Today might be the busiest day at work in a long time. Which is good because it keeps a girl’s mind off Bad Things and instead on Printer Jam Things and WTF Font Is This? Things. But I can’t go another minute – no matter how it takes away from GAH! InDesign Things – without telling you how most sincerely grateful I am to you all for your kindness and your unbelievable generosity. There just are not enough words for how I feel right now.
I have been absolutely filled to the brim with hate and anger for those who robbed us yesterday - and absolutely uncomfortable feeling that way – but then came this amazing outpouring that you’ve shown me, this ability to rally and be a community and family for someone you’ve never met, and it’s pushing all those bitter things right back down.
I’m having a very hard time with the knowledge that strangers dug through my drawers, that they carted our belongings away in my down comforter (who steals bedding?), ripped cords out of walls, upended anything that got in their way and that they will never, ever consider the devastation that they caused. I didn’t sleep last night. I probably won’t sleep tonight. I don’t feel safe and that’s not in my control.
They stole wedding gifts and Christmas gifts and the police tell us that even if they can find them at pawn shops, the likelihood is slim to none that our possessions will ever be returned to us. In the end, yes, it is just ‘stuff’ and as hard as I could try to remain as unattached to that ‘stuff,’ as un-materialistic as I can try to be, it feels so insulting and so belittling to be parted with it involuntarily.
To answer many inquiries, yes we have renter’s insurance and the Boy has been wading through that murky mess, as well as keeping up with the detectives and such who are involved in the case. I have no idea what the outcome will be, but I am glad my meticulous, meticulous man has kept serial numbers and receipts and records just like a good little information hoarder.
To answer as many others, Hal is perfectly fine – he seems to have spent the adventure underbed and did not make a break for it when our front door was rendered into nothing more than a splintery gap betwixt two walls. The loss of that furry pain in the ass would have been unimaginable.
Again, thank you over and over. For so much kindness and support when it is most needed and appreciated. And even if you expressly forbid it, you’ll probably still get a real, in the mail thank you note because… well, that is just how it’s done here.
Damn. I just caught up on my Reader. So sorry to hear, Fish.
And as soon you wrote about the door, I gasped, “HAL!” I’m happy to hear he (and you and the Boy) are all safe. My thoughts are with you, lady.
The pleasure your blog has given me over the past couple years is priceless… a few bucks to help out my favorite (and to be honest – only) blogger is chump change! Sounds like even if you’re not ready to buy, a move to a non-apartment setting would increase your feelings of being safe in a massive way!
Fish, sometimes busy days at work are a good thing, even if the business is doing annoying things. I feel for you that you’ve been robbed, that is one of the things that I dread happening to me. I hope this doesn’t deter you from considering that apparently precious house you mentioned earlier, in fact, it might be even more the reason to consider it as Carrie Boo said. I am so very glad you are all ok, even though it must suck terribly to feel violated and have all your stuff missing and place in disarray. *shudder* Pet the Sir Hal while drinking a glass of wine when you get home tonight!
I’m so glad to hear that your faithful readers are rallying for you. I hope that this process is as painless as can be possible for you guys.
Apparently, stealing bedding while robbing a house is the “in” thing to do. The dirt-bags that robbed us used a brand new white pillow case to carry our stuff away. Every time I put the white sheets on the bed I frantically search for the missing pillowcase then realize, oh……
Unfortunately, I know just how you feel. It will get better, I promise.
I am so stunned! I can’t imagine what you are going through. I remember how violated I felt when catfood was stolen off our front porch about 10 yrs and a different house ago. I wish I could loan you our wonderful German Shepherd who is so very loving but would keep bad guys away.Sending hugs from Ohio.
Is it bad to say that the smart@$$ in me visualized the scritchy scratchy creepy thing in your duct work making the worthless dirtbags scream like girls?
I’m so sorry! Having just lost our house and belongings in a fire I understand the urge to keep telling yourself that its “just stuff”. But it was your stuff and I fully support grieving it, if even for a little while.
I wish you all my positive vibes in getting your zzz’s back, I know the feeling.
Yeah, they took all of my stuff away in my down comforter as well. It’s mean, violating, and scary, and I hope you feel better and safe again soon. <3
I’m sorry. I can understand if you don’t want to publish your address here for all the world, but I have a bed bath and beyond gift card for $25 (I know it isn’t much) that I would like to send you… Please email me. I could give you the numbers off of it so you could use it online…
Just read your previous post, I’m so sorry! I completely understand the intense anger when something like this happens. When I was a victim of a much smaller theft, I felt lost and violated. Its one of those things that you hear about but never really expect to happen to you. I’m glad you guys are moving forward and it sounds like you are doing everything right.. time will heal & I too will be sending you positive energy!
Oh no. Someone stole your comments. Basstards!
Um, what?
Sorry. I thought this thread had about 100 comments yesterday, but it seems it is the one right below. Please pardon me.
Ha! okay, I thought I just didn’t *get* something!
well thank fucking god for renter’s insurance if nothing else.. sigh. that really sucks.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and the Boy during this difficult time. Thank goodness for the blessings of being meticulous and a chicken little kitty who stayed out of harm’s way.
My hopes for a speedy recovery for you and that you will be able to sleep again at some point.
Many blessings and prayers to you both that this is the worst you have to face together.
Dear Heather, I am so sorry. I have loved reading your blog and it was a shock yesterday to read what happened.It felt as if it happened to a friend. I had no words then, because everything felt inadequate. But still, I would really like to say that I am sorry. I am glad sir Hal is ok and I hope it will get better for you too. I wish you all the best.
I am SO glad to hear Sir Hal is ok. My cat hid under the bed also when our house was robbed a few years ago (coincidentally only a few weeks before our wedding also and they got ALL the wedding gifts – even the ones still wrapped and waiting for the actual day) and he was the FIRST thing I worried about when I got the call from my (now) husband letting me know about the break in. Everything can be handled so long as you have the guy and the cat… Sending good thoughts your way darlin – hope you are able to sleep (better? well?) just sleep tonight. Hugs!
Heather, I am so sorry to hear about all of this but glad that the three of you are doing ok. I have read your blog for a couple of years and you are an amazing woman! I’m sure you guys will get through this just fine but know how unsettling this would be. I’m sorry I couldn’t help more BUT I do live in Dallas so if you need anything feel free to email me and I will do what I can. Just know that whoever did this to you will get theirs in the end because that little lady we call Karma is a you-know-what…
I am so sorry! Sucky, stupid asshat robbers, to say the least. I am so glad your kitty stayed home and is fine.
Wow, I am getting caught up here too. Sorry you were robbed like this. Have there been other thefts in your neighborhood? I hope they catch the b*st*rds who did this to you.
Heather…I am so sorry! I’m going to leave it at that.
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Oh I’ve just caught up I”m so so sorry what a dreadful thing to happen! Big virtual hugs from down under!
Fish, I’m so sorry. I can relate – when I was 14 our home was broken into through my bedroom window, and you could see the guy’s footprint on my bed. Took me a while to feel safe there again. x
I am so sorry! I’m catching up on my blog reading so I am seeing the newest posts first in my Google reader. I know how horrible of a feeling robbery is. I hope you guys are OK soon.
Last year, my friend’s house was broken into and they stole everything (also stole bedding and used it to haul stuff away). One item my friend heavily grieved was her engagement ring, not just the monetary value, but sentimental as well. Months later, at some sorta jewelry sale, she found her ring! Crazy. She called her detective working the case, matters were taken care of, and she walked out with her ring. It was insane!
I know none of this makes a difference to you, but I guess I’m just hoping that somewhere down the road some silver lining is waiting for y’all.
So very sorry, but super happy ’bout the kitty