I didn’t realize when I posted the story below, that people would take it so seriously.
Perhaps in this case, humor and hyperbole did not translate well. Or at all. Which is my mistake, entirely. And now I feel like I have to assuage your fears and tell you that my self esteem is perfectly intact, and that writing about silliness with my friend Todd (who now feels very amused and informed by all the comments) wasn’t meant to be anything more than fun. Entertainment. A little something to make Thursday more spicy.
I know, I know. I asked for it by putting it out there. But I guess I’d forgotten just how mean and nasty the Internet has the potential to be. Or how fickle.
Again, my mistake.
darn. that was some good cubicle reading!
Which is precisely what it was meant to be.
man. i just browsed through those comments. some people need to lighten up! or maybe get laid.
It’s always the loud mouth meanies that ruin it for the rest of us.
translated fine to me…onwards and upwards…how’s the job hunt?
I hate it when ‘experts’ offered unsolicited advice. Way to suck the fun right out it!
While I was pretty sure you were just playing around, it occurred to me that the post was a bit more … scandalous than most of the stuff I remember you writing over the last year or so. Maybe people took it seriously because it seemed kind of out of character?
Still say you should do it!! Haha. Thanks again for keeping me entertained at work (accounting often needs some spicing up)!
I truly enjoyed reading. The thought was nice to have even if you never were to act on it.
Damn! You mean you’re NOT going to get it on!? I was so looking forward to future posts about IRB Jr. (I kid)
memo to self: never again forget to check Fish’s site on a Thursday.
It was definitely an entertaining T.a.T post!
I’m a big fan of this blog, but rarely comment. I read your blog yesterday and Thought, this is going to get juicy. I was humored, excited, and drawn into the drama. Thanks for an escape from my reality.
I agree with Dani and still say a little cross-country lovin’ is never a bad idea
A few folks might have been a bit tart in their comments, but I don’t think anyone meant to be nasty, so much as supportive of you and encouraging you to make good decisions for yourself (the overwhelming sentiment being you deserve to be unabashedly desired and, um, everything that goes along with it). And, I agree with Amy, I think people probably took it seriously because it did seem out of character (which in retrospect probably should have been an indicator of the opposite).
Don’t ever justify what you write to the Intarwebs. That was a lesson I learned from you with your unsolicited advice ban. You’re a playful girl and some people are just mean! Really? They’re going to judge someone’s self-esteem based on a blog post? Oh please.
bring on the scandal! thanks for making me laugh.
but, um….she DID ask for advice, so it wasn’t exactly unsolicited
Please, it was amusing. You can’t take people’s responses to heart. There are a lot of bitches out there.
…Although if you were partly serious about previous post, I’d advice to think twice about your intentions/expectations/your threshold for pain before jumping in.
I’m confused… why would it be a problem? I guess that’s just me. Nothin’ wrong with a little hanky panky!
Ha! I said Hanky Panky!
Never forget, Fish… there are always nasty people lurking about who are waiting for the opportunity to say something unnecessary. Don’t let ‘em get ya down.
It’s sad that people cant accept us for who we are; happy, sad, full of fun – whatever we feel when we write.
I’ve never seen the point in leaving a hurtful comment, I guess people love spreading their own misery around, and that’s the price we pay for having free speech.
Thanks for not being censored by this negativity – I was entertained by your post, and always look forward to next.
It never fails to astound me how messages can become so warped in their reception. I’m baffled by how, ‘Don’t do it. If he has to ruminate he doesn’t deserve you,’ can somehow be translated as ‘I’m an uptight bible basher who’s desperately afraid of the expression of your female sexuality.’ Ahhh, the mysteries of human communication.
And I agree that most people were well-intentioned. That was pretty small-fry as far as internet nastiness gets. This is a nice space. Lets keep it that way.
I thought it was out of character that Todd had to ruminate. Good to see my trusty interweb instincts about him were right. I think the people that didn’t catch on to the ‘humour+hyperbole=ha ha gasp ha’ haven’t read you from the beginning.
Also, your high beams gave me high beams too
How kinky is THAT? I love Thursdays!
Looks like you and your die-hard fans suffer from the typical American “I’m-right-and-anyone-who-disagrees-with-me-or-has-a-different-point-of-view-is-wrong” attitude. Maybe Fish should put a note on her blog that says that only people who agree with her and her minions should comment.
Eh, screw them if they don’t get the joke. I say do whatever makes you happy. I think having Todd come to your turf is a good idea, what with the layoff and so forth. If he doesn’t come, take the money you would have spent on a plane ticket and buy some great shoes. Shoe therapy is good.
Well, really, isn’t that the problem with blogging? I mean, it’s all a fantasy world. It’s the INTERNET, for goodness sake! We’re all being storytellers. Unfortunately, there are people in this world who can’t laugh at the world, and can’t see stories as stories.
sigh
Seriously!
(And for the sake of those of us who are a bit more lighthearted, please don’t let the stodgy overthinkers keep you from putting posts like that out there. I, for one, loved it!)
Loved the post, do what you will, regardless of cynics
I know I will!
Your post delighted me.
Now, what I really want to know is not whether men and women can be “just friends”… it is whether they can remain friends after fooling around and pinning each other against doorframes. Hmm? If you are ready to embark on more interviews for Tell it All Thursday, I would love to hear some discussion on this.
Delurking from Spain,
Sue
I’m a lurker on here…
forget about what the mean people say. I love ur writing. this is your blog, ur entitled to say and write anything you want.
People are weird
Wow. I thought you were serious, and I still told you to go for it without reserve.
As someone who is in an immensely caring loving lasting relationship, I really wanted to see you have a wild illadvised risk-all sex-fling with a good friend. I miss that stuff sometimes.
I hate when people take my blog too seriously. obviously anything I put out on the nets either for a laugh or for a venting session.
i thought it was a riot. don’t let the people that are uptight and in need of a good lay get to you!
there’s a joke that goes; “fighting on the internet is like competing in the special olympics: even if you win, you’re still retarded.”
thus said, i’m retarded and i’ll defend myself.
firstly, i wasn’t trying to be nasty (or prude or bible-thumping – thank you, stephanie) in my comment on your last post. and i don’t need to “get laid” (yay, christine) just because i have a different opinion.
it’s true – i’m a religious person. nonetheless, i was responding as a woman. in my mind, it’s all about healthy boundaries and self-respect. if i came off as harsh, i apologize. it was certainly not my intent. i think i was pretty clear that i admire Heather’s intelligence and talent. it’s cool if we have have different views, but snarkiness (hi again, stephanie) isn’t necessary.
when you write in a public forum, you sometimes garner opposition. that’s just life in blog-land. it’s okay for people to disagree. (it’s also okay for people to get laid.)
now i’ll adjust my corset and stick my retard medal on the shelf.
I think some of your commenters need to get outside for a brisk walk. Glad to see you’re not only maintaining your sense of humor: you’re growing it.
Saw your hello over on Michele’s and thought I’d drop by and say hi. It’s been too long!
it was perfect and was as it should be. You Can’t please all the people all the time. And some people do need to lighten up. Though I must agree, why did he even hesitate… though i work with a very sexy and adventurous woman and we SUPER nasty flirt over IM all the time. And even began making out once before we both started laughing and she made excuses to stop. It would be too complicated (would not have stopped me at that moment) and is better not completed. We continue to write X-Rated emails and no one would ever know from our face to face conversations.
OK, TMI. I understand the complexities and still say go for it!
And tell us about it, great work reading.
I say screw them for judging. You write beautifully and it sure spiced up my Thursday
What happened to whirlygirl’s site?
A comment on the lady’s style that she could touch such a nerve. Brava! (and although I didn’t comment then – I was saying “I’m there” vicariously!) ;>
I hate that you get nasty comments… that ANY blogger would receive nasty comments. Didn’t anyone tell them the old saying ‘if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all’. ???
Why do people who read blogs bother to write such rude things? WHY do they even read if they intend to cut down the writer. It doesn’t make sense.
Fish, the comment you left (“No, no, of course you’re right. Dude should be leaping, not ruminating. The offer is off the table”) seems to show that you were being at least a little serious. Why deny it?
oh come on you knew that particular T.A.T blog was going to illicit a big response and split public opinion. I wouldnt be surprised if you had done it just to see what reactions you got – were u a tad bored per chance?
I liked the blog, it certainly galvanised me into leaving possibly my first comment ever. You got people thinking/talking – surely thats a good thing?
Desireenb,
She asked for advice, it wasn’t unsolicited. And none it was nasty, and no one cut her down. It was rather the opposite. Most commenters advised that she was too talented and funny and smart than to enter into a situation like the one she was describing. Stop looking for hate when it isn’t there.
Wendi – I didn’t publish any of the offensive comments. So, no one had the pleasure but me. ;P
As long as we are correcting each other, it’s ‘people are strange’ not weird. Bwahahahaha
I was surprised that people responded to that post in a negative way, since I thought was one of your best in a long time. You created not just a visual, but an entire scene, complete with dramatic tension and an investment in the characters and the outcome. But I know whenever I post anything more than how my day was, people love the opportunity to judge. But if your ego is feeling strong enough, don’t let anyone interfere with your awesome writing.
Are you still thinking about going? For what it’s worth, I went on a similar, er, trip. Was considerably hotter in my head beforehand than in actuality. Boy in question took it upon himself to advise me, at the end of the weekend, that it wasn’t a good time for him to get into a relationship. Not that I was in any way looking for one, mind you! Still, kind of put a damper on the whole thing. And is proof, in my mind, that these things do tend to get sticky. I wouldn’t say I regret going, but if presented w/ a similar situation in the future, I’d probably say “Nah.”
Fish – darling – get on a plane! Don’t worry about the internet dweebs – they are living vicariously through you anyway (heck, so am I)! When you’re a 105 yrs old, you’ll look back on this – when you’re lucid – and enjoy the hell out of the memories!
Go for it!
oh, fish. how many times will you go back to a dry well?