The other day, I was asked by a woman (one who often makes vaguely insulting comments with a Cheshire grin plastered to her face) if I was going to start losing weight for the wedding soon.
Um, no, actually.
Ew.
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WTF? why would she think that was ok? What is wrong with people???
BOO! You should have answered, “No… Are you going to start gaining some tact?”
In the same file would be what happened to me on Sunday – I was playing with my friend’s 2.5 year old, cradling him like he was a baby and squishing him into my face. When I put him down this super creepy man (maybe late 40′s? Bald on top, stringy long black hair, rumpled clothes, sallow wrinkled smokers face) came up to us and said to the toddler, “I hope I’m next!” As in, he wanted to be the next one cradled in my arms. EW EW EW EW EW!
What is WRONG with you people? BLEURG!
I hope you responded by asking her something equally snarky.
How much does she weigh? I’d say you just lost that amount from the guest list. (although I’m assuming she wasn’t invited in the first place.)
Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat???
Oh my god! Unfortunately I’m usually SO caught off guard I don’t think of anything to say until later.
For next time–just reach out and hold her arm lightly and say “Aww…what can you expect from a pig but a grunt?”
OMG! People are icky.
I have a SIL like this…. she says so much WTF stuff to me, with a big ol’ smile on her face. We were talking about my upcoming wedding and she goes “Oh my gosh, I’m so excited for your wedding! But once it’s all over for you, you guys have NOTHING to look forward to in your life.” Hmmm…
I wish I could tell you the wedding questions get better over time….but they don’t. People have NO tact and NO boundaries. My coworker asked me why I was eating something when I should be worrying about fitting into my wedding dress! ARGH! My great fear is what will happen in three weeks when I get back from my honeymoon! Hang in there and don’t be afraid to be snark-tastic OR to lie
The wedding questions get more tactless as the time goes on, sadly. And then you get to deal with the snark about what you DID decide to do. My husband and my mantra for our entire wedding planning process: “if they don’t like it, then they can go eff themselves.” worked like a charm for us.
wtf. that’s the kind of thing you reserve to say to someone you really dislike (like that ex that kept texting), not to your random co-worker. tsk.
in related stories of stupid things people say, when i was in the emergency room answering questions about a minor car accident and injuries, i was asked the routine “are you pregnant?” i said no. an orderly then replied “would you like to be?” not appropriate! especially in that situation.
I hope you punched her in the face! Sounds like someone needs to.
Really?! (Ugh! When people don’t think before speaking! rrrr)
Sigh.
From me to you: Just let it go. Her opinions/questions are of no use to you and your groom. Focus your energies on you, your day and all the love that is surrounding you both at this time.
I have had the same conversation with two of my friends this past week. One who was asked if she was pregnant by a new co-worker (she had a baby last year and looks nowhere near pregnant) and a second who is currently dealing with her mother’s stage 4 breast cancer and asked by a co-worker if “she knows that it isn’t good that it has spread to her lungs.” Some people should not be allowed to speak. Ever.
I hope you told her to “SUCK IT!”
What a douche.
It is better to remain silent and be thought stupid than to open your mouth and remove all doubt….
Ha! People are amazing
I was just married in June; several months before someone asked
‘When are you going to start growing your hair out for the wedding?’
Way to make me feel my signature pixie cut is hideous…..
She deserves a swift kick in the rear! rude.
Put on your plaster smile and say-
“No, actually. But wow, how did you lose for your wedding? and WOW how much have you packed back on since? 40? 50?”
I think wedding comments are just the beginning (from what friends say). Once you are married come the “so when are you going to have a baby” questions. And once you’re pregnant, strangers will feel free to touch your belly. And once the baby is there, complete strangers will want to touch the baby and find it necessary to comment on your post-baby body.
I sure hope that’s NOT how it plays out for you. I’ve just seen and heard a lot and truly wonder why people have no filters.
I admit it, I’m a fat girl. I like to eat and I don’t like to sweat, and my fiancee loves me exactly the way I am. If anyone ever asks me this question…well, it’s a good thing the fiancee is a bail bondsman because he’ll have to spring me out of jail for punching someone in the face.
You should tell her that you’ll lose weight as long as she gets a new face for the wedding.
Wow. Just…Wow!
I suppose the ever-increasing rudeness of people shouldn’t surprise me, but it does.
(Personally I like Hillary’s response; “When are you going to start gaining some tact?” Hee!)
After the births of both my kids, I was asked THE MOST INAPPROPRIATE questions, by complete strangers! One man cornered me at a dinner party and demanded to know if I was breast feeding, followed by a lecture on how it was the ONLY way to feed my child. Not that he was a parent himself, or a healthcare professional.
Yeesh!
Miss Manners would tell you to give her an innocent look and ask “No, why do you ask?” To me, that’s the perfect response (I’ve just never had the presence of mind to actually SAY it!)
I love the Miss Manners suggestion from Susan. Now to rehearse my innocent look- it’s a little out of practice.
mostly i think people reveal the way they think and they way they think about themselves by such comments. has nothing to do with you
Not to commend her, because I do think that comment was kind of rude, but in Venezuela (where I’m from) everyone goes on a diet and exercise regime when they are about to get married. It’s just the thing to do. Back when I lived there, when going on a diet because I wanted to lose some extra pounds, I was asked more than once “you’re on a diet? Why? Are you getting married?!”
tell her to stop drinking the Wedding Industrial Complex kool-aid…
cause the WIC will tell you that EVERYONE needs to lose weight for their wedding! i mean, DUH. its only THE MOST IMPORANTANT DAY OF YOUR LIFE!!!!!! (i disagree – its one of many important days, but its just the most *photographed* day of your life…) the minute i changed my facebook status to engaged, the facebook ads all instantly converted to bridal bootcamp and other diet/exercise ads…
the best thing you can do for your own sanity is to hide from all wedding-related media and come up with some ridiculous answer for any time anyone asks you something inappropriate/rude/nonoftheirbusiness… ie, when asked why my wedding would be “special and different”, i responded ‘well, the clowns and face painting for starters…”
You know, I don’t think there’s anything sadder than being so thin on your wedding day that you don’t look ANYTHING like yourself. Your kids look at the photo and say, Mom who’s that? I’d rather just look like me. And this, right here, is how I look.
Just remember Fish…. there’s no cure for stupid and that woman’s infected.
Aw SNAP! Heifa is lookin to get popped upside the head.