It’s Birthday Week around here (Thursday is the big two-niner) and so to kick things off, I thought we’d futz around with a little Q&A.
You ask the questions you’ve been dying to ask (boxers, natch) and I provide the answers. Right there in that little Comments box. We’ve done this before and it was very diverting (that’s Jane Austen talk for super wicked fun).
Ready? Okay!
Oh, and just to get it out of the way, anyone being mean-spirited will just have their deleted, sans apology or explanation. Ya dig? It’s my damn birthday. Be nice.
Who was the one that got away?
A: Oooh, nice one! I would honestly have to say, no one. I’ve been crazy about some fellas, but I don’t regret turning anyone loose (or being turned loose!). I’m of the opinion that the best is yet to come. Or it had better be anyway!
What is your dream job since you are obviously a very entertaining writer. Sorry if this question is stated somewhere in your blog. I can only view so much at work.
A: The sad truth is, I have zero ambition when it comes to jobs and careers and the like, so I never really considered work as anything more than a way to pay for the rest of my life. However, I love writing. I’d love to do that always and forever. If and when I have to go back to cubicle life, I’m going to be hurtin’ big time.
Oh, and thanks!
p.s. HAPPY (early) BIRTHDAY!!!
Heather, Thursday is my birthday too and I don’t have many plans for the big 2-6….What are your plans?
A: Dinner with girlfriends somewhere nice and grown up and then drinks at various less reputable places. I plan on doing something I regret. You know, so as to start the year off right.
Happy birthday!
What’s in your CD player, err, playing on your iPod (damned technology) right now?
A: I just walked in from the gym, where I was listening to the new Rufus album. I’m not that ecstatic about it, I’m sorry to say. Maybe it just needs time to grow on me.
Finish the final line:
Linus: You’ve heard of the fury of a woman scorned, haven’t you?
Charlie Brown: Yeah, I guess I have.
Linus: Well, that’s nothing compared to the fury of a woman who has been cheated out of……
A: Dessert.
So you’ve never been in love before then?
A: Eh, I’m not sure. It seemed so at the time but hindsight does wonderful things for clarity.
how did you turn a spanish degree into a marketing job?
i think that is what you did prior to your current situation. i ask, cause i am having a tough time turning my degree into a paying position.
A: I interview well. That’s really all there was to it. Just convince people that no matter what the job is, you’re smart enough to do it and do it well, and they will pay you to do so. That’s always been my angle on job finding.
Yeah, cubicle life really sucks. But it gives you lots of time to read blogs!
My Q: are you planning anything crazy and exciting for the big 3-0? You have a whole year to decide!
A: No, I don’t think so. I’m not one of those girls who’s scared of her thirtieth, so maybe I’ll ring it in with a trip somewhere – an big adventure to mark the next decade of big adventures.
How is your writing for a living thing working out? Everything it’s cracked up to be?
A: Some days. I haven’t been sick in almost a year, so that alone tells me this lifestyle suits me better. But I miss coworkers. Sir Hal isn’t too verbal.
If you could travel back in time, where to & when?
A: I don’t think I’d choose to. The idea of being without modern creature comforts far outweighs any romantic notions I have of time travel.
Happy Birthday!!
When did you discover your love and/or talent at writing?
A: I think we’d have to ask my mom. But probably when I was six or so. I’ve always been a big… um, storyteller. Which, when you’re six, equals “fibber.” But when you write it down, it’s “fiction.”
Do you ever go through periods where you don’t feel like writing and how do you combat that? Also, you have a book coming out right? How’d that come about – the book deal I mean.
p.s. I LOVE all your stories and sarcasm and honesty. You are rad.
A: Hmmm… there’s no book deal. I don’t know where you got that, but it’s a nice thought. I’m starting work on one, though, and hopefully someone will want to buy it. And HELL yes, there are days when I don’t want to write. Usually, to combat it (because I have to for my iVill contract), I call Ari and we talk about penises.
Despite the warnings, have you ever run with scissors?
A: What do you take me for? Of course not.
How do you feel about the Spice Girls Reunion tour?
And of course, Happy Birthday Fish!!
A: Feed Posh a sandwich. I mean, really, that’s all I can think about when I see that woman. As for the rest of them, m-e-h. I couldn’t really care.
Would you be willing to volunteer for three hours at a neighbourhood kissing booth (yes, in your neighbourhood) if the money raised was being donated to one of your favourite charities?
A: No way no how. I don’t care about the needy that much.
You seemed to have been able to live in nyc on a rather small income (from what you have written). Any tips on how you did it? I’m planning a move to the city in the fall and still looking for jobs (in publishing hopefully?). I know what I’ve read, but how much do you think that you really need to earn to be able subsist in manhattan? You know… the typical income/rent question, but from someone who has actually done it on a budget. Thanks
A: My rent usually took up half, or more than half, of my income. Which isn’t really advisable. Live in Brooklyn. Have roommates. That’s about all the practical advice I’ve got.
Are you going to move back to New York? You seem very content where you are now.
A: That’s all very TBD. The idea in leaving New York was so that I didn’t burn out and never want to go back. When I miss it enough to want to be in the subway on a 90 degree summer day, then I’ll seriously consider it!
You haven’t mentioned J in a long time. Do you ever talk to him anymore? Or when you cut him loose, did you really sever all ties?
A: J and I talk on a regular basis. But I didn’t speak to him for almost a year immediately following our split. Time wounds all heels, so they say.
Hello Fish and Happy Early Birthday you Cancer you!! One of the reasons why I love reading your blog is to here about the interaction with you and all your friends. You have a great diverse friend base and you seem to be a great friend. Did you meet the majority of them in New York?
i.e. Ari, Stephanie?
A: I did meet them in New York, though Ari and I met while I was still living in Boston and in NY for the weekend. Same with Sarah B. And Krissa.
Who is your favorite blogger?
A: To read or to know? Let’s go with to read. I know a lot of bloggers who make my world pretty effing awesome. But one of my favorite reads has always been Dooce.com.
If you could have any superpower, what would it be?
A: I want to fly! Or crush people’s throats with my mind.
My question is, are you still in touch with J?
A: Yes! We talk on a regular basis. He finally grew up, moved to Cali and is still one of my favorite people to be silly with.
I was under the impression that you were writing a novel. Is this still true? If so what is said novel titled, when will I be able to get my grubby little fingers on it and could you possibly give me a teaser, like say 3 clues, as to what it will be about? I have become addicted to your deliriously witty blog since I found it a few months back and would love to read any book that came from your brain.
A: Aw, you’re the best. Yes, I have begun the process. There is no title as yet, and man, I hope you’re patient. Because it’s gonna be a while.
What is a typical day in the life of the fish?
Happy Birthday! From a fellow Cancer!
A: Dude, that’s an essay, not a simple answer. Let’s just say it requires coffee, the internet and AA batteries.
Do you have a list (real or in your head) of stuff to do before you hit the big 3-0? What’s still on it?
Love the blog!
A: Writing the damn book. Man, it’s intimidating. I’m really good at turning out 300 words that all go together and make sense. But 300 pages? It makes my mouth sweat.
What ever happened to Ben?
A: He knocked up the intern. Now let’s never speak of him again.
favorite date (either person or activity)
A: Ick. I mean, not your question, but dating. I don’t like it. But a boy once took me spelunking and that was freaking awesome.
Will this be your only 29th birthday or merely the first of many?
A: The first and only! I’m totally not afraid of 30. The older I get, the more I like myself. I can only imagine that will continue.
Q. You talk a lot about the different places you’ve visited but you also complain about being broke. So my question is, how can you afford those nice vacations? I’m looking for practical advice here b/c I want to do the zip lines!!! woohoo!
And happy birthday! i turn 31 in August and you know, 30s are not that big a deal. its all a state of mind. :0)
A: Save your pennies, my friend. Why do you think I’m broke? Because I choose to spend my money seeing the world. Also, I have debt. I won’t lie. Our entire trip to Costa Rica cost under $1500. Try JD Watersports.
Happy early bday!
Q: what are your guilty pleasures?
A: Law & Order SVU, Ice cream, and naps. Oooh, I love naps.
I am considering taking the plunge to a less standard job to one where I work from home. How did you combat the fear? What if I can’t pay my bills? What if? What if? ETC…
PS. Happy BIrthday and I love your blog.
A: Well, see, I cheated. I have a full time gig that I do from home. I haven’t had to worry about finances. Yet. Good luck to you, though!
How do the men in Dallas compare to New Yorkers? Do you like them more? Less?
A: Less. So far anyway. I mean, New Yorkers can be so pretentious, but at least they have a bit of polish to them. I find at least a wee bit of sophistication crucial. I kinda like an edge. Also, I miss everyone always trying to be more intellectual than everyone else. Isn’t that sick? Mostly because it made me want to read more, see more and be more aware.
Whatâs with liking broccoli? You made this statement a while ago and Iâm still trying to make sense of it. If I could change one thing about myself, I would be seriously into broccoli. Or even a little bit. Please advise.
A: Um, what?
What’s your favorite Dallas Hangout so far?
Follow up question: When are you going to make fun of Dallascites?
A: I like Ginger Man when the weather doesn’t suck. And, um, I’m not. I like to pick people apart on an individual basis.
Yeah, I’m not great at asking questions, so I just wanted to drop in and say Happy Birthday Week!! That is a genius concept, by the way. One which I have happily adopted myself (giving you the credit, of course…I’m not one of THOSE people).
(I too am awaiting the above mentioned book. Patiently, though…don’t want your mouth to sweat too much!)
What ever happened to Rob/Joy? Parts 1,2, and 3 were hilarious, I kept waiting for Part 4
A: Okay, I have answered this so many times in so many posts, but we’ll give it one more try
Over there on the right – see the post called, “How to lose a girl in 10 words“? Rob is Drew in that post. I just wasn’t into him.
happy birthday week!
next time you come to austin, will you consider a meet and greet of sorts, or does that creep you out?
A: Of course! It doesn’t creep me out. That’s how I met so many of the people I love in NYC, after all.
2 more, if I may be so bold:
1. Any other cities on your list, to live in? Countries? Or is it an “as the mood strikes,” sort of thing?
2. What’s your favorite piece of clothing at the moment/season?
A: 1. Totally a mood-strikes kind of thing. I think I might like Seattle for a maybe-some-day. But I’m not really a planner. 2. Flip flops. Always flip flops. And this awesome little black dress I bought in Spain about 8 years ago. Some things never lose their appeal.
Would you prefer a guy who dresses too well or a guy who doesn’t care?
A: Too well. You can always casual him up if you have to, I suppose. But I just don’t have any sort of attraction for a guy who doesn’t care about his appearance, at least a bit. I mean, it’s part of having a sense of decorum, which is really important to me.
What ever happened to the people who were stealing your blog and posting it as their own?
A: No idea. Most of them apologize profusely, take down the post and swear they didn’t mean any harm. And then ten more pop up. It’s sort of a waste of my time to care. Which doesn’t mean I don’t.
Happy birthday from a fellow Spanish major with a birthday this week! (Mine’s actually today, but I haven’t decided when to celebrate. Perhaps tomorrow. I’m big on un-birthdays.)
Anyway- what are your thoughts on speed dating? Some friends of mine are trying to talk me into it, and while I like the idea of doing it just for the story, I also have been told that filing for a protective order is not so much fun. Thoughts?
A: It’s no more dangerous than talking up men in bars. Even though I didn’t meet anyone I wanted to date, I actually had a good time, and it’s a pretty good way to judge chemistry.
Have you been to Condom Sense in Dallas yet?
A: Nope. The need really hasn’t arisen. So to speak.
How did you first end up in NYC? And how did you get this gig to write a blog at iVillage?
A: Oy, that’s a long, long answer. Why don’t you start in the February or March of 2004 entries. That ought to answer the New York one. And as for blogging questions, see this article.
What completely irrational (as in, I have NO idea where this came from) song gets stuck in your head the most??
Mine is Incomplete by the Backstreet Boys.
Yeah, I know.
A: Awesome. Just awesome. Mine is Raindrops Keep Fallin’ on My Head. I don’t know why. But it never ever goes away.
Hey Fish! For the past three years, I’ve noticed we have the same birthday and never said anything. So here goes – my first comment. Happy birthday! Mine’s the big two-five. My question: I had a crappy 2-3 and a worse 2-4. How was your 25th year? People keep trying to tell me that 25 is a great age, but I’m struggling with the whole “quarter-of-a-century” thing!!! :S
A: Two-five was awesome. I made great friends that year. And ditched some not so great ones. It’s gonna be what you make of it, so here’s to it being really kick-ass.
Paper, Rock, or Scissors?
Also, margaritas in Phoenix next time you’re around?
A: I never win at that game. I won’t even try. And absolutely! Though, it’s my sister-in-law’s family out there, and they haven’t invited me to tea yet!
Do these pants make my ass look fat?
A: Oooh, have you lost weight?
Happy Birthday! My birthday was last Thur. and we’ve celebrated 3 days in a row. If you like rustic but great eating places, I recommend a field trip to Ponder TX to visit the Ranchman’s Cafe. http://www.ranchman.com
Q: Do you ever regret living the “observed life” as a blogger?
A: Yes, actually. For one, sentiments that are very alive in the moment, lose their meaning over time (anger, etc) and things said in haste just hang around in the ethers forever. Not very forgiving. Also, the general public isn’t always so good about not crossing lines.
I’ve read about your baby lust & it sounds similar to mine…
So, if you don’t meet the man of your dreams by an age you’d want to have a baby, would you adopt? I’ve been thinking I would adopt if I don’t meet him in my baby making years (and maybe I will adopt, even if I DO meet him in time).
A: YES. In fact, we were talking about that this weekend. I think that at 35, if I’m financially able, and have not been blessed with the traditional means of baby acquisition, I will consider adoption or AI.
Here is my second question today—
Have you been to Grapevine? Now that you are in Dallas if you haven’t you should check it out. There is a kickass outlet mall there and the Gaylord Texan and they have a fun wine festival sometime during the year.
I lived there during middle school so I didn’t get to enjoy any of those great things but I plan on going back someday to take it all in
A: Yeah, I went to Grapevine when I lived here before. I don’t remember it being all that. But also, my spending power was so much more limited in those days!
Happy Birthday, Fish! I turn 30 tomorrow myself.
Q: What would you consider to be your biggest fear?
A: Messing up. I’m terrified of making mistakes. And anything with too few or too many legs. Like snakes and spiders.
No questions from me, just birthday wishes a couple of days early!!
Hope it’s a happy year!
Happy Birthday! And, that’s *great* news you’re trying something new even though it also scares you…good luck with your book-in-the-works~! Know that you have countless supporters, too =)
From your blog, I know that you love kissing, haha…so then, what’s your favorite kind of kiss (do you have a preference, even slightly)? And, what type of kiss was your most memorable one? It might be the same for you, but thought I’d ask just in case b/c for me, my most memorable kiss (thus far) happened to be directly opposite of kind of kissing that I like best.
I’m glad you did another Q&A!
A: First kisses, for sure.
So if you hate dating what are your plans for finding a mate?
Happy 2-9!
A: I do a lot of things I hate, just because I know it’s good for me. Dating would be one of those things.
Ever make it out to San Diego? We could use a little Fish meet and greet!
A: Well, if I ever make it out there, I’ll let you know!
I thought that I read once you had a Montana connection…is that true or did I dream it?
A: Um, I’ve been there when I was a kid and a couple times during college. But that’s it. I don’t know that I’ve ever written about it, either.
How’s the yummy table-lifter/neighbor situation going?
A: Still admiring from afar.
What’s the furthest that you’d go for great ribs?
A: My mom’s house.
Do you ever look at your blog some days and get sick of the pink? I’m not saying pink isn’t awesome but there’s a whole lot of pink here.
A: No.
Happy Birthday! My big 2-9 is on Wednesday, and my plans are very similar to yours. I think I will hold out for the weekend, though.
I have two questions:
1) Have you ever considered Chicago as a place to visit/live in?
2) If you could wish for one gift on your birthday, what would it be?
A: Happy Birthday! 1) Noooo. Too far North for me. I was caught there in a snow storm once and I was miserable. That place gets COLD! 2) Someone to come to my apartment and hang the shelves that I effed up. Man, that would be swell.
How much do you miss me?
A: There are no words, Torrie. None. Also, I need to nibble your baby’s toes so soon or I will implode.
Movies…
Favorites and why…
Go…
A: That’s a lot. I’ll give you one favorite and why. Much Ado About Nothing. Because Benedict and Beatrice are the best foils for each other. Best onscreen chemistry ever.
Are you going to find out what is under a scotsman’s kilt? Or are you going to make me do it? hee hee hee
Happy Birthday, can’t wait for dins and sips!
A: Partners in crime, my friend. God, I can’t wait.
HappyHappyBirthday. *spank* repeat 29 times +1
Slightly different than the time travel question from above. In Which decade would you like to have spent your formative years (16-26) in. In terms of events historical or otherwise, style, revolution. Modern creature comforts notwithstanding.
A: You know, I wouldn’t change a thing. Unless I could go live on the farm with Pa and Ma and Laura and Mary, I think I’m gonna stick with my own era.
P.S. You know I am bringing that damn cake you left at my house to your birthday shindig you evil, evil chickie! That is if I dont eat the whole thing myself before then. Thanks a bunch! heh
First, Happy Birthday!! I realize that you are not sure if you have even experienced love yet, but do you believe in soulmates at all based on your friends experiences?
A: I don’t believe in soulmates. I believe in compatibility and timing and all. But not soulmates.
Happy Birthday fish!
Q: What’s in your purse right now? And name your top 3 beauty tips.
A: Nothing exciting, I guarantee. Olive oil as a moisturizer, baby powder on the scalp if hair looks a little dirty, and NuBra (Stephanie Klein turned me onto it).
Happy Happy Birthday! I hope your birthday wishes come true! As for the Q, let’s see…what’s your number one pet peeve? And..what do you do with a bf who admits he’s ‘physically restless’?
A: Physically restless? What does that even MEAN? Tell him to buy a Bowflex. My number one pet peeve is unsolicited advice. Hands down.
Happy Birthday!
What do you do when you’re bored?
What do you do when you’re furious?
What do you do when you’re sad?
A: Read. Eat. Call my sister.
How do you know you’re over someone? Is it even possible to ever truly get over someone or do you think you will always feel something for them?
A: You mean besides really pissed off? Of course it’s possible to get over someone. It’s all about time.
Bit of a girly question! – what are the 3 beauty products that you can’t live without? I’m after brand and shade here!
A: olive oil, Clinique lip gloss in Air Kiss, and OPI Chick Flick Cherry.
Happy Birthday to you!!
I am about to go visit a guy I used to date.. the last time I saw him was EIGHT years ago!! How would you blow a guy away after such a long time? What do you recommend?
A: Something small caliber that fits nicely in your purse.
Happy Birthday and many happy more. Speaking from just the other side of 30, I can say that it only gets better.
Unsolicited advice being its own thing, what are your thoughts on flamewars and blog trolls v. freedom of speech for blog commenters?
A: There is no such thing as freedom of speech on my blog. This is not a public place (if it were, you wouldn’t need a password to get into it, yes?) so I don’t feel bad making the rules for my own turf and deleting comments that are inflammatory or rude or even just irritating. And I’m easily irritated.
Happy, Happy. Musically I’ve seen you mention Lisa Loeb (excellent choice). Who are your other favorite singer/songwriters or funk, rap, rock & reggae artists. A word to the wise. I got married at 29. Tread lightly.
Happy B-day week! My Q:
Does Mom have a recipe for the great ribs?
A: The woman has a recipe for everything great.
Colin Firth or Hugh Grant?
A: Colin Firth. Hugh’s had that nasty Divine Brown incident.
So what’s the Fish life plan?
And are you from Dallas? Why’d you pick there to move to? (Sorry if this was addressed in the archives).
Happy birthday Heather!
A: I don’t have a life plan, dude! I don’t even have a weekly planner.
Happy Birthday, 29 is a good age to be. And you’re right about turning 30, it’s nothing to be concerned about. It’s just like being in your 20s, but you like yourself more and realise just how god-damned hot you are!
My question: What qualities does your dream guy possess?
A: A laser level and a huuuuuge…. library.
As someone who’s life seems to parallel yours quite a bit (writer, work at home, have one cat, made a big move at exactly the same age – a couple yrs ago, similar tastes in music, similar dating experiences, keen appreciation for biting sarcasm, etc), how much does it bother you when someone says “I think we live parallel lives”? Oh, and would you consider taking up rock climbing? Because then seriously…parallel
A: Doesn’t bother me NEAR as much as people being just CERTAIN we’d fall madly in love if we met. Um, sure we would, buddy.
And no, I didn’t mean you – I know you’re a girl!
Do you buy yourself a birthday present from Sir Hal?
Also, if your fiance relocated several states away (for work) to a city you very much wanted to move to as well, but told you that you could come but your cat couldn’t, what would you do? If you couldn’t afford to move and live there on your own, that is.
A: What kind of man says that? He wouldn’t be my fiance in the first place, that’s for sure.
So, friends with your ex. After a year of not speaking – why go there?
Happy Birthday!
A: Is that even a question? Why not go there?
Q: Any other words that make you cringe? or maybe just shudder when they are vocalized?
p.s. my 2-7 was last Thursday and my daughter decided to tell everyone I was 2-8 (Don’t make me closer to 3-0!!!) Hope your’s is/was as much fun as mine
A: Irregardless. It makes me want to punch someone.
First, happy 2-9! I’ve been reading more and commenting less lately. I’m glad all those people asked the “serious” questions so I can ask something unimportant. Hmmm… okay…
What’s the best concert to which you’ve ever been?
(Okay, that’s not unimportant at all.)
A: I really haven’t been to too many concerts… mostly because I don’t like crowds. I saw Aimee Mann and the Indigo Girls in college and that nice and low key. Good show.
Hi Fish,
Happy Birthday! I know you mentioned that you are not planning on moving back to NY as of yet, but when you start to miss the city, how do you keep from packing up Sir Hal and your things and jumping on the next plane to NYC?
A: Um, I don’t really miss NYC yet. I miss my friends, for sure, but that’s pretty easily solved by picking up the phone. And hell if I am ever taking Hal on a plane again That was so stressful!
Happy birthday week
My question: Elliot Stabler or Mr. Darcy?
A: That’s not fair. I refuse to choose. They’ll have to duke it out.
Happy Birthday Sweet Pea!
My question is about your Dad. (feel free to delete!) How is he doing?
For the record: I hope he’s great.
A: He is doing pretty well. Thanks
Do you ever feel like you missed out by having a summer birthday and couldn’t bring treats to your classmates?
A: I’d say yes, but in our elementary school, we celebrated half-birthdays if you were born in the summer.
Happy Birthday! 29 was a great year for me and I hope it is for you as well.
What would you say is an absolute must do for a visitor to New York and a visitor to Dallas?
A: In New York, I’d say don’t miss Central Park. Sit down on a bench and watch people for a while. New York has some innnnnteresting people. As for Dallas, I really can’t say – I haven’t discovered anything here that’s really only found here. You know?
Happy Birthday! I totally feel you on the clinique air kiss, great choice, one of my favorites.
My questions: Would you ever not date someone because you didn’t like their name?
A: Sure. I’d just give him a new name. And he’d like it, dammit.
¡feliz cumpleaños!
Where do you see yourself 10 years from now? And, speaking of 10 years, did you go to your 10 year High School reunion? I’m debating about if I should go to mine.
A: I have no idea. I try not to think that far ahead. And yes, I did. See October 2006. I had a great time.
So, you speak Spanish, yes? Any other languages? If you could wake up tomorrow morning and fluently speak any language in the world, what would it be, and why?
A: Yes, and my French is good enough to not be a complete mess in France and Morocco, though I’d never say I spoke it. I’d love to speak Italian, if only for being able to step out of the room while I’m watching Italian foreign films.
Happy birthday!
Okay, here’s the serious question. Have you had an easy time of making good girlfriends since you moved? If so, how? I also moved from NYC and left a ton of wonderful people behind… and have had a harder time than expected finding good ones in my new city.
And now, if I may, a more-fun question: what’s your favorite indulgence (dessert, way to spend an afternoon, song to dance around naked to, etc)?
A: I went to high school here, so I had the good fortune of being able to pick up with friends from back then. It is hard to meet new people, I agree. And my favorite indulgence is buying plane tickets.
Well… it is a little ironic that such an opportunity should arise to ask you the question that I was considering just last night. I have recently met someone that kind of blows me away… and makes me apprehensive at the same time (in some ways he reminds me a lot of your J). Anyways, knowing how you feel about giving/getting advice, I will not ask you what I should do. But I do wonder, do you ever regret the time that you spent with J? Would you have done things differently if you’d known how they would turn out?
A: I would have done things differently, that’s for sure. But I also don’t regret any of it. Make sense? I was 22, though. You can do obviously-stupid **** at 22 and recover.
I’m not sure if this is a question or more of an exhausted stream of consciousness based on the fact that you said you hate the word “irregardless” and I’m severely past my bedtime (yeah…at 11:30 at night). Now one of my biggest pet peeves is the misuse of language…so…gah…but have you ever heard Tom Brady use it? It’s the worst…for me…as a Pats fan…anyway. Really, the real question is…do you see yourself as a take life by the reins type of girl? I myself am a super aggressive going after everything and grabbing every opportunity type…and yet somehow I find it impossible to be in a relationship. I often wonder if they’re inter-related at all.
A: I am not aggressive. I am not competitive or ambitious. But when it comes to running my life, I’m assertive, I do what I want and I’m pretty gutsy. Who knows how that’s related. I resent the idea of relationships with people who take the wind out of my sails. And that happens more than I care to admit.
Happy Birthday!
I was wondering what your favorite quotes are?
A: Ooh, this is going to make me sound like a jerk, but I’m not a fan of inspirational quotes. For so many reasons. Where other people might tape a Winston Churchill quote to their fridge, mine says, “Don’t forget your lunch, dammit.”
I just moved to a new city, new job, etc., right around the time you made the trek to Texas. How do you adjust to a new place? And what’s a good way to meet new (not creepy) people (boys)?
A: Hmmm…well, I think the last few weeks of blog posts cover that one. You’ll see I’ve resorted to online dating. Heh.
3 birthday gifts but you may choose only one. Which one do you pick & why?
1. Coffee & dessert with Mark Twain.
2. Sunday drive with John Lennon.
3. Walk in the park with Bob Hope.
A: Hmmm… none of those sound all that intriguing to me. I’d definitely go people watching with Twain, though.
Hi Fish!
I know of your fondness for Pride and Prejudice, but what are you favorite “rainy-day-under-a-blanket” type movies?
Oh… and here’s to kicking 29′s ass!
A: Much Ado About Nothing, Down with Love and Steel Magnolias. Also, I could watch Zoolander over and over and over.
Since we’re diverting Jane Austen style here…
Q: Which character of Austen’s do you see yourself most in, if any? Personally, I think I’m an Emma, although I think most would call me out as an Elizabeth Bennett.
PS: Thank you for writing such an entertaining and REAL blog. It is truly a pleasure to read. Oh, and Happy Birthday!
A: Hmmm… I’m probably more of an Eleanor Dashwood. Though, of course, I’d much rather be a Lizzie Bennett.
Best birthday as a child?
Best birthday as an adult?
And a very happy birthday week to you, Fish!
A: Best as a child probably involved a tent in the backyard and a sleep over. But I don’t really remember my birthdays – and that’s saying a lot. I have a pretty freakish memory. Best as an adult would have been any birthday in New York. My friends there sure do know how to make a birthday kickass.
irregardless. lmao. I really hate that too! Mutual disdain for the “process” of dating as well…but damn if it isn’t a means to an “end”…so to speak.
I have luv the blog since I found it and I honestly think your writing gets better and better with each post. Fab-u-lous.
My Q…
As a writer, are you ever reluctant or do you often rewrite and edit, edit, edit parts of your life experience in writing that are not quite ready for public consumption? I am aware that you often let a lot of time pass or change the names to protect the not-so-innocent…but is it a challenge to be true to the experience but retain some element of privacy sometimes?
A: Yes, yes, yes. The balance between truth and privacy is a challenge, but you know, I don’t feel I owe anyone the whole truth. Everything you see here is true, there just is often more to the story that I keep for myself. However, my biggest worry always is that I will hurt or worry my family by sharing too much.
Do you ever wonder about your time table you have set out when you were younger? Or are you one to have never set time lines? I was out with a friend and we were talking about that, and she did have plans but have long given up.
Ooo… Can I ask another question? Is marriage really all that important from your perspective? What if it is a one of them “common law” marriages?
Happy birthday! I’m 29, and I swear I’m having the best time of my life yet! =)
A: Nice question! Well, first of all I was raised Mormon. So it never, ever crossed my mind that I’d reach 29 and not be married with children. But no, I don’t really think about that anymore. Or if I do, I consider all the things I couldn’t have done if that had been my life. And no. Marriage is not that important to me. Commitment is, but I don’t see marriage as the be-all-end-all of a happy relationship.
Happy Birthday! With your coming trip, I am given to wonder what other destinations you have on your short list to visit?
A: Prague is still on that list. I’d planned to spend a month there in October, but financially, it’s probably not going to work out. I’ll have to save my pennies and go in the spring instead. Then Italy. Then the Greek islands.
Hi Fish…
I have relatives in both Dallas/Fort Worth
and Austin, and used to live in Austin.
Have you ever considered moving to the
Austin area ?
A: Yes, I thought about it. But in the end, it wasn’t what I chose.
Happy returns of the birthday to you.
I came here to link your Camel toe post and found you are almost grown up now, but I will ask a question.
Do your travel plans include Africa?
Happy returns on your birthday.
I came here to link your Camel Toe post (done,did), only to find that you are almost getting grown up.
Does your travel plans include Africa?
A: One day. It’s not at the top of my list, but I would really like to trek the Namibian dessert, for one thing.
Happy Birthday! Go out and get drunk and make a fool out of yourself! You can get away with it since you’re still in your 20′s.
Q. Would you be with someone who wasn’t as smart as you?
A: That’s a really good question. I don’t want to be, but that’s one of the hardest things to find. Not that I’m any Einstein, but I’m a pretty smart cookie and I don’t often meet a man that keeps me on my toes.
In case this isn’t over:
Do you ever get bored of Stabler having the SAME anger issues week after week? Or do you watch with the sound off? [grin]
A: At least he’s consistent. I just like that he’s very unapologetically testosterony.
One more: Is there anyone famous you would like to be able to influence? (like whispers in the ear from behind the throne-type-deal)
A: No way, Jose. I’m not an interferer. People make their choices and I want no part of that. I have enough on my plate making my OWN decisions.
Sorry, last one (should have included it with the second one): Do you have any desire to be famous (or more famous than you are)? Have you found fame to be more disagreeable or agreeable?
A: No, I don’t. I’d like to write a book, and I’d love for people to read it. But frankly, I’d rather ten people read it and had strong feelings about it than 100,000 people read it and not think about it ever again. So, it’s not fame I want. Ever.
Another question then based on some of your answers above Fish:
Would you actually like seeing two men fighting over you? AND would the winner even have a chance after the fight was over? I’m thinking I know your answer to this but you have been known to surprise me
A: Hell to the no. The moment a guy got meatheaded enough to think that fighting would either impress me or solve something, I’d be long gone.
HAPPY B-DAY! 29 was a good year, 30 was better.
What is your favorite pizza topping and can you even find a good pie in Texas? Nothin’ compares to NYC!
A: Pineapple. And no, I certainly haven’t yet.
Oh I just had to ask another one. The more I read your answers the more questions I have! I do know this one [question] comes from the fact that one of the blogs I wrote kept me afloat mentally during my son’s very stressful tour of duty in Iraq the first time.
Q: Has the actual writing of this blog given you more perspective over your choices in life and would you have done anything differently because of how you looked at it when you wrote it out?
A: Absolutely. However, I’m not one for regret. So instead of the new perspective making me feel bad about what I did, it helps me to see how I could do it better the next time. Regret is a waste of time.
Thanks for doing the Q&As btw … I love them as much as I love reading your blog daily!
Happy Birthday Week!!
Where is the best place you were ever taken on a first date?
A: A silver mine in Park City, Utah.
If you were giving a graduation speech to the class of 2008, what sage advice would you impart to them? Besides “wear sunscreen.”
A: Ugh. You have to know how I feel about advice. In my opinion, it’s either cheapened by handing it out to so many people or worse, unnecessary.
Your birthday is on Thursday. Thursday is now “Tell all Thursday”? Hmmm. Coincidence? I think not. Have a very Happy Birthday.
You grew up Mormon? I thought you grew up… Never mind my confusion. Between my last question and this morning, other questions popped in my head that kept me from snuggling with Honest Abe…
1) What workout routines and/or physical activities do you do to keep the fish beautiful?
A: Well, I dunno about beautiful. But lots of water.
2) Were you shocked and repulsed by the taste of water in Dallas after having moved away to New York for a while? Having lived in Kansas City, MO where municipal water has been ranked in the top three best tasting water for years in a row, I was shocked that water in Dallas tasted like sand whenever I flew there for client work.
A: Totally. I can’t stand the water here. It’s vile.
3) You’re very opinionated, and have mentioned that you are easily irritated. But how come you hardly (if ever) write anything about politics? Surely there must’ve been a politician to which you’re a constituent of who have really, really pissed you off at one time or another?
A: I HATE politics. I refuse to discuss them and I don’t care enough to get involved. Too much corruption and ignorance involved.
…to be continued. (Darn character limits!)
4) If you’re intimate with a guy, but don’t feel like doing the deed, would you tell him to just have his own fun while next to you in bed? This came up because I had an “argument” with a friend last night where I believed it’s not right for her to say no to sex because she’s tired, but will watch him play with himself.
A: Wait, it’s not okay to say you’re too tired for sex? I hope I’m misunderstanding you. Dude, I like sex a lot but if I am too tired for it, I’m not going to feel bad about saying so. No one wants to feel… guilted into sex!
5) Suppose you have a guy. Every time he spends the night over, his belly always itches from petting Sir Hal on his lap. Despite the fact it gets pretty bad often, he still comes over. After testing positive against cat allergy and he still continues to come over and enjoy your company and Sir Hal. Will you ever kick him out of bed because he sneezes or sniffles too much while sleeping? Would you write him off instantly as “incompatible,” even though he began taking prescribed pills and continue befriending Sir Hal?
A: No.
Happy Birthday, Fish!
Q: We don’t hear about Goldner anymore. What happened there? Where has he been? Do you still keep in touch?
A: What do you mean, What happened there? I moved to Dallas, plain and simple. We don’t much meet for Sushi anymore, considering the distance.
Happy Birthday Week, Fish!
I seem to get happier as the years go by, so I am looking forward to my thirties.
My question: Do you have any relationship dealbreakers?
A: Of course. I won’t date anyone who is rude to waiters/waitresses. Anyone in a service industry, actually.
Favorite movie line. Go.
One of my many: Buzz, your girlfriend!! Woof!
A: They’re breakdance fighting.
So people have mentioned meet-ups in other places if you happen to visit, but have you done one in Dallas yet? and if not, when are ya gonna get it on the calendar?
Have a great birthday!
A: Nope; nobody’s asked for one.
q: do you know why goldner hasn’t posted a question on here yet? or has he, and i missed it? because i find him equally as funny as (even a bit more than…sorry!) mike the commenter!
A: No idea.
Happy Birthday, Fish!
What’s your last meal?
A: Oh, crap. I was convicted?
well, now, someone in dallas is asking for one. ya wanna?
A: Sure. When and where?
Ugh. Did he really knock up the intern?
A: Yes.
ps: Seattle? Hell yes. I must do.
What can I say, I’m a little biased….
Happy Birthday in 2 days and 11 1/2 hours!
What ever you do, no repeats of last year’s gazpacho incident. Lots of love!
A: Ha! No kidding! If you end up with my brother in the emergency room this year, it will not be my fault!
*A must do*
I’ve already done…heh, heh
Okay good! Because every local Dallas citizen thought their water tasted fine and didn’t think it was sandy. They actually thought I was crazy and trying to insult them.
No, no, no… You misunderstood. It’s totally okay to say you’re tired if you’re tired. The point I was trying to make is that she was tired and needed to go to sleep, but will stay awake (!) and watch the single-man-action. What gives? I hope I cleared myself, cos I would never guilt anyone into sex. I don’t count a last-ditch effort to get a girl in the mood guilting. =)
A: Tired doesn’t mean she needs to go to sleep, it just might mean she doesn’t have the energy to have sex. I don’t see anything wrong with watchin.
Around what time did you come to Chicago? Besides winter time, it is a great city with rather decent climate. I had a client in NYC, and I flew there during winter only. I thought the winters were about the same there as here. But that didn’t deter me from training at Central Park for the Rock n Roll Marathon months later.
Ever think of coming up to Canada? We sure are nice up here eh…
A: I’ve been to Canada before. But it is a wee bit out of my way.
Did you and Stephanie date the Wagner guy at the same time or what’s the scoop? I read something on her blog, but not much?
A: No more Wagner questions, please. It’s a closed chapter. If you want answers, you can always go back and read old material, but I’m done with it.
Question, and I hope this doesn’t offend you…since you are having trouble finding a male to date, would you ever consider dating a female?
A: That’s not offensive, but simply, I’m not attracted to females. I mean, not beyond admiring their beauty and being jealous of their tiny tushies or nice racks.
Forgive me if I repeat, because I’m not about to sit through 136 comments to read all the questions so far. It’s been a long day.
Q: Have you ever regretted (I mean ultimately) breaking up with someone or being broken up with by a certain someone?
A: It’s been a long day for me, too. You’re gonna have to dig through the other comments. It’s been asked at least twice.
Happy Birthday! Here is my question: Has anyone that you have blogged about ever read it and gotten offended???
A: Yup. Not good.
You’ve got a good point on that. We never clarified that in our “debate,” because it was focused around “tired, needing to sleep because of work” kind of tired.
What do you think your life would be like if you had never started a blog?
A: I have no way of knowing. However, I think things that are meant to happen find a way of happening.
Ever done anything just because it would make good blog-fodder? Better yet, dated someone bad just for the stories that would inevitably result?
A: Absolutely.
Hi Fish,
Happy Birthday. I hope your first Birthday in Texas is great. Here’s my question–what percent of the comments do you receive that you appreciate/respect, and what percent do you find annoying/stupid/disrespectful? (Feel free to revise the categories!)
A: um, I don’t really know. I appreciate most — the vast majority — of comments. I am, however, amazed at how ignorant some can be.
Ok so I finally thought of something to ask you. I hope my questions aren’t redundant!
Q: Where did you go to college and do you ever think of going back?
A: Brigham Young University. And no, never.
Q: I backtracked a great deal and noticed your family experienced some turmoil. Any advice on how to cope with that, especially when you feel in the middle and completely helpless?
A: Keeping a sense of humor is about the only thing that helped.
Thanks and I really love reading your blog!!! Keep up the good work =P
Happy birthday!!
Here’s my question: where were you and how old were you when you received your best kiss to date?
A: December 2006, standing outside my mom’s apartment.
Fish, what is your stand about dating a married guy? Say the guy has been married for six years. But he married the girl not out of love but of obligation cause he got the girl pregnant. Does that situation make the extra marital affair less wrong..? Thanks..
A: Never, ever, ever would I consider flirting with, much less dating a man I knew was married. Period.
Happy birthday from one Cancer to another – mine’s Friday. I have only recently discovered your blog and am greatly enjoying reading through your life! My question – Seinfeld or Friends?
A: Friends. I don’t have much patience for Seinfeld. I have to be in the right mood for that silliness.
This comment really has nothing to do with the current entry, but I just had to say that I would really love to have you for coffee at the bait shop here where I live. Yes, I have coffee in the morning at a bait and party store and other than the occasional walk-in, I’m the only female to join in the “Coffee Clutch”. I really enjoy my mornings there, but a little extra girl power such as yours would be a dream hehe.
A: Ha! That sounds awesome. I haven’t even been in a bait shop since I was twelve. You know, nightcrawlers and such.
Happy birthday, Fish!
You and I share a very common “hot-button issue”: poor grammar. What is the commonly misspelled or misused word/phrase that annoys you the most?
Mine is using “I” and “me” paired with another noun incorrectly. (Hint, if the sentence sounds correct when removing the other person’s name by using “I” or “me” then that’s usually the right way. As in: “This is a picture of Fish and me” is correct because if I removed “Fish” it would still be right.
I just realized I’m a total jerk (and geek)…but a long time reader and fan of your writing.
Hope you have a GREAT 2-9!!!
A: You know what makes my eyes burn with righteous anger? When people write emails or comments using text-speak. Like it’s SO VERY HARD to spell out the word “you”? Lord save us.
Q: Have there been any promising developments with the internet dating foray?
A: Too soon!
I have to ask.. some old archives of yours, re-reading old posts (by the way, I love your writing! I check your blog daily) and I have to ask… what ever happened after drink with Rob the 3some guy??
A: See above. I already answered that one
Am I too young to be in love?
Am I too young to be reading THIS?
I am 17.
A: No, and no. So long as you can understand all the words, you’re not too young. And it’s best to be in love when you’re young; that way your expectations aren’t too high.
Happy, happy birthday! Thank you so much for giving me years of entertainment and food-for-thought. (And my thisfish t-shirt still gets interesting reactions!) Wish I could still buy you a martini via the link on the site to celebrate 29!
1. Are there any archives with your voice? I didn’t want to bother you, but am having trouble searching. I keep thinking NPR, but wonder if I’m just confused.
A: Yeah, I think there’s a link to the NPR show I did on the About Me page.
2. Any chance of coming back to Idaho?
A: Actually, I think my mom has designs on moving there one day. I’m sure I’d be expected to visit.
3. Did your friends freak out when they heard about the rabbits? When I sent mine the link, saying, “See, we did this, too” they freaked the hell out.
A: No, I think nothing I say surprises them. I mean, I’m the girl who had a pet raccoon. It doesn’t get much stranger.
Have an amazing week!
Happy birthday. Ure A cancerian no wonder i like u. Ive been a silent reader for a while now and i must say i do enjoy ur blog immensely.
My question.
Did u loose a twin who was perhaps born 3 yrs too late and umm in oct? cos i could share some J stories. And i write , just not bold enough to have a blog like u. *pat on ur back*
A: Uh, if we were twins and we share the same J stories, that’d just be sick. And he’d be a rat bastard.
From your experience, do you think that men and women can just be friends?
A: Yeah, I do. I recognize that sometimes one or the other will have an unreturned physical attraction and that can make things awkward, but it doesn’t mean the friendship is doomed.
Hi Fish, Happy Birthday! (I really think cancer girls make the best moms (I have one for myself))
My question is: what is the corniest/cheesiest line you’ve ever heard of?
Have a great b’day!!
A: ANY line will get a ball-shrinking look from me. But most recently, I got an email from some dude introducing himself and saying that he was “to [sic} sexy for his pants.” Vom.
If this isn’t too personal to ask… what made you move away from your mormon upbringing? You went to BYU, so am assuming you spent quite a bit of your life in the church.
A: I wrote about it here.
Happy birthdayyyyyy!!
my question is would you ever go back to school? like masters phd whatnot
if soo why or why not ooh and where
hopefully around boston!
much love,
A
A: I thought about it once. And then I realized I’d actually have to go back to school and pay a hell of a lot for it. Nah, I don’t think that’s in the cards.
You mentioned possibly considering IVF at a certain age. Would you prefer the dad to be someone you know (G, Mike the commenter?) or someone you didn’t?
A: oh, well, I didn’t mention IVF – that’s awfully invasive. But artificial insemination is more an option I’d consider. Sure, I’d consider someone I knew. I’d have Biscuit’s baby (he’s so handsome and smart!) in a heartbeat.
How often do you hang out with your family now that you are in Dallas?
A: Every week.
Have you had, or would you consider, plastic surgery? If so, one what?
What are you physically most self-conscious about?
A: No, I haven’t and no, I most likely will not. And the HELL if you think I’m telling you that. It’s never a good idea to let the masses know what you’re self-conscious about. Why point it out? They’re cruel enough without being given a cheat sheet.
How old is too old for you on the dating scene? How young is too young?
A: 36 or 37 is the oldest I would consider. I get a lot of emails from men who are in their mid-forties (they were graduating from high school before I’d graduated to Gerber!) and I just wonder what they think we could possibly have in common. Also, pretty sure my father doesn’t need any more golf buddies, dude.
And the youngest would be my own age or there about.
How many pairs of shoes do you own and what was the most expensive pair?
Favorite piece of jewelry you own?
What do you think of Houston? Do you ever come here?
A: I don’t really own “jewelry,” but I did inherit this ridiculously lovely antique watch with about a bazillion diamonds. Too scared to wear it, but it sho is purdy. I own… I dunno, maybe 50 or so pairs of shoes. And I’ve never paid over $150 for any piece of footwear. Winter boots would be the most expensive.
Never been to Houston…
Whatever happened to that online dating start up you were working on?
A: It’s still being worked on. I had no idea it would take this long, but it’s being built and will launch in September.
What’s your poison?
A: Grey Goose & tonic.
You obviously enjoy travelling, but what kind of traveler are you…a planner or do you just wing it? I am about to take a trip and have a binder complete with tabs, printouts of times things are open, maps, etc. It’s kind of sick, actually.
A: I’m somewhere in between. I like to know where I’m going to stay, and how to get there. I like to know what there is all to do and see where I’m going so that I can choose (and not feel like I missed something because I was ignorant). But mostly, I’m there to eat the food, enjoy the people, make memories. You can do that without an itinerary. Which, I think, is my mother’s favorite word. Itinerary.
Because you’re a strong individual, but also (I think) a hopeful romantic I’d enjoy hearing your thoughts on the following:
Do you think that each individual must know what their needs are and bring those to the interaction to see if combination/coexistence/mutual encouragement can be achieved? Or do you think it’s possible for a couple to collaborate in creating a shared life while still discovering/fulfilling the individuals’ needs without compromise?
Happy Birthday!
A: Well, because relationship happen regardless of the practical matters – because chemistry is unpredictable and so compelling – I think the the latter is possible if not ultimately the way the vast majority of relationships work.
What’s your favorite place you’ve traveled to and why? And yes, you have to pick one
A: Spain. Always Spain and for as many reasons as you can love a place.
And another, if you’re still answering and not out celebrating yet!
Guilty pleasures, besides Charles Ingalls? Mmm, Michael Landon…
A: See somewhere above. I answered that one
If an unprovoked friend is rude to you, do you blow it off and not speak to them, or do you let them know you’re pissed and bitch them out for being an ass?
A: I’ve gotten pretty direct in my old age. But I’m not one to “bitch out.” I do, however, let people know when they’ve crossed the line.
Happy Birthday Fish!
I must take this opportunity to bug you about the fishy shirts. What ever happened with them? I’d love to ‘represent’ in the Baltimore area!
A: I sent the logo to people interested in designing it and never heard back. I don’t have the time or the patience to do it myself, but maybe one day!
It has been my experience that single womyn tend to get bitter and sceptical about romance after they turn 30. Do you think that you are heading that way?
A:No. I’m not skeptical about romance. I’m slightly skeptical about people, in general. But that’s got nothing to do with age. I was born cynical.
And by the way, it’s been my experience that men tend to call women bitter when they stop buying into their bull****. Just saying.
how did sir hal get his name?
A: His full name is Sir Halitosis Maximus, the Grand Duke of Bad Breath.
That ought to cover the explanation.
Happy Birthday!
Who did you kiss in December 2006 standing outside your mom’s apartment?
A: A minister.
woman or womyn?
A: Right?? That’s where the whole, crushing people’s throats with my mind would have come in handy. Jeez.
Which dating site are you trying out? I’ve met some great women on Match.com, and I hear Yahoo personals is good, though I’ve never tried it.
A: Not telling.
What are the best and worst things about working from home?
A: Not setting an alarm would be the best part of it. And not having people to goof around with is the worst.
Ever been recognized in public by a reader? Would that be awesome or creepy? Would/Did it change your mind about putting your picture up here?
A: Yes, I have. It wasn’t creepy at all.
Happy birthday. I hope its the best year ever – until next year comes around and beats it. I’m so glad to hear you say you like yourself more now than when you were younger. All women should feel that way.
Q: What question do you wish someone would ask you?
Hey Fish, Happy Birthday!! I love reading your blog. I really admire the way you write and I have always wanted to write a book as well so I wish you the best of luck in that! i know you will pull out something great. OK, onto my Q’s..
Q: I know this is pretty broad but is there any one big lesson you have learned from dating and relationships?
A: Do what you feel.
Q: What do you feel is the basis to any great relationship? I think I would go with friendship or trust.. just wondering what your thoughts were.
A: Managed expectations.
Thanks and enjoy the 2-9!
What do you and don’t you like about Dallas and living in Dallas? (Hope no one asked that already.)
A: I think that’s been covered!
You mentioned olive oil as a beauty secret, and there was a post a little while back about it relieving itching – but may I ask how else you use it?
A: As a face moisturizer (for nighttime), as a hair treatment, and allll over my body after being out in the sun.
No Question,
Just a
Happy Birthday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
What’s the first word that comes to your mind when you hear the following: 1) Ari 2) Sisters 3) Hollywood 4) J.K. Rowling 5) Tears
Happy happy birthday! Have a great one!
Wow, it was the first question asked. I suck.
No question, just a HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!
Hope it’s a good one.
Is the minister no longer available for kissing? Or is dating him just not an option?
A: Now you’re just being nosy.
Happy Birthday! After a particularly bad day (or date), do you reach for the ice cream or the cross trainers?
Thanks for keeping me occupied at work. You are a fabulous writer. May your 29th year be more inspiring than ever!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
Have a wonderful Birthday!!!
Happy Birthday & may the rest of your life be the BEST of your life!!!
A “just wondering question” … on your Links section in the sidebar … Whirlygurly … I believe the two of you worked together when you first moved to NYC. She wasn’t sounding so good in her blog for quite a while & now the site looks like it’s a whole different person. Any idea what’s happened & if she’s ok?
A: She’s fine, I think she may have abandoned her blog for a new one.
Happy Birthday Fish! May your 29th year be the best one yet!
I haven’t taken the time to think of a valid (or appropriate) question but it is your birthday… so, Happy Birthday!
Happy 2-9 Fish! Hope it was a great one!
q: since living in dallas (or maybe even before), do you listen to kidd kraddick on the radio? i love that show!
A: Totally! I loved Kidd. He was a nice family man.
Happy Birthday!
No question…just wanted to wish you a Happy 29th. 30s are fantastic…loved mine much more than my 20s…you have something to look forward to!
Happy Birthday!!! Hope you have a great day.
Hi.. I’m like really really new here..
Been reading ur blog since 2 days ago and have’nt read as much for any of my exams ever!
Anyway, Happy b’day!
Happy Birthday Fish!! Live, Love, Laugh….your way through the day! Enjoy!
Wht song do you listen to when you’re feelin low?
A: The Carpenters. Man, if you’re gonna cry, might as well cry to that.
What is the secret of a happy life? (philosophical eh – I couldn’t bring myself to ask a personal question…)
Happy birthday – you are so wise for 29…I’m 36 this year.
A: Not worrying about **** you can’t control. If it’s not the secret, it sure helps.
Happy birthday!
HAPPY 29TH BIRTHDAY FISH!!
Happy Birthday!
Hope 29 is your best year, yet! Enjoy the celebration!
happy, happy birthday. I really enjoy your blog. hope you have a great day!
I just finished reading your blog today starting with July 2002. It took a while and love, love, love your stories. When I was 29 I had my son; it was an amazing time. Have an awesome Birthday !!!!
Fish and dooce both having birthdays in the same day! How lucky for us!
Happy birthday, hope its a great one!
Happy Birthday! Wishing that life will treat you kind and that you’ll have more happy memories to blog about.
Happy Birthday Fish! I thoroughly second a Dallas meet and greet! Since you like the Gingerman, you could have it there… or any of the other 100 bars/restaurants in the metroplex. You say when and where and I’ll bet you’d have loads of Fish fans there!
Hi Fish! Do you read Harry Potter? Happy Birthday!
A: I sure do! Looking forward to getting my hands on the last one.
Happy 2-9!!!!
I just realized the strange and brilliant similiarities between you and Dooce: you share the same birthday, name, alma mater, profession and even religious upbringing, which you both later renounced. Craziness. I’m thinking maybe you were both partners in crime in another life!
Happy Birthday! Do you read the Go Fug Yourself website? Have fun tonight!
Hi Fish,
Been a long time away from the blog, so can you direct me to the Archives where you decided to leave Manhattan? Curious.
Your Camel Toe sign is The Standard.
Happy Birthday! Hope you’ve had a grand day.
Happy Birthday…
Got two questions
Do you have a favorite vlog/youtuber…
Why don’t white girls go for Asian men?
So, how was the big birthday bash?
Happy Birthday from a long time reader, not so often (read: NEVER)commenter!
My Question (At least I don’t think it’s been asked, but I can’t remember what’s back up there at the top): What’s the one book you could read over and over again?
A: In my old age, I’ve stopped rereading books. There are just way too many to get through!
I hope you had a great birthday! Kind of a random question, but since you spent a good amount of time in NY, can you recommend a good, clean, affordable wax place?
Thanks!
A: I went to Dramatics on 5th Avenue and 16th Street. But really, only because it was near work. But it is clean and she does an excellent job.
Happy birthday Heather! When you make it down under to Melbourne, Australia at some point, first rounds on me.
My question to you, is this.
What’s your favourite icecream flavour?
A: Vanilla. Isn’t that boring? But give me some vanilla bean ice cream and I’m pretty happy. Until it’s gone.
Okay, this one is kind of random and I’m asking it because all of my other questions have already been asked (and plus I just finished watching her show.)
What do you think of Kathy Griffin (Have you ever even heard of her?)?.
A: Loves. LOVES Kathy Griffin. She’s just the right amount of mean and funny.
Do you take the time to answer all your questions, or just the ones you think are funny?
A: I straight up delete the ones that I find annoying or rude. And after that I answered as many as I could. 200 is a lot of damn questions and it got rather tiring.
Don’t think I didn’t notice that your comment fell into the “rude” category, btw.
Just found out the guy that I have been seeing for 3 years, has been living with someone. Long story short every word he said to me was a lie. Should I confront him or tell her, he is doing the same thing to her as he did to me. He has no idea that I know. I just cant let him get away with it. I dont want to hurt her, she is not the culprit, but I would want to know. He lives in HER house, which he says is his, but he cant have me over because of his daughter. (how stupid am I) He stayed over nite @ my place constantly. Where does he say he is? I am more mad than hurt, but cannot just let him play me for a fool. What do i do?????????????
I am, like you, solo-ing it (very contentedly) in an apartment. I just found out that I have the go-ahead for a kitty, and I was wondering how you and Sir Hal make it work, what with balancing work and so on. Is he an indoor kitty all the time? And what do you do when you go on vacation?