your blog has gotten me through the lowest of single times and the highest of coupled times. Some of those were co-habbing couple times. It ended badly. Long story short, he said he was away with buddies for a weekend but really, I found his plane ticket reservation to see an ex girlfriend. When I called him there and confronted him, he showed no sympathy and I was moved out before he got back. Reading your blog helped be to put things into perspective. It’s been a few months now and day by day, it gets better and I’ve met someone that has real potential and is much better to me than him. I guess I just wanted to thank you for being my voice all this time. I can relate to your posts more than you know. And I wish you nothing but happiness with the DL! You deserve it! All of us on here do and it will come to all of us eventually- when the time is right!
Some of your commenters just need TO GET A LIFE! It’s your life stories that you graciously share with the world. If they don’t like what’s going on, just wait, it’s bound to change. I’ve seen you go through many changes since I started reading while you were in NYC. Good luck with the boy… the dork lord (I guess I’m a geek girl as I resemble some of his attributes but in female form). HUGS, Jodie
Well. I think honesty is great.
But sometimes I get a bit annoyed…after all, I blog and I put personal things on there and I allow people to get a snapshot of my life, my day, my mood swing, my love, my dating, my pain , whatever…..and when people say stuff like that I think “You don’t know me. You only know of me and what I write here, which is under my control and, what, you wish me unhappiness?” I don’t know. I don’t like.
Hi Fish,
I have been reading your blog for about 3 years. I found it right about the time I broke up with someone,and was feeling pretty blah. Reading through your trials and tribulations over the years has made me realise that I’m not the only one to feel the way I do.
Congratulations on the Dork Lord, I hope the job stuff works out in the end…… and I hope to read more of your adventures in the years to come.
Is the last anonymous comment from Fish?
No way, Jose. I never comment anonymously on my own blog. Ever.
Hi Fish,
I’m mildly surprised about the comments – honest they may be, but also quite negative outlook on life, huh? I went through many breakups, the last one being especially tough, and now I’m single. While now I thoroughly enjoy being single again, I sometimes miss having someone. Sometimes it physically hurts to think that I’m all alone at the moment, but it’s never gone bad enough to wish that on someone else! Anyways, congratulations to your happy coupling, and I wish you all the best!
Heather – I think Arden was confused bc when you comment on this site that it often shows up as Anonymous.
Hello all. Could you please enlighten an Irish person – What on earth is wet willies????? Over here that is something very rude!!!!
This may sound like someone’s granny, but whenever I would read your blog, I would think, “She’s such a nice girl. I hope she meets a nice boy someday.”
You deserve it and I’m sincerely happy for you!
Love at first sight? Really? I suppose it happens sometimes, but the idea that one day it.will.just.magically.happen is kind of not realistic….
Or maybe I’m just bitter from seeing my best high school girlfriends this weekend and talking about nothing but babies and weddings for three hours straight (i.e. conversations that I could not contribute to. At all.) The same friends who feel totally unapologetic about ditching on confirmed plans because they have wedding/baby stuff to do.
Seriously, since when does the wedding ring/epidural come with a lobotomy?
It’s only not realistic if it doesn’t happen – and I know plenty of people it’s happened to.
I am really happy for you that you have found a great relationship. Your Dork Lord sounds wonderful and you clearly have a great thing together. If one or two people are feeling left out by it, which can happen, I am pretty sure an overwhelming majority is excited for you and hope to see things work out. In time you will evolve into somebody a little different still with new set of priorities and I am sure you will still be a great storyteller. Ultimately, it’s your life and the only thing that matters is that it is what you want it to be.
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As a person who feels like her relationship is the best part of her life, the only part that she has ‘figured out,’ I can’t help but smile when reading about how happy yours seems to make you.
When it comes to other parts of my life that I just feel lost in, I get angry when other people have success. I hate that I am that way. I hate that part of being a human.
Hi Fish. I really like it that you don’t get angry at the commenter who admitted to wanting you to “fail”. Very cool…
And the “two words: honeymoon period” SO TRUE!
My husband and I have been married for 24 years, and we NEVER fought until we had kids (2 years after meeting). Once the kiddies are around, and free time is a distant memory, and housework and real work and heavy responsibilities pile up, well, face it, almost everyone starts to fight. But that’s okay. Its real life!
Our kids are almost out of the house now, and our fighting has gone way way down…
Empty nest, here we come
Okay, I have to admit, I totally understand where Robin is coming from. But stories like yours only give me hope that I will eventually find “the one”. And enough already- when are you going to finally tell the story where/how you met the Dork Lord?!
I had actually forgotten about my comment until I just read your blog again today for the first time in about a month. I would just like to clarify that I in no way wish you unhappiness, and I was most likely having a rough day with my boyfriend of a year and a half who still “isn’t ready” to move in with me. So, yes, I let jealousy get the best of me.
I hope you didn’t think I was wishing anything bad upon you. Like you said, I was simply being honest, and perhaps it was too harsh. I still get a little sad when I read your blog and think things like why won’t my “boy” move in with me, what am I doing wrong, etc.? That being said, it doesn’t mean I don’t still read it.
Robin
I have to admit it kind of cracks me up (I blog as well, just FYI) that people will take the time to comment on how they don’t like your blog as if they’re some sort of captive audience. Really, people. If you don’t like it, then don’t promote it, but more importantly, don’t type her web address into your computer. And remember, “Every girl has the relationship life she wants to lead”. So there
P.S. Heather I’m having a hard time finding you/the blog on Facebook (and issue you may already be aware of). Would love to add you as a friend.