Over the last several days, there’s been such a tremendous outpouring of warm fuzzy, that I would feel like a cranky old hag if I didn’t say something. I got caught up in the vitriol, and if I hadn’t put the kibosh on feeling sorry for myself, I could easily have missed out on the greatness of the last week.
Thank you.
Thank you for your comments. For introducing yourselves. For being real and honest. Thank you for the emails of support. For reminding me why we wrap ourselves up in this interweb to begin with. And to those (don’t worry, I won’t call you out) who made PayPal donations to the “ring fund.” Seriously, how dear ARE you people? Answer: SO dear. I know you think it’s small, but it isn’t. Not in monetary terms (we’re inching our way there!) and not in emotional terms. Especially not in emotional terms. It is an absolutely overwhelming feeling to be buoyed up by you. It makes my heart feel too big for my chest sometimes.
So, you know, thanks. A lot.
I just read this post and your last post. Ho boy. I had a day on Monday. I was cranky, I was grumpy. Nothing was going right. I went home and cried. I almost cried in class. And my friend called me and said: no worries friend, it’s gonna get better. and I heart you.
And three days later, she was right. It is better. And friends are awesome. Basically, I agree. We just get stuck on the negative and forget that there is so much good out there.
So fish, don’t worry. It’s gonna get better. And there are lots of us who are cheering for ya, and we heart ya.
Emily
PS-how was ring “window shopping”?
Emily,
I found something really lovely and elegant and simple and now we just have to save our pennies. Seriously, it’s lovely. I can’t wait.
H
Hey again. Been out of town. What’s this paypal thing?! Would love to donate for the cause, simply because it’s YOU, Heather.
I’ll check back in a bit….
xoxoxo!
Hey, girl. I will try to paste the code for the paypal button in here, but no guarantee it works! It’s over here though, http://thisfish.ivillage.com/love/archives/2009/10/answers—the-2009-edition.html
Lemme give this a shot:
Um, yeah, that didn’t work. D’oh. But you can go to the above link.
Awesome! Thank you.
(PS: My name is Elizabeth.)
Heather…this post, this one right here (and the ones like it in the past) are the ones that make me love reading this blog. Simple elegance in your appreciation that can bring a person to tears.
So, you get down sometimes and are not afraid to put it out there…but you almost always come out sooner or later with such a beautifully inspired piece of appreciation for family, friends, nature what have you that it makes a person remember that its not always sunshine but, that is okay because without a little rain the flowers will not blossom.
Have a fantastic day, ~k
And thank you for using the phrase “put the kibosh on” in a sentence. That was just swell.
Congrats on finding your ring! It’s kinda nice having a specific goal to work towards and you guys will appreciate your engagement even more knowing you earned it!
Heather, I rarely leave a comment but I’ve been following your blog for at least six years now. I’m sure I’m only one of many, many, MANY blog followers who absolutely adore you but rarely comment… so I’ve decided to come out of hiding to say I think you are an amazing person. I admire the way you always seem to find the perfect words to share your thoughts and feelings. Thank you for sharing tidbits of your life with all of us.
Oooh, and I would love to see a picture of the ring you’re saving up for!
Are these strangers that are contributing to your “ring fund?” Because if so, that gives me hope in all of humankind
And what could possibly be better than reading a blog that gives you hope?!
Yes! Strangers! Isn’t that crazy amazing wonderful?
Yay! You found a ring that you love and you have a goal to work for!
Also Yay! to the strangers who donated. I wish I could be all I can afford to send you are good vibes!
It’s so good to see that sometimes a negative thing can bring about a slew of positives! Take THAT negativity!
Happy for you and looking forward to the engagement post!
Heather,
Thank you for sharing with us. You are just a lovely person with an awesome way of describing life for those of us that just cannot articulate it! Thank you!!
I cannot tell you how much I adore your blog and look forward to every new post. If you have not already (? have you?), you should write a book! I would be one of the first girls in line to get a copy!
Now let me ‘run’ right over to that PayPal account, girl, because you deserve a delightful ring from that boy!!
I will gladly add to your funds because you make so many lives better just by being you!! Thank you!!
Have a good day because you deserve it, darn it!
Jen
Heather,
Love the blog and trust me this isn’t a critique just a question…but why save up so much money for the ring? I mean, trust me I know how we girls love shiny and sparkles but isn’t it the meaning behind the ring that counts the most, more than the size or the cost of the ring itself? Just asking. Personally my husband got me a beautiful engagement ring from Sam’s of all places. Beautiful Peridot(that’s green) surrounded in some little diamonds. Between the $200-400 range. And it means more to me than any of my friends huge ones.
Like I said, so not a critique, just asking:)
Cat, yes, we’re strangers to Heather, but Heather’s no stranger to us. I for one feel as though I’m helping a good friend achieve a wonderful, too-long-a-comin’ dream.
Melissa, for a ring that someone is going to wear & look at everyday for the rest of their lives, why not invest in something that she’ll absolutely love? Who says it’s an expensive ring, from what I hear, their ‘ring fund’ was in the single digits after the car tragedy.
Yes and yes, Laura. Thank you for saying what I was having trouble with – I think everyone assumes that if you say, Engagement Ring, you must mean a diamond solitaire worthy of three months salary. I know I’ve said before I want a simple, elegant band, but people still see massive dollar signs. I don’t want massive dollar signs. And yes, our fund was depleted with the car. So expensive is totally a relative thing anyway.
Hi Heather,
generally I am not a commenter as IRL I am sensitive to being given unsolicited advice. But I think you would like this blog, especially today’s post: http://www.apracticalwedding.com/2010/03/engagements-and-proposals-part-i.html
(don’t know how do embad a link the fancy way).
love reading you! definitely can relate.