I’ve got a few things cookin’, but in the meantime, let’s play one of our favorite games! You know, the one where you ask questions (many of them awkward and uncomfortable) and I answer. Or, I tap-dance around and appear as though I am answering, but much like your parents in your impressionable, formative years, I practice avoidance.
I just may tell you to go ask your mother. Or look it up.
But who knows. Let’s give it a shot. You Q; I’ll A. Go!
*** Please note! ***
As much as I would love to help you, if you are seeking advice, you’ve come to the wrong place. I do not give advice any better than I take it. So let’s stick to questions I most probably know the answer to.
I love your blog. I wish I had a good question for you, anything I’ve thought to ask has probably been posted in a previous blog that I haven’t had a chance to go back and read yet. Here’s an easy one…what is your favorite dessert?
A: Thank god for easy questions! Tartufo is my current obsession.
We seem to have similar taste in music, ie Indigo Girls and Damien Rice. I need something new to listen to. Is there anything floating your boat recently?
A: Regina Spektor and Rachael Yamagata. Add bare feet, grass. Repeat.
What if the hokey-pokey is what its really all about?
A: That makes things a whole lot simpler then, doesn’t it?
What is your favorite thing about me?
A: Your wit! Also your boobs.
I love your blog, but haven’t really had time to read through all your archives. I did spend some time the other day tracking down the transition from Reluctant Kitten to Sir Hal. I am so sorry that happened to you, that is the worst. I know.
But.. let’s hear a funny story about Sir Hal! Also, because this whole set up really invites blatant nosiness, what color is he?
A: Sir Hal is black. Er, um, African American. He is also gay and British and a whiz with the tarot cards.
Bikini or one piece? Fun and/or sun? Hot dogs or cheese fries?
A: Let’s not go and ruin all the surprises I have in store for Sunday, Tanya. Beach. Blanket. Bingo.
True or false: It’s better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all.
And where does unrequited love fit in…? Or is there no place for such things in a pragmatic modern world? (And obviously I’m not talking about the requited unrequited love, such as on ‘Grey’s Anatomy’)
A: True. Of course there’s still unrequited love. The world is full of pining people with broken hearts, carrying torches for people who will never love them back. I think my own idea of love is so heavily tainted by those types of experiences that I have remind myself that’s not what it’s about at all.
are you ever going to write a book so that all of us who are interested can buy it? if so, when?
on a completely different note, did they catch the person who hurt that woman who lived next to you?
A: Ha! Well, yes, but it sorta turns out I’m very bad at writing anything longer than an essay. So that makes it a bit tough. And yes, they did. He’s waiting trial. Innocent until proven guilty and all that… I believe they have the right guy.
that’s my question, too – about the girl who was murdered in your building. Wasn’t that the one the press was calling a stripper, but was a dance student, too, or something like that? And maybe the boyfriend was involved???
Question #2 – is it wrong not to go on a second date with a perfectly nice (boring) guy just because he drinks water instead of beer at a concert where you’re kind of drunk? Just wondering if it makes me, I mean someone I know, really shallow and judgemental to point a high-school -like finger and yell, “LAME!”
A: Yes, that’s the girl. But if you want to know about her, I’m going to ask you all to do that by googling news stories. I don’t want to talk about it.
As for #2, as the girl who’s often drinking water when others are getting smashed, I’d have to say that if he’s boring, it has nothing to do with drinking or not. If not drinking alone makes him boring to you… well, that is another problem entirely.
What was it like to move from Boston to New York? I’m about to do the same move myself, and was wondering how the adjustment was. Thanks! : )
A: Well, that’s certainly not a short answer. But for me, it wasn’t a huge adjustment because I already had a pretty great support system here. I imagine it could have been much more difficult.
How do you tell if a boy likes you? I mean obviously if he takes you out he finds you interesting enough to talk to you, but girls sometimes DO think way too much! Maybe I need to use your “Hell, Yes!” quiz!
Also, this is not a question, but I LOVE YOUR WRITING.
A: Girls DO think way too much. Guilty as charged. But if he likes you, he doesn’t make you wonder. Simple as that. I’m actually speaking from experience. Thank god.
Question #1 – How is your newlywed Mom doing?
Question #2 – What kind of sunscreen do you use on your face? (I need to get some and I’m asking just around)
Question #3 – On a scale of 1 – 9, how much do the jerks that leave rude comments suck?
Thanks for being GREAT by the way!
A: 1. Mom is doing great. So far as I know. I haven’t gotten any, “Oh my god, I made a huge mistake!” calls, so I’m assuming things are good. 2. I use a tinted moisturizer that has sunscreen in it. Because otherwise, I would forget entirely. 3. Eh, 4. It used to rate a 9+, but I just don’t care as much anymore. Because, really, what do they know?
What are your favorite books? What are you reading right now?
Also, I live in Boston and have for some time, but just for perspective’s sake, what were some of your favorite places here (restaurants, bars, etc.)?
A: I love young adult books and was totally in love with the Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants series. Other favorites are “Like Water for Chocolate” and “A Tale of Two Cities.” I just finished “If Nobody Speaks of Remarkable Things” by Jon McGregor. It was beautiful. Highly reccommend it.
Are you ok? Physically I mean. Some of your posts have been a bit alarming to read, even for an internet stranger.
If that’s too personal how about: Palestrina, Bach, Mozart, Wagner or Schoenberg? Are you Renaissance, Baroque, Classical, Romantic or Modern?
A: Yeah, man, I’m fine. That fainting thing was a bit weird and scary but after that I was fine as can be. Ooh, I did have a tummy ache on Saturday. Maybe you sensed it.
And toally Mozart.
Q: where did you go for undergrad and in what? what is your “official” career title now? are the two related?
A: I went to BYU and graduated with a degree in Spanish and Communications. My official title is “Communications Manager.” So, sorta. I mean, when you get down to brass tacks, they’re about as related as the Pitt-Jolie children… in name only.
In an answer above you said, “I’m actually speaking from experience. Thank God.” Does this mean there is someone new in your life? Of course you may choose not to answer!
I love your writing. I also appreciate that your blog has introduced to me so many other great blogs. I enjoy my daily blog reading.
A: Yes, I’m seeing someone new. There will be stories to come, shortly. But in summary, he’s pretty great.
What the heck happened to you and Ben? I never see his name in here anymore.
A: Well… here’s the short of it: Several months ago, I realized that while we may care about each other, all of the actual effort to see each other was on my part. When I stopped asking (or going to his shows), we stopped hanging out. I have not seen him in over six months. Now, he may not like this answer so much, but it is what it is and there are absolutely no hard feelings.
Were you a Mormon? It seems like I read something on here once that made me think that and I’ve always wondered. I’m a FoMo, myself. (Former Mormon)
A: Yes, I was.
(Duh! It could be the post above where you say you went to BYU.)
I remember reading some of your posts a while ago about how you left a job that paid really well to try something that you thought would be more fulfilling. Has it been? Any regrets about leaving that job? And, if it’s not too personal, what’s included in a typical day for a “Communications Manager?”
By the way, I really enjoy your blog. Thanks for sharing!
A: I think it may be safer to steer clear of work-related talk. But yes, it is more fulfilling. Mostly.
I miss the cash, though. I won’t lie.
if your friend breaks up with her boyfriend because he calls her a whore, then gets back together with him only to break up with him two weeks later. and then, you guessed it, gets back together with him yet again (which she hasn’t bothered to tell you yet, because she knows you won’t be pleased). Can you you supportive without being sympathetic?
A: Wait, didn’t I see this once on Sex and the City? I kid. Sorta. Honestly, I don’t know that you can be truly supportive without some measure of sympathy (what’s a pat on the head without the ‘there, there’?). I went throught that. Only I was the friend who did the dumb thing over and over. And over. And I had a friend who got tired of it. And a dozen that didn’t. I wondered then, as I do now, what you have to lose by being sympathetic. If it causes a whole lot of irritation between you, maybe it’s not the kind of friendship you want to be in.
Hope it’s okay to post more questions:
When you began this blog, did you know that you were an exceptional writer, or did that develop along with the blog? Was there something that made you change from the writing style you started with to the narrative style you use now?
What is the best thing that’s happened to you as a result of your blog? The worst?
A: Aw, stop! I’m blushing.
I always liked writing. I like that people like my writing, but honestly, I don’t see anything exceptional about it. I embrace the ordinary. I changed because of a lot of reasons, the greatest being I didn’t feel the need to be so far removed from my writing anymore. The best is… this. All this. Getting paid, meeting people, etc. The worst is when I hurt my mother by writing unkind things about her.
Does your new guy (yay, I’m so happy for you!) know about your blog? What about your parents and siblings? Do they read it?
A: Yes, he does. My family does know about it and they read it, too. Except my dad. I don’t think he reads it… in fact, I’d be very surprised if he did. My sisters will comment from time to time — you’ll be able to tell who they are by trademark smart-assedness.
It seems like when you first started your blog several years ago that you were reticent to tell people about it…So I wonder how so many people found it? Also, what happened when J. read it? Are you still friends with him?
A: EVERYone found it! Teachers from high school, friends from college… but that was after I stopped worrying so much. Word of mouth, I guess. I actually spoke to J the other day (we still talk every once in a while). He didn’t read it — he said he’d rather allow me my privacy. Nice, right?
Fish – It’s frustrating because she’s a smart girl and she knows he’s not right for her but she doesn’t want to give up (i.e. she wants to fix him). In one breath she says ‘this isn’t going anywhere’ and in the next she’s rushing back a signing his praises. It’s hard to be supportive when she rakes him over the coals one minute and is back with him the next. i think it’s really unhealthy and i don’t want to supporte it. but…you sign up for it. you give as good as you get, and lord knows she’s been there for me in the past. thanks for the input. i’ll try to be more supportive and sympathetic.
reply Dude, I know, believe me, I KNOW all the ways it’s frustrating. I’m certainly not judging. But also, I’m betting she’s a thousand times more frustrated with herself. It’s not easy, but I’m sure you’ll figure it out. In the meantime, there’s wine.
Do you ever feel guilty for making us (and by that I mean me) less productive at work?
I shouldn’t be hitting refresh to see your answers. No, I SHOULD be getting on with the scheduling or maybe do those employee reviews I’ve been avoiding, but here I am minding someone else’s business.
A:: Totally. It keeps me up at night.
can a broken heart really forgive and forget? Or does it just let itself get distracted by time?
so how do you move on?
A: I don’t think you ever forget. I mean, if you did, what would be the point of having gone through it? I don’t have those kinds of answers, my friend. It usually takes me a long time to move on.
How are you and the Senseo getting along? And, have you tried the flavors yet??
A: We love each other! Sometimes Senseo gets jealous of Tab Energy Drink, but we’re all learning to live together in peace. I loved the hazelnut. Tasty.
Fish, your writing is brilliant. Granted I only know the small facet of you presented through your words here, but those words paint you as a kind soul.
My question is this…male-female friendships, do you think they are truly possible? I’ve heard so many rules/answers on both sides of the fence…
A: Yes, absolutely. I have never had any reason to go all Harry Met Sally and say there’s too much sexual tension, etc. There can be of course, but then you make out and get that out of the way.
who did you play “Heart & Soul” with?
A: If I can’t remember his name, does that make me a bad person? That’s one I will have to look up.
I love your blog. Read it all the time. I’m 33, independent, well educated, & single. I’ve had so many dates (which I hate) with players, liars, weirdos etc. that I’m waiting to find the right person, then I read msn.com & they have this article about dating after 35. Since when is 35 old? I’m always told I dont’ look a day over 25. Then my friends are all married & the single ones are crazy about going out. Please tell me this isn’t just me living like this?
A: Um, I can’t say for certain, but it’s probably not. Again, way out of my expertise. Also 35 is NOT old. But 36…
Love your blog desperately. This isn’t a question, but if you like YA books I think you would be really into Sarah Dessen or John Green. They’re both phenomenal. And keep writing! yay!
A: Thanks for the rec! I’ll have to look them up!
I love your blog….hopefully we get to hear about your new relationship soon? I know its hard enough laying your heart out there, i am sure it is twice as hard to lay out both your heart and your pen (or keyboard as it maybe). Just hoping becuase I love your insight and how you get reality just right when you write…i would love to hear your thoughts on all the fuzzy emotion–both good and bad–that is part of getting close to someone, especially after some hard experiences.
A: I know there wasn’t really a Q in there… anyway, thank you. And yes, soon, but it is always a tricky matter to write about such things when he is in your audience.
So, Heather, would you REALLY wait 10 minutes to call 9-1-1 if the air tank beeps? Also, sorry about the Ben thing. I was no help at all, so I seek forgiveness. Yes?
A: Yes and yes. Or maybe 15 minutes and yes.
did you ever talk to/see the photographer that you found out ben was dating via their blogs?
A: HA! See her? I’ve run down the street drunk singing “Matchmaker, Matchmaker” with her! The photographer, Stephanie Klein, and I became quite good friends.
Did you go to BYU the same time as Dooce?
A: Yes, I did. And we share the same birthday. So that totally makes us destiny BFFs.
What do you do for fun on the weekends?
A: Obviously it isn’t blogging. Heh. Um, I’m a big fan of sitting in the park collecting freckles.
Why do you run from me?
A: The intensity of your love frightens me.
The first blog of yours that I read was “Why’s it always gotta end this way?” …and I was hooked. Much like Greys Anatomy hooked me… don’t you dare break my heart !
I’m a magnet for unavailable guys. If they’re married or have a girlfriend, they’re hitting on me. Why?
A: I’m going to tell you what my dad told me when I was six years old. It helps me through these sorts of things. “Life is not fair, kiddo.” Helpful, right? Also, some men are just pigs.
What do you like the most about living in NYC? What do you like the least?
A: The endless hustle and bustle. For both.
When you say “intensity of your love,” you mean my manhood, right?
A: Eeew.
I thought so.
What would you like to name our children?
Speaking of dooce and BYU and sharing birthdays, did I get really confused somewhere or do you two also have the same name? Er, I guess in her case before she got married. If I imagined this, sorry! And I enjoy your blog very much.
A: Well, yes, we were/are also both Heather H.’s. One MORE reason that dream I had where I was staying with Heather and Jon on vacation should totally come true!
What would you like to name our children? -> SCHOOL OF GOLDFISH
aaaahahahahahaha. ahem. sorry …
Q: What are school of goldfish?
Is it better to be alone & happy or in a relationship that requires a lot of work & compromise?
A: Hmmm. I guess I never considered relationships that require work and compromise to be the opposite of happy.
I, too, am a graduate of BYU. Is it possible to love the school but hate the Church? I had a blast at BYU, but now I’m a FoMo. Who knew a glass of wine could be this much fun!
A: Um, I really don’t hate or love either, so I can’t say I identify. BYU was okay, but sort of limiting. The Mormon church was the same for me.
Would you agree or disagree that the Seattle Grunge meovement has much to do with the weight issues of our age group? By tying a flannel or poncho around our asses, did we hide ourselves from the truth. Not to mention the munchies. Also, are you excited for Bon Jovi’s summer tour?
A: Dude, I know nothing about grunge, but I know we were all about the ‘booty cover’ and tying black sweaters around our tight black pants. So I’m gonna say, Yes, that is a wise observation. Now pass the cheetos.
Don’t you hate pants?
Do you believe that people are inherently good or evil or what, and is your belief informed by your Mormon upbringing and/or living in NYC?*
Personally, I believe that people are inherently lazy and that’s sometimes mistaken for evil.
*I really tried to think of way to make this an innuendo or at least witty, but a late lunch and customer angst have sapped my will, humour and, judging by the bathroom mirror, hairline.
A: People are inherently selfish. I think that’s more heartbreaking sometimes than just plain evil. Harder to write off.
Snickers or Butterfinger?
Train or walk?
Hot dogs or Hamburgers?
Crunchy or creamy?
Monica or Rachel?
A: Snickers, walk, hamburger, crunchy, Rachel.
Top or bottom?
A: You said you’d quit! No more, G. Or else.
(bottom)
What would you say are the best places to meet men in a big city? Ademas, te escribo un poco en español para poner a prueba eso de tu “Spanish major” jajaja Soy una traductora argentina, asàque me llamó la atención que supieras español. Anyway, back to English, this Q and A thing is a fun idea, you should do it more often
Besides, it´s a good way to get out of a writers´block.
A: I never meet men when I’m out. Ever. I’m way too closed off for that. heh.
peep-toe or sling-back?
also, want to go to the beach this summer?
A: Flip flops! And TOTES! Just say when!
with me, obvs.
Foreign countries you have been too and general impressions? Let us make it two questions, oreo icecream or cookie dough icecream?
A: Spain, Britain, France, Morocco, Aruba, Bahamas, Canada and I’d go back to every single one. Only, maybe not get food poisoning in Morocco.
And Oreo.
I check in the afternoon and not the morning and the comments/questions EXPLODED! Are you sick of the questions yet? Crap, is that my question?
But really, When are you ending the question asking?
A: I think I expected totally different kinds of questions. I mean, I thought I’d get much less of the ‘advice’ and more of the ‘let’s get some dirt on a blogger’ questions. It’s weird.
I’m not sick of it… just a little tired. I’ll probably wrap it up sooniish.
I guess the type of questions you’re getting is proof of your earlier comment – that people are inherently selfish!
If you’re still answering questions, here’s mine: You said you’ve been to Canada… do you think it’s true that we’re like “America Junior”?
A: oh, I don’t know about that! Canada is big enough that I bet that there’s not one blanket statement you could make about the country as a whole. Especially something so heinous as America Junior! I was in Montreal and I loved it. It felt more like Europe to me than the US.
Fish, in a previous Q&A, you led me to believe this blog generates revenue…. Is this true? That’s pretty sweet! Do you get more $ if we click on the ads?
A: I get paid a montly salary to write, but nothing to do with the ads. Yeah, it’s pretty sweet, indeed.
If the comments/questions are still open, are you the person you thought you would be when you grew up?
Neat idea! Thanks for sharing!
A: The truth is, I never wanted to be anything professionally when I grew up. I had no ambition in that sort of thing. I think, however, I am exactly the sort of person I imgined being — with great friends, exciting adventures, etc. I know I pictured myself being married much younger, but that was the environment I was raised in. It’s been years since I’ve had that expectation.
is it bad to go on a date that i know will go nowhere, just because the girl asked me out? and which is better, saying no to begin with, or after 1 or 2 dates to make sure? not that i expect every new date to be “the one”, but if there seems to be nothing in common at all is it a total waste of both our time? (love your blog, by the way!)
A: Do you like spending time with her? Dude, who says you have to decide if it’s “going anywhere” after date two?? If you like her, you go out. If you don’t, you don’t. So easy. We’re so prone to overthink that we are our own worst enemies.
Wanna go to Dave Matthews at Randalls Park in August?
A: No. And not because I don’t want to go hang out, but because I really, really don’t like Dave Matthews. Even a little. I know. I’m like the musical anti-christ. Can’t we go get a margarita instead??
is it wrong of me that i’m a little bit glad that you realized all of the efforts to see ben were on your part, so you finally stopped? (you’re so worth a two-sided good friendship!)
and are you coming down to new orleans anytime soon for a visit?
A: Maybe a little mean. Also maybe a little out of line to say so, but whatever. I opened the can, I can’t get too annoyed with the worms. As for New Orleans, I am not going in June like I had planned. Other things came up.
Ok, so by now you probably know everyone loves your blog, as do I. I find your blog very interesting. I too am guilty of ocassionally putting down the work to take a peak. My questions are, do you find yourself distacted by anything at work? Do you read anyone elses blog? If so ,what?, who?
A: I don’t read too many blogs at work. I am more of an emailer. And the news. I am adicted to the news. I save the blogs for home!
ok, enough with the advice Q’s: cup size? height?
A: Now THIS I can get behind! 5’7″ and a 34B.
Loving the Q & A session. I’ve been a lurker for a while and enjoy your writing. Keep up the good work!
my question – what is your favorite movie?
A: I can watch “Much Ado About Nothing” over and over and over. Same with “Clueless” and “The Princess Bride.”
now that money is involved, has that taken any of the fun out of blogging? are there minimum frequency requirements, thus: has it transitioned into a job?
A: There are minimum frequency requirements, which, to be honest, I do not always meet. But my employers are very kind — there’s such an emotional element to blogging that sometimes it can’t be forced, or sometimes I require retreat. The hardest thing is feeling the need to be in retreat and knowing that contractually, I’m not really allowed.
Do you think the Glycimic Index Diet would work on a cat? One of my cats is becoming quite pear shaped. From her head to front shoulders she is normal, but from the shoulders down, she is all ass! I would have to put her lipids and triglycerids in the moderate to somewhat high range.
A: Dude, ask a vet.
If you could have the “Pretty Woman” ending, would you be a prostitute?
A: No way in hell. Couldn’t tolerate the shoes.
Am new to your blog…Snagged!! I couldn’t resist your request for Q. I didn’t even read all the other questions so please do forgive if these are repeat inquiries. 1) What ever happened with Rob? 2) How is that you stole my used to be Mormon, currently drinking, sexing and single life? (Only you made it all sound better and more humorous coming from New York – I’m still stuck in UT, FYI). 3) I love you like you love Fran Drescher, wanna be my new BFF? (Cue Twighlight Zone music) :>
A: Look for the How to Lose a Girl in Ten Words post. That’ll explain Rob.
And I would consider it horried torture to have to listen to even one Dave Matthews Band songs….. Who are you Fish??
You mentioned right after Hurricane Katrina that you were going to forgo a vacation and instead go build help rebuild homes in New Orleans. Do you still plan to go?
A: No. I was encouraged to act locally. So, I quit my job and work for a non-profit that works to educate traditionally underserved children in Harlem. I still gave up the trip to Spain (and about twenty thousand dollars) but to do something just as worthy, and perhaps more practical.
I feel as if I am writing to Anne Launders. However, you seem insightful and a lot like my girlfriends. But maybe your perspective will be better, because you and I don’t know each other. So here is my question: I have huge feelings for this man that flats with my best friend. He and I hooked up at the beach in January and have been on and off ever since. We have both broken up with the other people that we were seeing at the time, but neither one of use ever said it was because of the other. He has never actually asked me on a date and has never said that he wants to be with me. In conversation he has claimed that he is socially-dyslexic, he smiles a huge smile when I am around, he makes me laugh, in groups he stands in the corner like a boy at a school dance, he is by far the greatest lover I have ever had and he has even told me as much. However, we are not dating and I don’t know where to go from here. Help me Obi One!
A: Ask HIM this question, silly!
I really like your blog. I’ll definitely be back.
My question – if you had the opportunity to go somewhere really great for grad school but knew it would mean being away from husband and family for several months (which is very hard for me… I mean you) would you risk it and take the opportunity?
A: Probably not.
Ha…
Whatever happened to ROB?!
A: See above.
Why are people asking you for advice concerning their love life?
A: I have NO idea.
What 3 things/situations make you cry?
A: Being overtired, news stories about tragedies (fires, floods, hurt babies), Steel Magnolias.
Hey Heather! Did I imagine I posted to you about Blogher? I looked this morning for your answer and don’t even see my question.
A: I never saw it! Could be that you were commenting when I was turning them off for the night. What did you ask?
My husband and I are visiting NYC this summer. What are the two restaurants/bars that we absolutely can’t miss? Not too touristy, as we have been to NYC a few times before.
Thanks!
A: I’m glad you said not too touristy, because I sorta missed doing the whole tourist thing in NY. If you like BBQ, we always really like Blue Smoke and um, let me think of a second one and get back to you.
how the hell do you find the time to blog so much? and stay inspired even when youre not – listless being a case in point?
A: Well, I have to make time, since it’s my job. But as far as being inspired — I’m not always. I just sit down at my computer and tell it a story I’d tell one of my friends and hope for the best.
Hey Miss H,
‘Count your many blessings’ ;> and enjoy the sunshine! Here’s wishing you a great day…you’ve already improved mine with your witty prose! Heartfelt thanks.
in two & a half years I’ll be 30…I’m looking for different ideas for celebrating…a couple of friends & I are going on a cruise to Europe…got any ideas of fun things to do with the people that can’t go to Europe?
A: I am not the best party planner. In fact, it’s one of my least favorite things to do. I tend to prefer small groups of people doing very low key things. Like drinking.
“Inside the Actors Studio” questions:
what is your favorite/least word?
what turns you on/off?
what sound do you love/hate?
What profession other than yours would you like to attempt?
What profession would you not like to participate in?
If heaven exists, what would you like God to say, when you arrive at the pearly gates?
A: Yay/Moist. Hairpulling/B.O. A new text message/trucks backing up. Motherhood. Sanitation Engineer. “Nice try.”
Johnny Damon the Red Sox or Johnny Damon the Yankee?
Personally I think Johnny Damon the Yankee looks like Shrek after he drank the potion. Maybe it’s just me though…
A: Sadly, I have to say Johnny Damon the Yankee. I like him all cleaned up!
what do you like most about blogging?
A: I took some time to think about this answer (I wasn’t ignoring you). I like how blogging shrinks the world… both in the sense that it unites people of totally different backgrounds by shared experiences and also in that it can unite people who have lost track of each other. I like being part of that. Especially the first.
Are children who act in rated ‘R’ movies allowed to see them?
If ignorance is bliss, why aren’t more people happy?
A: Why do you drive on a parkway and park on a driveway? Yeah, I think I got that email, too.
When, if ever, was the last time you punched someone else (closed fist) in anger?
A: 8th grade. Headbutting is another story…
Who are your celeb crushes? Guys and girls.
A: Chris Meloni, Hugh Laurie, and Colin Firth. Angelina Jolie, Denise Richards (don’t judge!) and Eva Mendes.
Two questions, really:
1. 90+ questions–aren’t your fingers tired already?
2. Beer and burgers sometime this summer, no?
A: 1. Totally. Also, my brain is tired after all those questions that were clearly meant for the Oracle and not the blogger. 2. Um, dude, I hate beer. But I’m up for burgers!
A few rooftop party invites nothwithstanding, your response to “whatever happened to (me)” is fair, though it makes me sad to read nonetheless. My side (which you have no way of knowing, nor any responsibility to represent), is that I can’t seem to figure out how to share quality time with a friend with whom I had a well-chronicled romantic relationship, and a girlfriend with whom I’m trying to (finally) get “it” right. I guess I hoped we’d figure it out (or I would) eventually, and I still hope to. Not to mention I feel like a leper around your friends (which is my problem). Still, I think about you every day (which contrary to what you might think, is not true of 99% of the people I know). And I have been known to send you Richard Dean Anderson DVDs now and again.
But, guilty as charged (as usual).
How can you possibly hate beer?
A: So easily. Just like I hate eggplant. Eew. And lamb. Because I have very particular tastebuds.
This is advicey, but not deep advicey (and I submitted this last night during the apparent “turn off” period)…
Group of 8 college friend girls currently scattered about the country. Want to meet up somewhere this summer for a long weekend… any ideas on a city that is secretly fun and inexpensive? Right now Cincinnati looks geographically perfect, but fun???
Everyone join in on this, please!! Thanks
A: No, don’t everybody join in on that, please. If you want to leave your email, that would be fine. But don’t fill up the comments box with your vacation plans, please. I beg you.
Also, I know nothing about Cincinatti. But I’m sure wherever the 8 of you are, you will have a good time!
Um, I meant everyone FEEL FREE TO join in. That was not a mandate. Just a plea.
Some easy ones to get some more dirt on you!
Favorite brand of jeans?
Favorite style of socks? (as in athletic, knee highs, maybe those funny ones with toes?)
Favorite Saturday afternoon outfit?
A: Nice! This is easy. I’m a sucker for a comfy pair of broken in Gap jeans. I love LOVE argyle socks. Knee socks, pref. Saturday afternoons… sundress and flipflops.
Sweet or spicy?
A: G, I told you no more. I mean it, mister!
As a former Mormon, what do you think about the show Big Love? Have you seen it?
A: Well, Mormon and polygamist being totally not the same thing, the only part of Big Love that bothers me is the botched Mormon lingo. Oh, and Bill Paxon’s ass! So tired of seeing his ass after the first two or three episodes.
Favorite food?
Favorite color?
Favorite song?
Favorite blog (not counting Dooce)?
A: ice cream or broccoli. black. “Crazy” by Alana Davis. And uh, dude, don’t make me answer that question here! That’s like asking your mom who her favorite kid is!
How did you and Ari meet?
A: On the internet. Like normal people. ha! We met in person for the first time, though at a restaurant opening.
Heather, I read all your archives, and now have no questions to ask you.
Your picture on this blog makes you look cute and mysterious.
You are funny and I like your blog.
I have just finished reading the comments and wondered how you would look with your Sundress and ARGYLES?
HEEHEE just joking.
First of all, yes I love reading your blog. You are very talented.
What are some blogs you like to read?
A: They are in the drop down menu on the sidebar.
Um, yeah, sorry.. no, don’t join in on my vacation plans-to-be here. Not only would that fill up the comments here, it would be sort of hard for me to find… There’s obviously a link to my site and ways to reach me right there. Sorry, Fish, I thought that would be self-explanatory to your readers. My bad.
Just wanted to say that I LOVE your blog and have been a long-time lurker.
Here’s my question (if you’re still taking them): what’s the most sitcom-ish thing that has ever happened to you?
A: Well, this is going to sound lame, but… taking out the garbage. The other day I went to take out the garbage and I realized, that though it looked full, it weighed almost nothing. Like, you always see Monica taking out the garbage and think, “riiiight, like there’s anything IN that besides packing peanuts.” Anyway, I actually said outloud, “look! sitcom trash!”
Okay….I just posted some inocuous (or at least I thought so) LDS questions. They were there and then gone. It is driving me insane, although admittedly it is not a long drive. At any rate what is the reason? Am I blog inept or did you make it disappear? Do you have that power? If so, why didn’t you make the glycemic and blog picture posts disappear :> And lastly, I really must know, who is Dooce?
PS…If disappearing you did (read w/ Yoda tones) hopefully I did not offend. Not the intent.
Well, damn. I was going to ask your advice on which dress to wear tomorrow night. The white strapless or the red with the slit up to here? But now I see your updated note, and all I have left to ask is: what is the meaning of life? Or, if you prefer, what’s the best thing about living in NYC?
A: 1. strapless. it accents your collarbones. 2. go ask your mother. 3. see above. someone already asked that.
How long did it take you to find your niche as a blogger? How did you develop a solid readership? Has your writing style and/or design/layout changed significantly over the years?
A: Hmmm. Well, my niche as a blogger has changed somewhat I think. First, there was the super-tragic niche, which I filled quite well, then then chick-lit niche and now… well, I don’t know what niche I fill now. I think I had a pretty solid readership inside of a year. Not huge, by any means, but consistent. And I don’t think I did anything to get it. The layout changed twice — once when I got my own domain and again when I moved to iVillage. The writing style changed once dramatically and I think it changes in little ways all the time.
Answers to above:
1. 3 units of time
2. evaporation
3. archives (check ‘em out)
My Question:
Fish, why haven’t you tried running for president? I’d vote for you. It’s about time we get someone in the white house who really has all the answers -and doesn’t wear ugly shoes.
A: Ha!! Dude, if I got into the oval office, they’d be lucky if I wore shoes at ALL. I mean, those carpets are begging you to go barefoot on them.
Do you feel influenced by Bridget Jones or Carrie Bradshaw?
A: No.
What, if anything, do you love most of all the things the Dutch invented?
A: CDs. It’s been rumored that the Dutch invented love (which, of course I’m a huge fan of), but I’ve seen no proof of that.
Have you ever tried online dating?
A: Once, when I lived in Boston. I think at the time I wasn’t done being in love with someone so it didnt really work out. I went on a few dates, didn’t return a lot of phone calls. Ah, good times.
Now for a pathetically superficial one; what sort of clothes do you wear? What makes you feel dressy and what makes you feel cool?
A: In the summer, I pretty much avoid pants. Skirts and flip flops at all time. And camisoles with cardigans. I love a little black dress for almost every occasion.
1) Bras…. hook in back or in front?
2) Better use of time: relaxing alone in a nice bubble bath or a hot and steamy shower with a cute boy?
A: 1. Back. But frankly, half the time I don’t wear one at all. HUGE fan of the support camisole. 2. That’s sort of relative, right? I mean, if you’ve had a long day and want to be alone, option A. But if you’re in the mood for a little somethin somethin, then option B.
What ever happened to the guy you met in the bar who was so smitten with you? As I recall you guys got together one more time, but if you posted another update, I totally missed it!
Also, if your blog / life were to become a movie or TV show, who would you want to play you? Ari? Ben? Stephanie? the new man? et al…
A: What boy would that be? And lets see… Ari would be Sarah Silverman. Stephanie would probably have to play herself because seriously, no one else has that hair. Me… well, I really don’t know.
Okay, you have to pick one… Prince (yes the formally known as, now known as, and again known as Prince), Eddie Vedder (Grundgie Pearl Jam front man) or Matthew Mc…..
Who do you pick?
What is this, C? A sleepover game? She answered your first lame question, now give it a rest.
Do you read/write poetry?
If not, why?
life is a flower
eternal room
people are lovely
soon to bloom
(I like your blog name)
“The Guy” was someone who came up to you at a bar while you were out with friends several months ago. As I recall he was charming, totally charmed by you, handsome and black (?). I think you guys went out for drinks one time after that, he might have had a girlfriend, and there was mention of telling us more, and then the more never came… I’m grasping here. Does this ring any bells?
p.s. Never would have come up with it on my own, but Sarah Silverman fits my mental picture of Ari really well! How cool… If you or she think of who’d play you, I’d still love to know. Maybe a more hip / less cutesy Jennifer Garner?
Unfortunately, I seemed to have missed the Q&A. I’ll have to grill you in person on the new boy.
And about the status of the photographer for your friend.
Oh and you really need to just fall in love with Dave Matthews Band.
Karol of Alarming News comented in the post above. She also lives in NY. Do you know her? If yeah, what’s she like? Do you also know Dawn Summers?
A: Yes, I do. In fact, she lives on the same block. Karol has an amazing self-esteem and it rubs off on people. She also has great taste in clothes and were they my size, I’d steal her brown suede boots.
And yes, I know Dawn Summers. She is hilarious.
Terribly sorry Mark. Did not realize it was the equivalent of a Presidential Press Conference and you would be the moderator. (Damn can’t a girl have a few Marg’s and ask a silly, senseless Q?) I guess I missed the ground rules. There is a thing called a “grip” Perhaps you should get one!..
is it too late to q?
i only just recently came accross your blog, and i’m addicted.
i was wondering- would you mind sharing how you got into the blogging thing, on ivillage or otherwise?
thanks!
btw, you rock.
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