1. How to be a well-prepared traveler
2. The art of paying compliments
3. Non-surgical breast enhancement techniques
4. What beautiful is
5. Jealousy
6. Appreciation for stinky cheeses
7. How to dance
8. What not to wear
9. Photoshop
10. How to listen
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Not in this specific order
1. how to use make up
2. gossipping
3. what real friendship is
4. effective communication
5. how to take care for kids – I don’t have kids yet but I’m often mistaken as a mother by real mothers!
6. how to cook
7. some very good management techniques
8. graphic design
9. to say “thank you”
10. that we have he right to feel bad and cry sometimes
*The TRUE meaning of friendship
*How to be a great mom
*That cake is ALWAYS meant to be eaten
*That there’s more to a person than meets the eye
*Patience
*Great gifts don’t necessarily come in packages.
1. How to weed out the vicious ones.
2. The meaning of friendship.
3. How to dress for others.
4. How to dress for myself.
5. How to stand up for myself.
6. That if you drink a glass of water when you eat a cookie, the good outweighs the bad.
7. When a relationship with a man has become toxic to my health.
8. Purses. Everything about purses.
9. How to figure out what drink I REALLY like.
10. That I want to be a mother.
1. How to decorate.
2. That it’s ok to fart, and say you did.
3. That no matter how catty they were to you in high school, they still love you.
4. When you move away, even for awhile, they miss you the most & waste the money to see you.
5. You get so close, that yours is hers and vice versa (minus boyfriends)
6. How to live with other people other than family.
I posted mine here!
how to not take it personally
how to say no (delegate responsibility)
when to let him go
that i’m beautiful
that they will always be there. men come and go
1. About sex techniques I was always too nervous to try.
2. That girl-talk really does keep you sane.
3. How to recognize the better men.
4. No man will give you everything. That’s what girlfriends are for.
Can you share the non surgical boob enhancement techniques?
1) The joy of shoes.
2) Never punish the jewelry. It’s not the diamond bracelet’s fault your boyfriend was an ass. WEAR IT!
3) Acceptance, of myself and of others.
4) Crying is not a bad thing.
5) Love can be unconditional.
1. Boys are dumb
2. Communication
3. The exact color that will make my eyes stand out
4. How to apply makeup without looking like a clown
5. French braiding
6. How to shop
7. Cooking and sewing
8. Wilderness survival!!
1. That it’s ok to not be dressed up when around each other (i.e. makeup etc)
2. The meaning of good “soul food”
3. That it’s ok to not be so strong all the time
4. How to do crafts
5. Gossip unfortunately…
6. That any female best friend will last over any man.
7. How to share my heart and not get wounded doing so
8. How to be feminine and still be strong.
9. That kids are truly a gift.
10.That I love my female friends and always will.
Be well
Muse
10.) How to say sorry and really mean it.
9.) How to dance like no one is watching.
8.) To laugh from the bottom of my belly.
7.) How to make the perfect salad dressing.
6.) The art of giving the perfect gift.
5.) The beauty of a book you don’t want to finish because you’ll be sad when it’s over.
4.) That it’s okay to sing the wrong words to a song…as long as you do it with feeling.
3.) Always bring tissues to the movies. And share.
2.) The discovery of the perfect shade of lipstick.
1.) A good girlfriend will always tell you what you want to hear. A best girlfriend will tell you what you need to hear.
It’s ok to take time out for yourself
It’s ok to laugh at yourself
How to listen effectively
Crying isn’t a sign of weakness
Being alone is ok
It’s ok to standup for yourself
How to become a better mother
Being competitive is a good thing
The real meaning of beauty
Girls night out is good for the soul
1. That single mothers can be just as good as having two parents
2. How to dress and behave like a “lady”
3. That life goes on even in bad times and it’s unproductive to wallow in self pity (for too long)
4. How to make a man go along with your idea, by making him think it’s his idea.
5. How to make homemade mashed potatos.
6. That I deserve better than I give my self credit for.
7. How to be a good mother
8. How to do it all and make it look effortless.
9. That EVERY occasion deserves a greeting card.
10. How to love myself, flaws and all
10 things I learned…
1) How to cook – my friends appreciate it the most!
2) How to sew – its saved me many many times with a lost button while travelling!
3) How to appreciate a woman – esp the little woman in my life, my 4 year old daughter
4) How to respect nature – mom taught me how to treat plants with care
5) Love for animals – is there really a need for meat when so many vegetarian things are available to us?
6) Love for travel – Take some time off during summer to travel and appreciate the world around us
7) Family above all – under all circumstances, the tribe stays together
9) Be resolute in your decisions – wavering is a sign of a weak mind
10) Money is important – save before you spend
1. How to really, really love at least something about myself.
2. How to laugh un-self-consciously.
3. How to tell the difference between good wine and bad, and how not to care.
4. A true friend is there when things are really bad.
5. Sisters and mothers are irreplaceable.
6. A good french roast gets better with a dark chocolate truffle.
7. Women can always find something to talk about.
8. The Italian language is gorgeous.
9. I really CAN do anything.
10. Babies are tough. Good thing they’re cute.
In no particular order:
1- Always take joy in creating and in my creations
2- I adore being a girl, always have always will
3- Doing what needs to be done without bitching
4- A girl always needs her own rainy day/nylons/ egg money funds
5- How to be nice (still learning…)
6- how not to trust everyone (unfortunately)
7- Marriage / relationships are for two people ONLY (not the rest of the world or the children)
8- modesty
9- true courage
10- How to catch’em with honey AND vinegar
1. How to love & be loved by God
2. That mistakes do not have to define who we are
3. The difference between venting and complaining
4. That good shoes are worth the money
5. How to receive a compliment
6. To be proud and confident of my strengths
7. That some women are just mean
8. That women are truly the stronger sex
9. That no one loves me more than my mother
10. A best friend will tell the truth even if it hurts
Feel free to share the non-surgical breast enhancement techniques. Or at least introduce to me to the women you learned them from.
i couldn’t decide whether to go with the male or female friends list, so here’s both.
10 things i have learned from friendships with women
1. The mechanics behind making a butt look fantastic
2. Purchasing feminine products does not actually hurt.
3. How to help someone figure out what they already know.
4. I can’t dance, but I enjoy myself trying and that’s what really matters
5. It takes much more than looks to be beautiful
6. Sushi is yummy
7. It is possible to be just friends
8. Lasagna (from scratch..)
9. How to love your friends
10. Karaoke
10 things i have learned from friendships with men
1. Scotch is as intricate as wine
2. There are many ways to be messy
3. Seinfeld had a superman fetish
4. When it comes to TV size, bigger is better
5. Hire movers
6. Jack Bower is awesome
7. You can never use too much garlic
8. Craigslist
9. Where to get a bike for a pub crawl in San Francisco
10. How to setup and mic a drum kit in less than 10 minutes
Care to share #3? I could really use some #3.
1)loyalty
2)how to REALLY laugh
3)complete acceptance
4)getting ready and all that goes with it
5)the joy of slumber parties
6)dressing up
7)all the different kinds of tears
8)all the different kinds of smiles
9)feeling good about myself
10)strength.
would you share the “Non-surgical breast enhancement techniques”? That way I can add it to my “things I have learnt from reading This Fish” list.
I learned from women in my life that:
- sharing your vulnerability can make things better
- not everything is my responsibility
- wearing make-up and high heels and fashionable clothes do not mean I forgot I have a brain (or how to use it in case the car breaks down)
- there are people who will NOT run away when you try to get closer to them
- not everything is black and white, that sometimes everything can be grey for a day
- it’s not always about competition, sometimes the try alone is worth it
- it won’t be a guy who will give me an orgasm if I don’t know how to ask for it
- I will never be too old to do something for the first time
Thanks, my heroines
1. How to hold hands in public without feeling awkward (It makes more sense when you know I’m from Texas…)
2. How to love someone completely without judging them even a little.
3. Women do fart. Loudly. And it’s funny every time.
4. When to take a leap of faith and when to stay on the ground.
5. How to really take care of other people when they are incapable of taking care of themselves.
1. how to wear makeup
2. what you need to know about orgasms and sex.
3. when a man really isn’t good for me
4. to keep me strong when i can’t be strong.
5. purses do have a purpose.
6. its fun to sing like no one is watching
7. girls can be bitchy, often.
8. how to be a strong, independent woman
9. how to be a mom, wife and friend
10. what colors i should wear
oh yeah; of course, and how to quilt, sew and be crafty! ( i suppose thats 11)
1. How to benchpress
2. Cantonese
3. How to make sure a bra really fits and where to find affordable nice lingerie
4. That we are smarter than men
5. That I really do deserve better
6. It’s ok to eat the entire pizza
7. How to set a table
8. Some friends die slow and painfully
9. Seething revenge isn’t worth it
10. You got to look dumb and stupid on the journey to hot and sexy
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1. the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach
2. how to cook so I could acomplish the above…still working on it, though
3. how to sew
4. thrift store shopping
5. how to wear makeup
6. chocolate is the cure for EVEYTHING
7. sleep overs and under the table are the best places to talk, still
8. how to take y own advice
9. crafting is a sanity saver
10. what colors look best on me
1. Hugs are awesome.
2. What I say can hurt, even I don’t think my words have value.
3. It’s cool/fun to be smart.
4. Respect is key.
5. Women watch how a man relates to his mother or sisters.
6. Honesty is important.
7. Forgiveness is powerful.
8. That it doesn’t need to be perfect, as long as I am thoughtful of her.
9. No answer means no.
10. Family always loves you, even if you piss them off.
1. Bros before hos
2. How to let it go
3. I’m way stronger than I ever knew
4. Being a mother doesn’t necessarily make you a Mama. You’ve got to earn that
5. You got yourself in to this mess/fat body/horrible hangover/bad relationship, get our **** together and get out of it.
6. A family doesn’t have to be the one you were born in to.
7. Laughing until your face hurts is sometimes all you need when you feel like crap.
8. Being a dork is cool.
9. Being nice isn’t lame.
10. I ROCK!
Um seriously how do I make my boobs bigger without going under the knife? I dont have the money nor the pain threshold but my itty bitty titties could use some enhancement.
1. that some people are just mean
2. jealousy
3. how to dance
4. a properly fitting bra can change your life
5. the combination of flannel, red wine and pizza is a wonderful thing
6. the joy of Benefit cosmetics
7. boys get in the way
8. how to spit
9. how to shave my legs without cutting myself
10. all the words to “Rappers Delight”
1. How to knit.
2. How to pretape before painting.
3. How to make Dill Dip.
4. How to keep a secret.
5. How to move on.
10 things I’ve learned from friendships with Women:
* A sense of direction
* HGTV is ok in small doses
* Cheerleading is a sport
* Dogs are people too
* There is no substitute for chocolate
* Where to warm cold feet
* Brazilians are awesome!
* Spooning is the best sleeping position
* Coffee is one of the main food groups
* Friendship is next to Godliness
10 things I’ve learned from friendships with Men:
* Real football is the EPL not the NFL
* The only beer is dark beer
* Brotherhood is the real deal
* GPS is a necessity
* Forget boobs, it’s butt & legs stupid!
* Jack Johnson
* Bill Maher
* Perry Ellis
* Grilled salmon
* An awesome suit is worth every penny
1)Appreciation of real beauty
2)It’s ok to NOT be on a diet-eat the cookie if it’s calling your name
3)kombucha
4)Getting a card in the mail, ROCKS
5)Be kind.
6)Take care of your $$$
7)Being good at something isn’t a crime, it’s awesome.
8)How to be still and listen and not judge
9)knitting
10)your life’s mission is not to make everyone like you-say and do what you need to do when you need to do it.
*How to laugh at myself
*That it’s good to have someone else cook for me
*How to tell a guy exactly what I want
*How to accept a compliment
*if you can’t handle me at my worst you don’t deserve me at my best
*how to let go
*when to hold on
*bowling is fun
*Sex is great
*that the best place in the world is in the arms of the one I love
So had to join in the fun (if anyone is EVEN reading anymore).
Check out my list here.
My thoughts, whether you like them or not.
Here’s a few things I have learnt from women….
1)Attitude is everything – if you feel sexy you are sexy…
2)You can brighten someone’s world in three words
3)You can also destroy someones world in three words (or less if you really try)
4)Crying is not a sign of weakness
5)The most wonderful guys are often the ones that you don’t appreciate until they’re gone.
6)Some of the best times involve a Friday night, a bottle of wine and dodgy old DVDs
7)Chocolate is a wonderful thing in all of its forms
8)Shopping will make most problems go away
9) Life long friends are often where you least expect
10)If he isn’t racing to the phone to call you, he’s not that interested
I’m coming here to ask you what happened to Deb at The Smitten blog?? I know you would sometimes refer to her in your blog and visa versa which is how I found you. It’s been several months since I checked is and – she’s gone. What’s the scoop???
(From This Fish: Deb now writes a totally delicious food blog at smittenkitchen.com. There’s a link in my sidebar. Enjoy!)
From the women in my life:
1. How to knit
2. How to make a pie crust without ruining it.
3. Total transparent honesty with the right person is valuable
4. Your family is the one you choose, not the one you are born into.
5. I don’t need approval. Ok, sometimes.
6. I am a beautiful, valuable, unique person.
7. This fish needs a bicycle every once in a while. It puts a different perspective on life.
8. There’s nothing so bad that chocolate can’t help cure it. Dark chocolate, please with mint if possible. Raspberry will do in a pinch.
9. I can put together my own RTA furniture.
10. I am strong. With sufficient time, support and chocolate I can survive most anything. And live to tell the tale.
1. How to wear heels.
2. I am more beautiful than I let myself believe.
3. Makeup doesn’t always make you look worse, if you do it right.
4. It’s okay to obsess about that relationship that didn’t work.
5. How to stop obsessing.
6. Thinking your male friends are attractive is normal. As is wanting to make out with them.
7. How to mix drinks.
8. A new haircut is the best gift you can give yourself.
9. The joys of spa treatments.
10. The accessories make the outfit.
1. That it’s best to spill more of your secrets to your girlfriends than to your boyfriend.
2. That we have different friends for different reasons, and that’s okay.
3. That most women go through the same things, the same insecurities, at some point in their lives.
4. That even the most put-together women fall apart.
5. That prayer with my girlfriends cannot be beat.
6. That it really IS important to have friends who have known me at different stages in my life.
7. The meaning of true friendship.
8. How to be a true friend.
9. Chicks before….you know the rest.
10. That women are not always the best judges of men (we need men to judge their own kind and report back).
1. that the best conversations take place under the covers, by flashlight
2. that girlfriends will be there to offer advice and comfort in *any* situation… and will take you equally seriously whether they’re supporting you after a bad breakup, taking you to the emergency room and staying there by your side all night, or holding your hand when you get your legs waxed for the first time
3. that great shoes can truly make you happy
4. how to be a good listener
5. how to cook
6. the value of “girl time” – complete with pajamas, gossip, ice cream/cookie dough, and laughter
7. how to do makeup
8. the importance of manners
9. that a hand-written letter, even if sent from all the way around the world, can make your friendship feel as close as ever
10. that even though some friends will fail to come through when you need them most, others will surprise you with their kindness, caring, generosity, devotion, and loyalty
11. that I am incredibly lucky to have some truly extraordinary friends
Some of these got deep:
1. That this fish doesn’t need a bicycle…
2. …but certain things are more fun with a, er, bicycle
3. Think before speak
4. The greatest gift is listening
5. All the words to Shoop
6. How to use chopsticks
7. That life will not be what I expect, but it will be good
8. That attitude changes everything
9. Responsibility prevents problems
10. That I am not the only one just like me.
1) The art of multi-tasking. Men just can’t do more than one thing at a time well.
2) We can be strong & smart.
3) Organization.
4) How to nuture others.
5) Laughter.
6) We can bond and get along. We don’t have to be threatened by each other.
7) Mothering wisdom.
9) Life is full of changes, roll with it.
10) Friends will always be in your corner.
1- How to craft like Martha, cook like Julia, and still be myself
2- It’s okay to wear tennis shoes out to dinner
3- Patience
4- Empathy
5- How to listen to my inner voice
6- Vindictiveness
7- It feels good to do good
8- Not to let friends slip away
9- Strong is sexy
10- Shopping can be therapy.
Off the subject, but I can’t help but note you don’t seem to be enjoying this whole blogging bizness anymore. Are you biding your time until the iVillage contract expires?
(This Fish: Well, despite however it seems, I still enjoy it. Just stretched a little thin right now. Like everything else, it’s cyclical.)
There is always someone skinnier than you.
1) Being a mom is the hardest full-time job I will ever have.
2) Prenups are totally loving and sexy
3) Chocolates and festive cocktails are crucial to the problem solving process
4) Sisters suck…because they don’t let you get away with fooling yourself
5) Sisters rule…because they don’t let you get away with fooling yourself
6) I can be smart, strong and beautiful while crying my eyes out
7) My kitchen floor will never meet my mother’s standards for being clean
9) Family is everything…even when you can’t stand to be near them
10) Love is the best reward a woman can recieve
1. brown/black and black/navy blue = nono.
2. distrust isn’t reactive, it’s proactive.
3. personal gains = enemies.
4. personal losses = birth of sisterhood.
5. powerful women are scarier than powerful men.
6. how to enjoy “…a salad instead, thank you”.
7. what not to do in relationships.
8. there is such a thing as “a good cry”.
9. how to tell the truth gracefully.
10. how to get attention.
From women, more or less:
Small talk
Restraint
The importance of sticking to it
Celebrating important dates
Courtesy
Good cheer
Style
Meeting expectations
Analysis
Art
From men, more or less:
Banter
Exuberance
The importance of finishing it
Celebrating for no reason
Looking past the merely courteous
Cheerful cynicism
Grooming
Replacing expectations
Shaking things up
Music
1. You don’t have to be blood relatives to be family.
2. Honesty is respected even if it isn’t what I had hoped to hear.
3. I don’t always know what is best for me.
4. I will never be too old to need my mom.
5. Boys are dumb.
6. The outlet of being crafty.
7. Getting things in the mail is one of the greatest feelings.
8. You can’t save some people from themselves.
9. How to be more gracious.
10. I am a beautiful person.
10 things i have learned from relationships with women
1. I really do prefer to have men as friends.
2. That I really don’t give a **** what other women think of me.
3. How to be a good writer.
4. How to cook but not how to like cooking.
5. How to really enjoy New York.
6. That a good girlfriend is just like your favorite pair of sweats.
7. That bleeding monthly is much more of a group activity than I could have ever guessed.
8. That we really are all sisters.
9. What to do and what not to do with make-up.
10. I am my mother’s clone. And I like it.
Kudos for you, I have seen things learned from men on several sites, but not women…I might have to reflect myself…
1)That women are far more committed.
2)that women listen to their heart and its perfectly alright.
3)We make lives of guys who think with their heads, easier.
4)We cry and laugh openly without any guilt.
5)We have far too much love to spread around nd oftn selflessly too.
6)The reason why we are sometimes vicious and posessive is also because we are so committed and involved in everything we do
7)We dont take ourselves too seriously and most of the times can laugh at ourselves.
8)We make efforts to look and smell good.
9)We dont need expensive gadgets and huge cheques to make us happy.. a cute smile, a cute butt, a happy rainbow brings a smile to our face.
10)We are concerned aout all others including our parents even when our own lives are rocking and busy!!
1. How to be totally honest, even if it is not what the listener wants to hear
2. How to lend a good listening ear
3. How to share
4. How to “let go”
5. That we all have pain and struggles
6. How to seek peace
7. Khalil Gibran-The Prophet
8. That I have the right as a woman to be sexually confident, and to expect the same confidence from my mate.
9. How to persevere
10. How to be a part of a sisterhood.
10 Things the Women in My Life Taught Me
10. Like or not, life goes on.
9. Do it for yourself and no one else.
8. Don’t be afraid to take big risks.
7. I am worth every penny.
6. Instincts are usually right.
5. It is okay to fail or make mistakes.
4. Honesty always. You can always gracefully tell the truth.
3. Female sensitivity and emotion is not mutually exclusive to intellegence and reason.
2. The little things are really the big things.
1. You have very little control over how smart you are, how beautiful you are, how athletic or talented you are, but you have 100% of the control in how kind, courteous, generous, loving, compassionate and caring you will be.
1) Forgiven, but not forgoton.
2) Everthing starts with gassip.
3) How strong we(women) can be!
4) How much you can sacrifice for your love.
5) Cry.
6) Changing minds at speed of changing clothes
7) How to get attention.
9) Sex & the City
10) Mom is the best and strongest shield in the world!
1. How flaky some of them can be.
2. Who is my real friend
1. Shoes
2. Purses
3. Realizing it’s ok that you still haven’t seen the woman’s doctor for whatever reason
4. Knowing you’re not the last virgin in the world
5. Having a few tricks left up your sleeve to surprise your significant other
6. Having a sounding board when you’re too embarrassed to share it with anyone else
7. Mood swings are ok as long as chocolate is around
8. Watching your best friend marry the man of her dreams and knowing that you trust him whole heartedly
9. Bridesmaid dress you can’t wait to wear again!!!!!!!! And promise that she’ll love the one you pick out for her too!!!!!!!
10. Knowing that you have some to call no matter what time it is and no matter what kind of news it is
11. Knowing that same person strikes the fear of God into the man you are seeing
1. what not to wear
2. that men are pigs
3. how to have a good time without men
4. how to look pretty
5. how to “act” smart
6. how to wrap a christmas present
7. that i dont have all of the answers to life’s questions
8. how to walk in heels
9. that i can’t walk in heels
10. that not wearing heels is okay
Sometimes chocolate and a chat can be as good as sex
To love and be loved, warts and all (in a platonic friendly way)
Hair straightening techniques
The art of DVD watching
How to banish the blues, friends always make you feel better about things
To subtly tell someone you’re not that keen on something (usually an item of clothing) without offeding
Girls really are gossips and are really good at it.
men are from mars and women are from venus (and there’s no point trying to understand why they do certain things, just love em for it!!)
I like to cook for women, not so much for a man
Shopping
Girlie holidays = great…
Can you share the non surgical boob enhancement techniques?
someone wrote that and i was wondering the same thing. i have A cup still, and its like my boobs just wont grow, please help someone!